toddler groups I cannot believe I hate them so :(

Charlotte - posted on 07/21/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hiya all, I keep trying to go to toddlers groups and thought I was making friends... though the mums I chat to just seem to go off chatting to themselves. I keep being told keep trying, keep going to toddler groups it will get easiler and now im at the stage im looking forward when my girl can go to preschool so I can go volunteer and chat to people that wants to chat to me. I love spending time with my girl though going to the toddler groups my girl loves it but I'd proberly have more fun just chatting to my girl then consently get dissapointed with making friends. My partner says I should igrore it all, hes barely had any friends to chat to in the last 2and half years(since having our girl), I thought I was making new friends finelly though its turned out no!! Its never mention much I thought when having a baby it can be so lonely even if have got a partner.

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Bridget - posted on 08/04/2011

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Charlotte-i'm sorry that really stinks :( i have a hard time too i just for some reason have a hard time making friends and keeping them.if you ever need anyone to talk to feel free to add me

Charlotte - posted on 08/04/2011

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I dont find the sure start much use now because my girl is older and the only group I really could go to with my girl was a drop in and that was even getting lonely. Nothing much on craigslist, I wish I didnt need people to chat to everyday this is ONE of the reasons I dont want to have another baby I crave to chat to nice people in person and iv barely found anyone in the last 2 and half years.

Corinne - posted on 08/03/2011

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Charlotte, see if you have a Sure Start Centre near by. I use their services a lot and it's all free, some of them even run free courses like paediatric first aid, baby massage/yoga, citizens advice, cookery.....

Jennifer - posted on 08/02/2011

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You may try craigslist, or a similair site, and start your own. I see a lot of post on here about mom's being lonely, so it must be a common where you are, too. Luckily we run a martial arts school, so I meet lots of other moms, and since I'm 'queen bee' I don't get snubbed, but sometimes that isn't my favorite thing either!!

Charlotte - posted on 08/02/2011

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Im looking forward to when my girl goes to pre-school so I can go do other things volunteering proberly I enjoyed that before

Kim - posted on 07/26/2011

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I've found the same thing. It happened with Toddler playgroups then when my kids went to a Co-op Preschool. Its like they get in a close knit group and won't let anyone in, or they act like they will but then they ignore you. Seriously I have lived in the same town for 11 yrs and I've gone thru too many of what I thought were 'good' friends. Unfortunately my really good friends don't live near me anymore.

Kaitlin - posted on 07/25/2011

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I'm new to all this, I have 4 kids (2 are step children) but I havent been able to to find moms that I can click with.

Bridget - posted on 07/24/2011

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I don't like play groups that much either. We are a military family and they have one on base. The times i have gone i have pretty much sat by myself while my three children played no one was social towards me it was really uncomfortable. I thought that they were a place where you would go and meet other moms while your children played but it just wasn't like that. I usually don't go to them anymore I will just set up a playdate with my close friend here and we just have a playdate at one of our houses its not really a play group but at least the kids get to interact and im not uncomfortable.

Charlotte - posted on 07/22/2011

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I've looked on meetup.com before theres nothing in my area :( Chruch toddler groups becasue there the most cheepest

Rachel - posted on 07/21/2011

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Definitely try out meetup.com. Also if you just go to the groups and everyone already knows each other it's hard to make friends, so try inviting one or two mom's to your place for a smaller get together or invite one family to come over and have dinner. That's the best way to connect instead of in a group setting. Definitely keep trying and don't give up because as a mom of a young toddler we definitely need friends, otherwise we just go crazy.

Katherine - posted on 07/21/2011

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What type of toddler groups are you attending? Have you tried meetup.com?

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