taking a bath or shower with ur kids do u agree or disagree?

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I never bathed with my boys (that's all I have, so no view on a mom/daughter thing) but I did bath the older boys together until they didn't fit in the tub anymore. But when I was a kid, my sister and I roamed freely in the bathroom while our Mom was in the tub. So I guess my personal opinion is moms and daughters, dads and sons. I wouldn't bath with my sons, just like I don't change in front of them. I DO nurse my 2-month-old in front of them, however. I guess it's all personal boundaries. If you (or the kids) start to feel 'not right', that's when it should stop.

Samantha - posted on 11/20/2009

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i have a 2 1/2 year old son and a 5 month old daughter! i thinks it fine for you to take a bath with your kids for as long as you are comfortable with it...i currently had to stop taking showers/baths with my 21/2 year old because he started to discover that we had different parts and i just didnt feel right anymore!!i felt as if he was too old!!but if your still ok with it then i dont see why not!!

Brandi - posted on 11/20/2009

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I think you can bathe or shower with your kids. I used to bathe with my daughter. When I had my son, It was just easier to put THEM both in the tub and I sat it out LOL. It saved me from having to do 2 baths each bath night. I tried alternating their bath nights (as neither of my kids get a bath EVERY night) but that was just exhausting. I was always cleaning someone. lol. So now i just do them both at the same time. Its quick its easy and the bathroom only gets messed up once :-))))

Ashley - posted on 11/20/2009

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of course its fine..their your kids. my husband did with our daughter and now if he does he just wears swim trunks or i do it and we both do with our son.

Paulina - posted on 11/20/2009

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i think it depends i wasnt confy with my boys in but my hubby did with the untill they turnerd 2

Morgan - posted on 11/20/2009

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Sometimes thats the only way for everyone to get clean in one day!!!!! Just pay attention to what they are noticing. I would say at a certain point it does become inappropriate.

Shanna - posted on 11/20/2009

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thanks to all it helps to kno im not doing anyting wrong im happy to kno others feel the same way i do

Kelly - posted on 11/20/2009

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I do it all the time, we actually bathed/showered with all of ours when they were little. We are fairly comfortable and open about the human body, for instance my boys were used to me breastfeeding their youngest sister when they were young teenagers, also my girls (3 and 7) are quite aware of what it means to have your period. They understand that it is blood that would be used to make a baby if there was one in my tummy. I think being open about these things makes it easier as they grow up. Not everyone is comfortable with so much openness, but if you are, then don't let anyone tell you it is wrong!

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i agree that its ok to take a bath with your child, i do it once a week, if the child was like seven i dont think its ok then but when there little there is nuthin wrong with it

Leighann - posted on 11/20/2009

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totally agree. it's all about simplicity. do what works for you and your family. there is nothing wrong with bathing (or showering) with your children. as long as everyone is happy and healthy!

Julie - posted on 11/20/2009

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I don't believe there is anything inappropriate about the human body. There does come a time when bathing with your children becomes uncomfortable but I don't think you are at that point yet. We have to find what works for us and it would be wonderful if we could have undisturbed time each day to shower and get ready but that doesn't always happen and sometimes we have to multitask. There really are no guidelines regarding this and you just have to use your best judgement and comfort level. :)

Lorna - posted on 11/20/2009

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Every parent is different. Every child is different. At a young age, it will not harm your child to be in the bath or shower with you. It saves money, and you can use it as a teaching moment to make sure they know where all their body parts are and how to wash them. When a child starts being uncomfortable or starts to fight you about taking a bath or shower with you because it makes them feel funny, that is the time to stop.

Jamie - posted on 11/20/2009

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I do/did it. My girls are 2 years and 7 months. The younger one always cried while I tried to give the older one a bath. I hated getting the infant tub out and do two seperate baths so I started by washing my older one real quick then me and the baby would hop in so I could bathe her. I started this at like 3 months I think. SInce then there has been no crying. SInce the baby can sit on her own now I have a bath seat and I out the both of them in at the same time.

I do feel there is an age to stop, but I think that is mostly when it gets past your comfort level.

Brittany - posted on 11/20/2009

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i think its fine. i have 2 boys (20 months and 5 months) and somedays the only way i can get a shower in before i have to leave is to get them in with me. there is a certain age where you should stop, but that probably depends on each individual child.

Erin - posted on 11/20/2009

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i disagree..i'm a bit disabled temporarily as well and find it's much easier to focus on one kid at a time then myself if i have time.

Jade - posted on 11/20/2009

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Like Jen, my daughter doesnt like the bath, only the shower so we are always in there with her, even my hsband has taken showers with her if i was sick or sleeping before h deployed and shes two and a half. I think its a personal decision as to when they or you feel uncomfortable about being in the tub together. Dont let anyone worry you about how old they are, ive know peple who have showred with their 5y olds and the kids are perfectly fine.

Jen - posted on 11/20/2009

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My son never wanted to sit down in a bath tub. He always saw me or his dad standing in the shower and wanted to be a big boy so one of us had to be in there with him so he wouldnt fall. I think it is perfectly fine to bath with your children, as far as the age and when to stop I think you will just have a feeling when you know its time to take bath time alone! Good luck to ya :))

Jocelyn - posted on 11/20/2009

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Of course it's ok! They are your kids! But you should stop when they start point and asking questions about your "different" body parts. Pretty soon they will be old enough to wash themselves ..with you right there in the bathroom watching of course! Good Luck!

Shanna - posted on 11/20/2009

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im disabled and its hard for me to reach over the tub and wash them and to save some money on water i get in wit my boys one is 2 years almost 3 and the other is 3 months like its easyer for me but i dont kno if its right u kno i washed wit my mom when i was kid and my sister so i dont see harm in it but then again i have boys not girls so is it ok or no ? and if it is what age should i stop?

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