This SAHM needs help findn a hobby so i can stay sane. lol

Bianca - posted on 01/04/2011 ( 26 moms have responded )

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well ive been a stay at home mom since last march and well ive been trying to find a hobby to do in my spare time. because i have the bad habit of thinking too much and if my husband and i are fighting at the moment, that will be with only thing on my mind. =( and its not healthy to think about bad things all day everyday. most of my friends are out living their lives and im here at home with no car going insane not being able to talk to people that arent in diapers and calling my mom.i mean i spend my whole day with my son, he is only two but he is very independant, and if he wants to play we'll play and sometimes he'll entertain himself by watching spongebob or play with our dog.
but now thats hes doing his own thing i feel like i have nothing to do, after ive cleaned and cooked and facebook'd for too long, theres nothing else to fill my day. my husband has made it clear that he doesnt care if it cost money, he wants me to find a hobby, bc when he gets home most of the time im in a crappy mood cuz im so bored outta my mind, ican only watch so much tv and play with my son for so long, with my bad back. please help, anyone have any suggestions??????

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Kellie - posted on 01/07/2011

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so, Scripture says the secret to happiness is to serve others, i was reminded of that by a post below about a mom who makes blankets.....find what you like to do and do it for others, like making blankets for babies in need, or cooking dinners for shut-in's, or taking orders for homebaked cookies for kids' birthday parties. See if your local car dealership wants to pay you bring in fresh cookies every other day to have out for their customers? I created a motocross company, and besides selling products online and trackside I've learned the joy of sponsoring riders and doing community work with them....baby steps...start small and pray for God to guide your footsteps, and you'll be amazed where you are at in a year!

Amanda - posted on 01/09/2011

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maybe you could get a lot of pictures of your family together and make a scrap book ... they are always fun to go back and remind you of things and you can always add to them...

Nicole - posted on 01/07/2011

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i probably annoy the crap out of my family cause i talk to them a lot cause i have nothing else to do. every chance i get to talk to some one that makes more then just silly noises or says mummum i take it lol. im in the same boat being winter its worse. cause then im really inside all day. least summer comes i can go to the apartment pool. i find video games keep me sane while my daughter is napping. to see other people i have decided to find a play group but it leaves the question of how to get there as we are a one car family here and i almost never have the car. something that helps is my daughter has Early intervention as she does have special needs so i get to see and talk to her early intervention teachers twice a month. once my daughter is a bit older though days will be spent teaching her to talk her abc's and such. She will be one in march so its becoming more tolerable with each passing day.
i read, surf the internet, play video games, draw and scrapbook pictures of things we have done as a family to pass time =D and then i "spring clean" once a month it helps to keep my busy and the house spotless and dejunked.

Michelle - posted on 01/07/2011

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I have a 3yr old and no car so I know what you mean. My daughter is also very independent but I have us do crafts together, or do "school". There are a lot of things you can do to involve your son and then OF COURSE the mommy time person crafts and hobbies. I paint and I'm a sudoku junkie lol.

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Angel - posted on 11/04/2012

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I believe just this site alone is enough to help a person stay sane there are real answers and good ones here from real people makes me feel less alone while being at the house I also sometimes shop online and I came across this site http://www.cash4offers.com/?ref=622144 where you get money back for buying something you already were buying or sometimes for me I get to find out about something I was not buying but its fun and I heard a penny saved is a penny earned right?

Alicia - posted on 01/09/2011

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i knit and crochet. it keeps me busy, plus my daughter LOVES my blankets. it doesnt cost too much, and you can do it just about any time. good luck!

GISELLI - posted on 01/08/2011

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having no car its my situation, and worst no family around or friends is just me and my baby all day long... i know the feeling

Monica - posted on 01/07/2011

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Crafts of any kind....y son and I paint all the time...Im currently starting my own business...not so much a hobby anymore but it started out as one....maybe start a small side business...it will keep you busy and you wll make money!

Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2011

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i am currently setting up a bunco (dice game) night once a month with some friends and friends of friends... i think us sahms need that adult time as an outlet for our pent up emotions. i know i am in need of a hobby too but it seems like all the cooking cleaning playing homework and acting as referee to my 4 kids leaves me no time for one! that is why i am starting out with a once a month thing. a hobby though i have contemplated is finishing old furniture, sometimes you can find great pieces at garage sales, it can either be a cheap or expensive hobby depending on how you go about it.

GISELLI - posted on 01/07/2011

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i,m in the same situation and i move here 2 years ago married and pregnant left my whole family behind in brazil, have no friends and my husband have no family too or friends too, is just me and my baby, sometimes is so hard!!!

Lisa - posted on 01/07/2011

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I sew, crochet, scrapbook and I've been trying to teach myself to knit. Take a trip through a craft store like JoAnn Fabrics and see what catches your eye. I always like to have a couple different hobbies so I don't get so bored always doing the same one.

Scrapbooking is nice because as my kids get older, they can work on their pages with me.

Stacie - posted on 01/06/2011

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I have been a SAHM now for almost 11 years......its a transition! I was the same way! I have takin up knitting, my husband jokes its for old ladies but I love it. Im doing something productive but at the same time am able to relax. I make scarfs and dishrags, for myself and friends. This hobby also comes in handy when your child starts classes or has sports practices!
I recently found a new game for the Wii. Its called Just Dance. If you like to dance you will love this! I do it for a workout all the time now! My children do it with me as well! Hopefully you find something you love, it is important. Good luck and God bless!

Kelly - posted on 01/06/2011

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Lots of great suggestions in here. I've been in the same boat as you girl, don't feel alone. As you can see, it's something we all experience. Try to think about things you enjoy doing, or things you might want to learn, and focus on those.

It's kinda funny, I just came across another thread somewhere in here (I forgot where now), and this same topic came up. Some of the suggestions from others were to spend more time with some battery-powered friends!! LOL!! Can't say that I disagree with that option either! ;) Probably do that more often than I can even count! Hahaha.

Good luck girl!! Stay strong and stay positive!

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I'm in the same situation!! lol i try sewing and when that fails i crochet something then when i finish that i try jewelry then i lose my patience with that and by then i have forgotten of the disasters with sewing so blindly i return lol eventually i'll get all three down but till then im pretty busy..I also LOVE reading, you could easily find an online book club if you have no transportation and join the discussions there :D good luck!

Gemma - posted on 01/05/2011

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i was in the same situation as you, an i was going insane!! so i started making jewellery, its really easy i by all the supplies off ebay (very cheap) i love it!! ive even started selling some of my creations on there. and you can give them as presents for b'days, xmas etc.
i learnt how to do it by looking at videos on "you tube"

Mabel - posted on 01/05/2011

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Are you my twin?WOW are you my long lost sister who I have never met,because you sound just like me!I if only you were in Tennessee we would have soo much fun.

Petra - posted on 01/05/2011

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I am a stay at home mom as well so I understand what you're going through. It is very tough and you do need a support system. Try on the internet or your church/neighborhood...there might be a Moms play group you can join. Or check out a gym that offers child care while you work out. You can find a class you enjoy and drop your son off in the childcare area. You get a work out, meet other moms, your son gets to play, it's a win/win

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Why not learn a new language, something you'd never thought of trying, like Norwegian, Portuguese, Dutch...

Get some brain game books, do a few exercises each day.

Learn a new style of cooking, French, Swedish, etc.

Learn Mahjong solitaire. It's addictive! And, 80 yr old Japanese men played it all their lives and have staved off Alzheimers.

Learn to knit! May sound like an old lady thing, but you'd be surprised how difficult it is!

Nikkole - posted on 01/04/2011

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i make blankets :) i just recently made 3! 2for my nephews and one for my son :)

Sarah - posted on 01/04/2011

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I need to find a hobby also lol. Let me know if you find one you enjoy....I get bored also

Stifler's - posted on 01/04/2011

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I like to walk to town and back and window shop if I don't need anything. Or have fun scavenging at lifeline. Or go to mother's group?

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Wow, that sounds a lot like my own life :) Are you and your husband able to buy you a car? If so, then do it :) I don't have a license so I am truly stuck at home :( I am limited to what our small little town has to offer and trust me it isn't much. Because it is winter time right now and our outside options are limited, it does make this time of year hard. However we find things to do to occupy our time. I have never been one to sit around and do nothing, so I am forever cleaning something or cooking something and every once in awhile when the mood hits me, I will sew or just do whatever comes to mind. I love not having to go to an outside job. I don't mind work, I just don't like co workers :) What I am basically saying is, I don't have time to be bored, there is always something to do.

Candy - posted on 01/04/2011

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I agree with Kelly. First you have to remember what you enjoyed before your son. Reading,painting,scrap booking, etc. Only you know what you like to do.

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hmmm....what are things you enjoy doing?

I write about my son, all the cute/funny things he does and interesting things about being a parent. Someday I might publish it, but mostly it is for him to read when he grows up, and to help me laugh at the insanity that my life is right now.

You could also join a book club at the library. Pick one that meets in the evenings after your husband is home. He can get some one on one time with his son, and you can borrow the car to get out of the house for a bit. It will also give you something to read during your spare time at home, and reading is always more fun if you have people to discuss the book with :)

Any chance he would buy you a car? I honestly could not survive as a sahm without one. I go to play groups and storytimes to keep myself sane and talk to other adults.

There is also scrapbooking, which you can do at home. I never got into it, but almost all of the mothers I know love it. I have a ton of pictures & scrapbooking supplies, and it would be nice to have them organized, but I never feel like doing it :P So you have to pick something you actually enjoy doing,,,,or you won't do it!

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