toddler's name for her vagina?????

Kelly - posted on 03/14/2011 ( 136 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 2 and is potty trained, she's learing to wipe her own bum and dat's da name we use but we dont no an appropiate name for her vagina. any mom's of toddler girls please help. what name did u give ur daughter for that area???

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Ella - posted on 03/17/2011

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My daughter calls hers a 'goose'. When I was little that's what I called it so I just called it that. It's just how you perceive things as to what you teach your children. I don't mind her saying 'goose' or 'vagina' I just think that calling it a code name per say is silly and funny. When she gets older she will learn the proper names for her anatomy. for now girls have gooses and boys have chickens. =] haha

Sarah - posted on 03/17/2011

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I have a funny story about this: When I was 5 years old, my mother taught me the correct word (Vagina) and of course didn't think of it being embarrassing...but some people did. Our landlord came to the door to ask my mother a question, but I was the one who opened the door. I just looked at him and said "Hey mister, I have a Vagina!"....and I can remember his face turning red as a cherry and my mother laughing and apologizing for my 'honesty'. LOL
To this day, my kids (all 4 are girls) call it their "Toot-toots" or their "Privates" or their "none-ya's" LOL. I think it's really up to the parent and what you are comfortable with. In my opinion, it doesn't matter...they'll eventually learn the real word for private parts, so what's wrong w/teaching them 'code-names' for them, for now.....especially at an age where you know they repeat every new word you teach them to EVERYONE! LOL

Lorna - posted on 03/17/2011

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I think that it is a good idea to teach the child the proper name for it,but however it can be deemed offensive to some peeps,when my daughter was little she knew the proper name but we also taught her slang names too as surprisingly it seemed more acceptable and more proper,her favourite one was 'my bits' then came 'my in between' then of course high school soon came and it was called 'fanny' not a word i particulary like, nowadays we all call it 'foof' don't know why,we just like the sound of it lol

Angie - posted on 03/17/2011

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well I dont have a daughter, but i refer to it as princess. that way if you mention it people dont really know what youre talking about. And your daughter will like that name.

Samantha - posted on 03/17/2011

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my girls all call it their private. i know vagina is the proper name, but i feel like if we call it private, then they will keep it private.

Simone - posted on 03/17/2011

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Although there are plenty of names out there I use nu new... as a child mine was miss nancy lol... my dad happened to walk by as I was using the toilet and yelled out to my mother she's wiping her miss nancy so my mom stuck with it bc she thought it was cute!

Julie - posted on 03/17/2011

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When I was little as well as my 2 sisters, ours was Lucy...I have no idea why but since I am the oldest, I guess it was my doing. I know when my girls are wearing skirts or dresses....I show them how to sit properly so they don't show their,"good stuff" or "treasure". Now that I am typing this, it does sound wierd. But they are older now and I think they refer to it as "privates". It is also VERY important to teach our kids about "good touch-bad touch" and continue teaching that as they get older.

Amy - posted on 03/17/2011

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"too out there" okay!!!! Um it is what it is and it will be others that are like you who will frown upon it. It seems your too embarrassed by the word Vagina or Penis.We have knees and arms and breasts and nipples and elbows and we have a vagina!! Just wait til grs 2 and 3 and "potty talk" is constant talk about Penis' and Vaginas and you will be able to tell the child who have been taught and not worried about what others think and the others who have been taught to give it a nick name!!

Julie - posted on 03/17/2011

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My daughter has always said her vagina and in public she says her private. She is 10 now but we taught her that when she was potty training.

Khadijah - posted on 03/17/2011

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We call it either Va-ja-ja or Toochie-pie occassionally :-) But most times its just vagina!

Tracey - posted on 03/17/2011

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I did not want my daughter to call her vagina exactly what it was because for a child that is a "too out there" word for me to be teaching her. We called it her "potty parts". We did tell her when she was able to remember and s and understand that boy girls have different "potty parts" and that when daddy is in the bathroom going potty or in the shower that you need to be out of the bathroom. Kids a days grow up way to fast, its okay to teach them somethings but sometimes you need to know when they just need to be a child.

Mia - posted on 03/17/2011

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We call it 'Putu, petu, putos, puti ' and many other variations of the word translates to 'Vulva' in Many Old languages... ..

~ pu~_tu part of the body behind the pudenda (K.); puttara vulva (Pkt.); puti_ vulva; phuti_, phuddi_ vulva of small girl (Ku.); puti vulva; putu vulva of young woman (N.); pot.h, pot.i rectum (K.); pu~t.ki anus (B.)

Jane - posted on 03/16/2011

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We used the word vagina, because that's what it is. We don't use euphemisms for knees or ankles or any other part of the body, so we decided not to use euphemisms for the "private" parts of the body, either.

Erin - posted on 03/16/2011

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I don't have a daughter but my niece calls her's cookie,birdy is another one.

Julianne - posted on 03/16/2011

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vagina, whats wrong with giving it the right name? there is no more shame in that then in there arm or legs/

Amy - posted on 03/16/2011

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It is what it is a vagina....once SHE knows what it is then let her call it what she wants to.Please do not compare tho as another poster responded about her friends not referring their vagina as their vagina....they are adults and they know the names of their body parts,children are learning.

Jennifer - posted on 03/16/2011

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My daughter is getting potty trained right now! And she is learning the proper names for her body parts! So, she will learn that she has a vagina! And it is the name that she will use also!

Dawn - posted on 03/16/2011

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I taught my boys that they have a penis but it nice to say in public so in public they call it there Johnson. My daughter will know that she has a vagina but we will probably call it a wee wee in public.

Ali - posted on 03/16/2011

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My niece calls it her "China". We told her Vagina, but it turned into China! :)

Mandy - posted on 03/16/2011

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my girls call it a tootie, my son calls it a doodle, they do know the correct names of their anatomy, but they choose to use those names.

Lynne - posted on 03/16/2011

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We call bottoms Toockus (sp??). So my youngest decided to start calling her privates tooky because they were smaller. LOL At home we use the correct terms but in public they are privates.

Saydra - posted on 03/16/2011

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well my doughter is not potty traned yet but we call hers her nu nu. u culd also use flower te heer its sumthing pruty and speshal to her.

Tina - posted on 03/16/2011

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When my boys were potty training we just or I called it their middle. It's in the middle of their bodies. I know it's important to teach them proper names but it was just easier to say middle.

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2011

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and as for those saying its not actually a vagina, but a vulva; there are many parts to a vagina, the vulva being the external, most visible part. If you were to be absolutely correct, then I assume you'd also call your son's genitalia a "shaft." I use "vagina" and "penis" since those are the most widely understood terms and nobody could mistake their meaning if my child were to use them.

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2011

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My boys use the anatomically correct terms, as will my daughter. Using silly, cutesy names just doesn't make sense to me. You wouldn't tell her a nose is called a "no-no" or her eye is a "looker." Why should other parts be any different?

Scary as it might be, sexual abuse happens, and it is therefore recommended to always use the anatomically correct terms for a child's body parts. http://www.register-herald.com/todaysfro... If a child knows the correct terms, it is easier for them to come forward, and their statements can be used in court, whereas euphemisms like "flower" and "cooter" can often be thrown out on the basis that the child might simply be confused and think that touching an actual flower is wrong!

Its just plain easier to teach them the correct terms, too. That way, there is never any confusion when she tries to talk to any other adults. If she were to fall and injure herself, you need to be sure she could express that to anyone in charge of her. "I hurt my vagina" is a lot more understandable, no matter how awkward, than "I hurt my dee-dee" or "na-na" or "vay-vay" or any other euphemism. A 2 year old girl in one of my preschool classes fell on a balance beam once and actually fractured a bone in her pelvis. She told the teacher she hurt her "tah-tee" and the gymnastics teacher misunderstood, thinking she was saying "tummy." After checking her out at the nurse and finding no bruising, bleeding, or swelling around her abdomen, she was sent back to class. I'm not saying it was the parents fault, but knowing the proper term could have gotten her treatment a lot faster!

Jennifer - posted on 03/16/2011

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We have a 5 year old daughter and have always taught her the proper names of things. She knows that she has a vagina and my 2.5 year old son knows that he has a penis

Chancey - posted on 03/16/2011

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We use proper names here. Or to refer to the entire area we say privates. I know a lady who taught her little girl to call it a 'flower'. A family member knew this and was molesting the little girl....the little girl told ppl that this person was asking to 'smell her flower'....her mother didnt even catch on at first! God forbid but if my children ever said that someone was touching their vagina or privates there is NO mistaking what is going on!!
Besides calling it some nickname may teach the child to be embrassed about that area of the body. I want my children to feel comfortable with their body and comfortable in talking with me, their dad, or the doc about their body. there is NOTHING wrong with knowing what all of the body parts are called

Lucy - posted on 03/16/2011

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Connie- We started with vulva with our daughter, as that term covers the general area. As she has gotten older, she has asked what the individual parts are called, and we have told her. So she does know the words labia, urethra, vagina (in fact, she also knows uterus and birth canal because she is very interested in pregnancy and birth) but she will still tend to refer to the whole area as her vulva.

Connie - posted on 03/15/2011

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I'm also trying to decide on the terminology to use with my 2 year old girls. My problem is that the vagina isn't the correct name for the part the pee comes from, that's the part the period bleeding comes from. So then am I supposed to specify urethra and labia?

Heather - posted on 03/15/2011

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What's wrong with vagina?
In Australia, we generally use the word fanny. (No wonder when we see American sitcom using the word fanny - referring to butt- that we roll around laughing!)

Ashley - posted on 03/15/2011

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My daughter calls hers "privates". I*m sure that stemmed from my telling her it was a private area that wedidn*t show anyone or let anyone touch ect. My son calls his a "peepee" I*m fine with both. They*re 3 1/2 and 2 respectevly.

Juliah - posted on 03/15/2011

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my girls named it their front bum when they were smaller. Privates is the word I commonly use but I have told them the correct names of boys and girls parts.

Sarah-Anne - posted on 03/15/2011

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My daughter turns two this Sunday and she's called it her crotch for at least 6 month now.

Lucy - posted on 03/15/2011

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I have to say it confuses me as to why people feel the need to make up weird names for it!



My son knows he has a penis and testicles, my daughter knows she has a vulva and vagina.



To my mind, if you give kids the idea that their genitals are in some way dirty or unpleasant enough to need a cute made up "code" name, it doesn't give them a great message about their sexual identity and self confidence.



I would also rather my kids are equipped with the correct names for anatomical parts so that they can explain to any adult caring for them (teacher etc) if they have a problem in that area, without the need for an interpreter to avoid misunderstandings!

Danielle - posted on 03/15/2011

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Mine called hers monkey. Story behind that is my sister taught my son to call his a turtle so when she was born I was changing her diaper and he got so upset b/c her "turtle fell off!" So we told him girls have a monkey lol. He was two at the time. Now she's four and calls her's her front butt lol.

Carrie-Lynn - posted on 03/15/2011

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I think it should be called by the proper name so that if something was bothering them or they are talking to another care taker they know what they are talking about as there are so many different names it can be hard to understand what they mean if you don't know what they are referring to.

Bridget - posted on 03/15/2011

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Growing up we always called our private parts our "bumbles" so I have just naturally passed that on to my daughter, who is 17 months. She calls her rear end her butt or bum and her privates her bumbum. I do say privates to refer to myself and my husband but my daughter doesnt say that word.
I dont have a problem with people having names for the private parts, except when its food related. It just sounds inappropriate to me to call it a "cookie".

Audrey - posted on 03/15/2011

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my son is 3 and says "peepee" and my daughter is 18m and calls it that to. probably cuz thats what her bro says. when i was a kid it was rfered to as my "privates" and i always felt funny about it. i dont think my mom meant for me to feel self-concious about it but i did. i always felt ashamed of it. i dont want my kids to feel that way so we just say peepee.

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There is nothing obscene about a vagina or a penis unless you make it obscene. We always taught our children the proper names for their body parts. Knee, elbow, pinky finger, vagina....what's the big deal???

Vegemite - posted on 03/15/2011

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Vagina. We have two boys they call their penis a penis. I think it's best just to be honest about these things. My oldest (3) asks me where my penis is I tell him I'm a girl so I have a vagina. He walked in on me in the toilet the other day when i had my period he was horrified and really upset saying "yuky mum poo in the toilet" because he thought I'd done a poo in my pants. So I explained to him that that's mummy's period and it's a special thing woman get once a month so they can have babies. He just said "Oh" and left the room. If you make it as normal as it is there wont be any problem.

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