Anne - posted on 05/11/2011 ( 123 moms have responded )
I am thinking of having a c-section with my second bubs. Im 24wks. With my first I had a natural birth but after a 27hour labour and a 3rd degree tear (I still have weird pains down there and if I tear like that again I could end up with a incompetent bowel) i am so scared of doing it again.
I know there are some major risks involved with a c-section but I had it all worked out in my mind, but my husbands Mother and sisters are advising me otherwise and I understand their concern but now every time I think about pushing this baby out I have an anxiety attack.its stressing me out. Have any of you mothers had a c-section? Would you do it again? And do you have any advice for me if I go through with it?
Thank you :)
Thanks ladies for your advice :)
I now some of my fear is physiological and some of it is 'IF' I tear. My daughter is only 10mths and it had taken this long for me to enjoy sex and I still have weird pains. I dont want to tear again and have to go through all the things I went through before. I was in hospital for a week, was on antibiotics and pain killers, couldn't cough, sneeze, laugh, go to the bathroom or sit. I didn't have any anxiety about this until my in-laws expressed their concern with my choice. With a c-section I know the outcome... kind of. Im going to go and see a gynaecologist and see what they say.(my doc said its my choice)
Again thanks :)
My recovery after my daughters birth was about six weeks. No lifting or driving etc. So much the same as a c section. Also I didnt get to spend much time with my daughter after the birth as I was to weak and tired, I slept till they took me to surgery and then didnt see my daughter for a few hours after. This didnt stop the or interfere with our bonding in any way. As I said above I couldnt sit or move really for the first 2 wks either.
I didnt get cut because my midwife didnt believe in them. Looking back I would loved to have had one.
Also I was told if I do tear that bad again i would most likey have an incompetent bowel which means i will have to wear a nappy...
Thanks again for your advice and views on this, its helping me alot :)