toddler's name for her vagina?????

Kelly - posted on 03/14/2011 ( 135 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 2 and is potty trained, she's learing to wipe her own bum and dat's da name we use but we dont no an appropiate name for her vagina. any mom's of toddler girls please help. what name did u give ur daughter for that area???

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Jenny - posted on 03/14/2011

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I think its ridiculous that people want their kids to walk around saying vagina and penis. It just sounds obscene to me.



I don't know about everyone, but for us even when we hang out as adults with our friends we'd rarely hear some one use the anatomically correct name to describe their genitals. Even my girlfriends would say "down there" or something a little less vague than VAGINA but still to the point.



Anyway, i tell my kids, that's your pee pee. Pee comes out of both boys and girls so its both their pee pee. Even though a penis and a vulva look different at this age they are both used to do the exact same thing, to pee! Later i'll explain about the biological differences but will still prefer them to just say pee pee or another more sensible word.



I think that if my kids were left with a babysitter and they said "my pee pee hurts" the average adult should be able to put two and two together without going bright red in the face at a 3 year old saying "my vagina hurts'.



Plus girls don't need to know what a vagina does until much older (eg 8 up) imo so i dont see the point in them calling it vagina when they're so young.



Pee does not come out of their vagina and neither does poop so the correct anatomy name would be vulva for girls if you want to be totally anal about it. And the average male does not even know what the word vulva is so i think we're just getting too carried away trying to be absolutely honest with our children.

User - posted on 03/14/2011

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I think it's better to start out calling all body parts by their correct names. As they grow and mature, saying the proper names are less embarrassing to say. Penis and vagina sound just as normal and comfortable as arm and forehead, if that's the only name you've ever known!!!

Nikki - posted on 03/14/2011

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I would use vagina. I have read a lot of research which suggests that children who use the correct names for their privates are less likely to be sexually abused, or if they are, they are more likely to seek help.

An extract taken from an Australian government website.
Children who know the correct names of their body parts are
less likely to be tricked into sexual game

For further reading
http://www.ocsc.vic.gov.au/downloads/wis...

Vegemite - posted on 03/15/2011

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Vagina. We have two boys they call their penis a penis. I think it's best just to be honest about these things. My oldest (3) asks me where my penis is I tell him I'm a girl so I have a vagina. He walked in on me in the toilet the other day when i had my period he was horrified and really upset saying "yuky mum poo in the toilet" because he thought I'd done a poo in my pants. So I explained to him that that's mummy's period and it's a special thing woman get once a month so they can have babies. He just said "Oh" and left the room. If you make it as normal as it is there wont be any problem.

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My son is 3 and has a penis. He has always had a penis except for in the very begining after he was born. I admit that I did call it a "pee pee" for awhile. Then around a year old, I decided that, like a lot of other moms have said, if an elbow is an elbow, an ear is an ear and a toe is a toe, then a penis is a penis. That's what works for us. I don't think it's necessarily the worst thing in the world for someone else to call it a "wee wee" or whatever cutesie name they call it. I just remember thinking that I didn't want to confuse him by calling it one thing when he was small and then something else when he was older. Just like for us, a bottle was always a bottle, never a ba-ba, and so on. We've always used the real and proper names for everything else in his life, so why not his penis too?

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Nikki - posted on 04/19/2011

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My 2yo calls it her pooter. It is a little off, but that is what my husband has always said, so that is what she picked up. I think anantomical terms are a little much for a toddler.

Alyce - posted on 04/18/2011

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Seeing all your thoughts i think i might change what my daughter calls it. Has anyone heard of calling it a foo??

Elise - posted on 04/18/2011

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In my family we always called it a wee wee from when my sisters and I where little. So thats what we call it now that my daughter is 2. I now also have a son (5 months) but am a bit stumped as to what to call his. My hubby doesn't like it when I call it his wee wee LOL.

Alyce - posted on 04/18/2011

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I use peach. its not offensive to others incase they go to daycare. or if you have i different laungage or a foriegn background you could use the word meaning virgina.

Alyce - posted on 04/18/2011

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I use peach. its not offensive to others incase they go to daycare. or if you have i different laungage or a foriegn background you could use the word meaning virgina.

Tasha - posted on 04/18/2011

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we call it front butt and back butt and still at 13 years old she still calls it front butt and back butt.

Tasha - posted on 04/18/2011

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we call it front butt and back butt and still at 13 years old she still calls it front butt and back butt.

Sarah - posted on 03/30/2011

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hiya my daughter is 2 next month and we have also potty trained her, its very hard to find a polite word for girls area's so we call it her mini

Sarah - posted on 03/30/2011

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hiya my daughter is 2 next month and we have also potty trained her, its very hard to find a polite word for girls area's so we call it her mini

Jamie - posted on 03/22/2011

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it's a who-who or her who-e. She callds her butt her hiney. When she gets older we could use the right names but I don't want my toddler going around saying vagina. No offense.

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We use WHO HA. It's caught on to all the ladies around us. We also say it's our "girls only" Which we use when she wants to invite folks into the bathroom. We tell her we keep our WHO HA's covered and this is our girls only room. She understands that. She is 2

Casey - posted on 03/21/2011

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Vagina. That is the perfect name. My husband and I are big on using the proper name for body parts.

Samantha - posted on 03/20/2011

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lou-lou is what i called mine when i was little. some call it their mooie lol its what ever feels comfitable for you and your daughter. good luck.

Annie - posted on 03/20/2011

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I'm not sure about the spelling, but we call it a Yoni. Which is the Hindu goddess of the female genitalia.

Paula - posted on 03/20/2011

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I tell her it's her bird...lol....i know that may be funny...but thats what my mom and grandma told me...so i just passed it on!

Bethany - posted on 03/20/2011

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I havn't thought of a "name' for Charlotte's vulva yet, but I'm pretty sure she'll come up with something herself. She's 2, and with no prompting from me, knows she has a "boppom" (how she says bottom) and that I have boo boos. (funny every time she says it, just started this month)

I do find it weird, though, that we can name just about every body part like arm, head, toe....., but once we get under the clothes, we get all coy and embarassed, and even offended. We use Tummy and knockers and boobs and hoo hoos and va jay jay and doodle and goodness knows what, but everything else has a proper name. Though I have said "use your noggin' " for Head, etc, so I guess whatever you feel comfortable with.



I have, however, heard of child abuse cases where a kid has been abused sexually and the case has been thrown out because of inspecific reference to body parts. And they get mighty specific in those cases, so I'd like Charlotte to know what's what in the next year or so as she'll be off to kindy and school and not under my watchful eye for too much longer. So I'll probably start with Vulva, as that's the outside part, and go from there. I hope she doesn't have to discuss her vagina with any one until she is much much older. That said, it's not something I'll be announcing in public, any conversation with her involving private body parts will be respectful and quiet and I'll teach her the same.

Lexi - posted on 03/19/2011

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You could just teach her it's her vagina. That's what I learned when I was little. We tell my son it's his penis and his butt and that daddy has a penis and mommy has boobies and vagina and those are private spots. You could say it's her privates or privte spot if vagina is uncomfortable. =)

Sarh - posted on 03/19/2011

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My daughter is 5 and calls it all her butt... front and back.
I agree w/Jenny Sunner!
Now that she is 5 I am going to teach her that the front is her "private area" and the butt in the back is her "butt".
When my son is old enough, his penis is going to be called a "dink".
What ever you and your child is comfortable with is what matters!

Wynter - posted on 03/19/2011

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My mother-in-law calls all her grand-daughters Vaginas a peach. I call it by it's name. But as they get older to understand teach them a nickname that you want.

Christina - posted on 03/19/2011

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um... from the time my daughters were tiny i always called their vagina their "no no". it started because i would tell them no when they tried to touch it and it stuck. now they're 4 and 3 yrs old and still call it their no no lol

Emily - posted on 03/19/2011

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i will be teaching my son, he has a pee pee, and girls have wee wees... both do the same thing but are a little different. But when it comes time to let him know when he is older, we will tell him the truth. But to be truthful none of us go around saying penis and vagina. Heck if Im talking about something in reference to that, its hoo ha, down there, va jay jay, or dick, down there, or what ever. I was not told from an early age what exactly down there was. I think thats being a little TO truthful at that age. let them be innocent for a little bit longer. I wouldnt want my son saying momma my penis hurts in the middle of checking out at the store or in public. not only would i turn red, so would the people around me, and I know they would think "I cant believe his parents let him say that" but i wouldnt mind him sayin my peepee hurts. adults can put 2 and 2 together without being embarrassed. And if my sons teacher wanted to challenge my decision not to teach him that til hes older i will b having a talk w them. its really none of their business what is right and wrong to say in that situation. thats like me telling them how to teach...

Shannon - posted on 03/19/2011

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Although I haven't gotten to that yet(daughter just turned one), my sister has her 4 & 5 year old call it their privates.

Alisha - posted on 03/19/2011

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My daughter calls her private her tu-tu. Obviously when she gets older she will learn the real name for it but even I at 22 don't walk around calling it my vagina. Somethings are just don't appropriate coming out of a toddler's mouth.

Naomi - posted on 03/19/2011

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teach them the correct names first then as they atrt to understand their body i teach them the nik names some ppl use to

Janine - posted on 03/19/2011

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I believe mostly in just saying a "VAGINA" it isnt a bad word and proper in every sense... however, whilst they are young, I call my daughters a "mimey"... she gets it.. I call my sons a "doodie"... yes it's a lot cuter but still never be ashamed to call it what it is as I do on occassion to get them used to it.....

Dawn - posted on 03/19/2011

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My daughter has a doctors appointment this week and I think I am going to discuss it with my doctor. I recall my boys going through the 1001 question stage and asking questions that might offend someone in a store. When my youngest son found out he had a penis he liked the sound of it and sang it every where he went that is when we decided to explain that it is call a penis but outside of the house he should refer to it as his Johnson. I have three boys so I am at a lost for my one and only daughter. Thank you for the post though as reading it brought up questions for myself that I did not think of and would like to have the answers before she asks.

Michelle - posted on 03/19/2011

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I agree with calling vagina & vulva and penis by their names. It saves so much confusion and allows children to be comfortable with all parts of their bodies. I have a 2 & 1/2 year old daughter and a 6 month old son and my daughter often asks 'what do boys have?" when I'm changing my son's nappy. She knows but is at that age of 1001 questions a day.

Jamie - posted on 03/18/2011

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I taught my daughter that her vagina is a vagina BUT that she doesn't always have to call it that. I explained that our pet IS a dog but we CALL HER by her name "Bailey". So she knows she has a "vagina" but for regular conversation she says "peach" and the terms are used interchangeably depending on the circumstances. As far as whether or not to choose a nick-name, to each her own!

Teresa - posted on 03/18/2011

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My son asks this about my daughter as well (she is 4 weeks)... he says "mommy what is that"?

We call it a Va JJ :)

Denise - posted on 03/18/2011

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I agree with Jenny Sunner, you summed it up as simply as it should be for a child.

Kelly - posted on 03/18/2011

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thanks guys, some very helful suggestions there, i think private is more appropiate and suits best xxxxxxxxxxx

Sarah - posted on 03/17/2011

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Kori, you're not the first mom I've heard call their sons' penises a "dewy," and I hate that term! LOL. No fault of your own, of course, but my firstborn couldn't pronounce his brother's name, Dylan, correctly, and called him "Dewy." Still does, and so does my one year old daughter! I call him "Silly Dilly" when he's being goofy, and have noticed a lot of moms on here refer to their son's anatomy as "Dilly" too! Maybe I should just start calling him by his middle name!! lol

Ilene - posted on 03/17/2011

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I agree 100%. You have to be comfortable with the words they use or what you are trying to teach them may very well be inefective.

Ilene - posted on 03/17/2011

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hmmm Very Fairytailish. Of course my kids aren't gonna say they have to urinate unless they're trying to be goofy. But they do know the proper terminology and use it, well my son uses it at the doctors. But when my 7 year old got a yeast infection, I heard there's a rash on my vagina. And I'm very proud to say that she didn't just tell me that but she told me she had a yeast infection on her outter labia. I knew exactly what the problem was because I knew that she knew what she was talkin about. Ms. Doogie Houser, MD. lol yaah

Rebecca - posted on 03/17/2011

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This is your daughter, so you need to call it what you are comfrtable with her saying. In my home the girls have a pee-pee and the boys have a weiner. Girls don't pee out of their vagina's so I don't think you need to talk about it, yet.

Ilene - posted on 03/17/2011

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We were taught to wipe from front to back for cleanliness. If you do not wipe properly, you can wind up with different infections. Ever had a UTI? They don't feel good and for us unfortunate ladies, while taking the meds for the UTI, we wind up with a yeast infection because of the anti biotics, nothing we did, just the pills. I do not pee out of my touchie and I like to stay as clean as possible. I'm not a nurse or even a CNA. But I'm confident that if you ask any health care professional, you'll hear the same thing.

Ilene - posted on 03/17/2011

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When they were young toddlers, kitty. Once my kids were talking and understanding well, the girls were taught vagina and my boy was taught penis/testicles. I do not lie or bs with my children.

Julie - posted on 03/17/2011

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She is not wiping her vagina - she is wiping her bottom.
Her vagina is up inside her lips -
Its o.k. to say she is wiping her bottom or bum ...
Later as she inquires you can get more specific -

Natasha - posted on 03/17/2011

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I have 2 daughters & a son. My son is almost 5, and I taught him that he has a penis but to call it his privates when he needs to talk about it. My oldest daughter is 3, and we call it a vagina but, again, in conversation, it's referred to as her privates.

Jessica - posted on 03/17/2011

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my daugter calls it a tutu lol its not embarrassing when she says it in public !!

Ella - posted on 03/17/2011

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My daughter calls hers a 'goose'. When I was little that's what I called it so I just called it that. It's just how you perceive things as to what you teach your children. I don't mind her saying 'goose' or 'vagina' I just think that calling it a code name per say is silly and funny. When she gets older she will learn the proper names for her anatomy. for now girls have gooses and boys have chickens. =] haha

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