these four walls are driving me crazy

Stephanie - posted on 01/23/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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im new to the stay at home mom thing have worked full time since i was 15...now my 6 month old and I stay home together all day...and i just found out im expecting another...i have only been a full time stay at home mom for the last wo months...but its all ready getting old...any ideas

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Bethany - posted on 01/25/2010

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oh, dude, already getting old? Try cloth nappies, try cooking your own dinner for baby and you, try cooking meals ahead of time and freezing them so you can have a night off, try going out to the park or shops or for a walk each afternoon, try learning baby sign language, try playing with blocks and cars, try looking at books, try going to the library, try looking at cook books and designing a menu for the week and then shopping for it and cooking ahead of time, try visiting an old people's home with bub, they'll love it, try walking around the yard and learning all the plant's names, try meeting up with another mum to sip coffee and watch the babies stare at each other, try sewing, try growing a little vege patch, I could go on, but I'm busy, and I only have one kid.



When I am feeling the walls closing in, I dress Charlotte up all cute and girlie and head to the shopping mall. All the compliments send me home feeling better, not to mention a little excersise walking up and down the malls.

Michelle - posted on 01/24/2010

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I had the same problem a few months after I started staying home and here's what I did--
First, I set up a strict routine for us to follow. Second, I made sure that (weather permitting) our routine included at least 30-60 minutes playing outside every day. Third, I set up a date night for my fiance and me to spend some time together, a mommy night where I go out and either do something by myself (for me the library, or a massage, or the coffee shop with my laptop, whatever is what you like to do for you) or for me to go out with my friends.
I think an important, vital part to being a stay at home mom is making sure that you're not only taking care of home and family, but also yourself. A lot of women forget about themselves, think we have to do EVERYTHING and do it perfectly.... that's not true!! SAHMs are still people lol....we make mistakes, we need our own time outs, and we need to do simple things like shower (lol you know what I'm talking about), spend time alone, and get spoiled once in a while.

Bottom line-- do what you have to do to make sure you're taken care of, and you'll be a better mother and wife, if not an overall better person. Not to sound like conceited or anything, but since I started that routine I've noticed a huge difference in not just my happiness, but that of those around me, and the atmosphere in my home. I just feel better, so I am better LOL

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Bethia - posted on 09/07/2010

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have you tried to watch movies with your 6 month old. or get on the floor the best you can and play with him or her. i know i go nuts sometimes being a stay at home mom but i always try to find things to do at home weahter it be writing poems, dishes, or reading. sometimes i even get on the social sites just so i have something to do to keep me busy.

Nancy - posted on 09/07/2010

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How about working from home and making some money so you can feel good about creating an income? It's a home based business that you don't have to leave home to build... It's about making money, not spending money for a home based business. If you had more money the walls wouldn't close in on you, you could do more, for more info email me at nancydelrossi@rcn.com

Kelli - posted on 09/05/2010

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i am a stay at home mom with four kids one who is 17 months and has a bone disease called osteogensis imperfecta which is brittle bones when i fell like the walls r closing in on me i take the stroller and go for a walk so that way my day is not always the same or i take all four of my kids to the park and let the older ones play

Paula - posted on 09/05/2010

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I wonder if 100 years ago mums felt the same???? doubt it because they had cows to milk, vegies to pick, bread to bake, clothes to scrub, floors to sweep, clothes to sew. Life back then was busy busy busy yet now we seem to have no time for ourselves despite all the modcons that make our life so much easier. As a stay at home mum I look at what I do have and what I can do and try to make everyday special by being grateful for the ability to be able to walk to the park, bake a cake, paint a picture, plant some flowers, read a book and of course play with my child. Life can be good we just have to believe.....

Stifler's - posted on 09/05/2010

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It's not for everyone. If you don't want to be a stay at home mum you don't have to, you can go back to work.

Kathryn - posted on 09/05/2010

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it gets like that, i have been a stay at home mum for nearly five years and ill let you know it doesnt get any better.but after saying that, try doing different activities. also think about doing a course through online or distance education. gives you some thing else to work on. well i hope this helps

Qihm - posted on 01/25/2010

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I am a stay at home mom, and we are a one car family and I moved 900 miles from my friends and family, so I know how you feel. I finally told my honey I need me time so once a week or so when he is off work, I get my son ready for daddy time. Change his diaper, feed him, get him occupied ect. what ever will make daddy time run more smoothly. Then I go have lunch somewhere just me or go shopping (window shopping or grocery shopping.) I just get out and do something away from baby and the house. I look forward to my outings and find it makes the week easier if I have something to look forward to. And sometimes I plan outings for william and me and I take my honey to work and pick him up so william and I can have the car and go to the park for the day.

Jennifer - posted on 01/24/2010

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I have a 4 month old and have worked for the last % yrs but my hubby wants me to stay home until he starts school. I really haven't been able to adjust to staying at home like you said these walls seem to get smaller everyday.I also have a 4 yr old and we try and play outside for at least 20 mins everyday...but it's seems to not be helping.

Stephanie - posted on 01/24/2010

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thank you all for you help...at least i know im not alone in my feelings...i love my son, my house and my husband...but sometimes i just want to hide in the closet for five minutes hahahaha

Stephanie - posted on 01/24/2010

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well i just moved from florida to pa...i have no family here except my in laws and we all now how much we love them...so as far as goin to friends ofr familys thats out of the question...

Jeanette - posted on 01/24/2010

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me too! harder to adjust than i'd thought it would be - i had to make myself go out - had to get used to going out and not spending money every time lol - i made a schedule of breaking down things i need every week so i have something i have to go do every day - like groceries is one day, baby stuff another day etc and when weather permits baby and i go out for a walk - i also make sure we go visit grandma and a couple girlfriends - and i get a little alone time every week

Sarah - posted on 01/23/2010

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I have a similar situation, ive been at home a year now, taking care of my son and i have another on the way in April. I visit my friends, i shop with my mom and sister. I go on walks and i go places with my man. I have to be social some how, ive been social my whole life. I plan on going back to work this fall. I actually miss it. Ive worked since i was 17 yrs old. And to not work is driving me insane, the house can only get so clean.lol. Dont get me wrong i enjoy my time with my son and i will this one too. just ready for something different.

Bonnie - posted on 01/23/2010

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get out of the house for your breaks when you can even if its an outing with your baby a change of scenery is good for anyone, fresh air is also great for baby, do things a bit more on a schedule so that you arent sitting and waiting for the day to end, i am a stay at home mom and i have 6month old twins and a 3 year old at home all day, between cleaning, cooking, and taking care of them my day flies right on by, try and break your day up by planning certain things for each day and remember to take a little bit of time for yourself everyday ecspecially now while you can once your baby arrives you will have your hands full

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Join a mommy and me group to help support you. Go to the local library they have free story time for babies and toddlers. You can also find groups on meetup.com. Gymboree has some classes too! You will gain so much support from other moms and it makes being home easier because it gives you something to do.

Crystal - posted on 01/23/2010

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Its waaaay harder than most people think to be a stay at home mom...The walls start closing in and you get cabin fever! Do you have any friends or familys house you could go to during the day maybe once a week. It helps just to get out of the house and ineract with adults instead of just baby talk all day every day.

Ana - posted on 01/23/2010

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Hi Stephanie! i used to work before i got married, so i have 4 years staying home my girl is 3 now and my husband dosen't want me to work, i kind of miss the money i used to have for myself when i was single and is a little frustrating to have to depend on him for everything, it gets kind of boring too being here all day!! i'm sorry i am not really helping because i am in the same situation. :o(

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