Typical daily routine for a stay-at-home mom?

Jennifer - posted on 05/06/2013 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone.

I know this may sound strange, but I was curious...what is your typical schedule with your kids? I am finding that my kids watch way too much TV, my kids seem bored and want entertainment 24/7 (They actually say after each activity "What do we do next?"), I never have a free moment of "me" time (like when the heck do I do my hair? haha), and I am finding that I am stressing out and yelling a lot. I don't want to turn into a mother that yells all the time. I need to change my routine to best make everyone happy....including me. So, how do you make it all work? I almost feel like I should make a schedule with daily planned activities for the kids...lol. Do you have a routine when it comes to cleaning your home? (for example, do you food shop on certain days or clean the bathrooms on certain days?)

Just so you know, I have a 3 1/2 year old, a 2 year old, and a 4 week old (All Girls). I just want to be a relaxed, fun, mother...one who doesn't yell all the time. Maybe my husband will like me again too...lol.(jk...I think)

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Lexi - posted on 05/29/2013

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Lately I've been wondering myself what other SAHMs do with their day... My daughter (who is almost 18 mo) and I are pretty relaxed about the routine we have... Wake up, play in bed, eat breakfast, do the dishes together- I lucked out, she will practically BEG to help me do dishes.We play lots after, then she does down for a nap. Naptime is awesome.
Then lunch, while she eats we'll sit and talk or maybe I'll clean a little while she watches.
More play or reading, maybe she'll help me sweep the floors or do laundry.
Nap!
Then maybe a walk before dinner time. Dishes again, play, then read a book and be in bed by 9:30.
And after she's in bed... it's mama time for as long as I want. Some days differ, but this is what a typical day is like. Lots of play and interacting, no TV at all.
I can vividly recall the many high-strung, stressed-out, bitchy moments i've had since having my daughter. Boy can I. I used to think I needed to be the perfect mom with a perfectly kept house with a perfectly happy baby while keeping my man happy too. Ha! A moment is the most you can expect from perfection. It helps keep me chill having my mother-in-law around to give me a 15 min break now and then. Doesn't your man help you out?

Also, I can say that the fact that my baby enjoys chores is great... I'd try to get your kids in on that one. It can be fun for them if you make it. What toddler wouldn't wanna splash in the bubbles while you do the dishes too? Less chores later=more play.
Stay at home moms aren't super-moms... How important is it to have a spotless bathroom every day of the week? It's ok if the towels get wrinkled in the dryer, they can always go another cycle. It's a long life, too long to get stressed out everyday. What's that saying? If you can't change the way something is, change the way you think about it. That's wisdom

Gina - posted on 05/31/2013

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2 and 3 year olds require constant activities and yes they pretty much have to be entertained otherwise they go crazy and get into a lot of dangerous situations. This is why they benefit from structure and if possible enroll them in a program like pre-school, Mommy & Me, Gymboree, etc.
If you can find a Preschool or Daycare that offers a Preschool curriculum, that would be a great solution, you can choose how many days and or hours they will attend, I recommend doing about 3 hours daily or maybe 2-3 days a week, whatever is more feasible for your budget. Doing this will benefit you all tremendously, I know from experience because when my child turned 2, he was out of control, constantly throwing tantrums, was watching too much TV, and had no structure in his daily activities, however, once he started a preschool program at a nearby daycare center,everything improved including: behavior, speech, social skills etc.
If your budget absolutely won't allow for paying a half day Preschool, then I suggest visiting one and ask them if you can get a copy of their daily schedule, this will give you an idea of how to structure your days at home.

Melissa - posted on 05/21/2013

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I don't have a hard and fast schedule, but I do find that following a routine does help. A routine is looser but still adds some structure. I feel like if I try to follow a strict schedule I get stressed out and feel like I'm failing.
As far as housework goes, I've found that if I try to set a specific day to do each task I feel behind and like I need to catch up all the time when that task doesn't happen. Instead I've simply written out each task that I want done on a weekly basis on an index card and I keep those cards in a stack (used to have them on my fridge with a chip clip, now they're on my desk). I have six cards so that leaves me one for each day plus a day off each week (I don't clean on Sundays. :)) and if I miss one, oh well, waiting 8 or 9 days (or sometimes more) to do a task again isn't the end of the world. At least I know eventually it will get done! Ultimately you have to do what works for you, but there's an idea if you want one.
As far as the kids always wanting to be entertained, take heart! I think you are right, having a routine will help a lot. If they know what to expect, it will be easier for them to fall into it and know what to do. Also, entertaining themselves for a while is something they can learn with some practice. Just know that it's ok to teach it like you would any other skill.
All that said - I believe there are times in life when you need to cut yourself a serious break, and having a baby under 6 months is one of them!! Plan some tv time in so you can get a half hour to yourself everyday! Maybe when the baby naps in the afternoon, put on a video for the older two and go sit down (or do your hair if you want :) ). Right now you're in survival mode (and that's ok!) so set your expectations accordingly and keep them small.

Danicia - posted on 06/05/2013

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one thing I do with my daughter (1.5 yrs old) is just turn on some music. she plays with her toys, or we read books, do puzzles, and sometimes color or dance. when the music goes on she realizes she needs to find an activity she does primarily by herself instead of relying on me or the tv to entertain her. we'll go in the backyard and i'll let her run rampant. One thing my husband and I really want her to learn to appreciate is self reliance on entertainment instead of constantly depending on other sources of entertainment.
when it comes to routine, we're up around 8am, get dressed & eat breakfast. usually about an hour later I do my workout (she "works out" with me) then I let her watch a cartoon episode while I take a shower. we then turn on music and play with toys or something, have lunch, then nap time (as she gets older it will be called chill time- go to your place in the house and do a quiet activity). she gets up have a snack, possibly go outside depending on the weather, prep dinner (sometimes another cartoon to keep her out of the kitchen, most of the time music and verbal redirection), eat dinner. reading/toys/puzzles before bath time, clean up time, cuddle time then bed around 8pm.
She is responsible for picking up the toys she took out that day. My hubs doesn't necessarily agree with her cleaning up her toys but she is old enough to take them out, she's old enough to put them away. I do the house cleaning/shopping any time throughout the day (bathroom cleaning I usually do during nap time). good luck in organizing your schedule with your baby girls!

Rebekah - posted on 05/12/2013

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I only have a 9 month old - she wakes at 7am usually - I get her for a cuddle in bed for half an hour until her dad gets up for work, then we get up , she has a bottle and watches micky mouse while I put the washing etc on. Then we have breakfast at some stage - then just hang out until about 11am and she has a sleep for an hour or so and I can hang out washing etc or just have a nap if I need one! :).. then she gets up for lunch and her dads home - hes a dairy farmer so he comes home for lunch, He hangs out with her in the lounge while I make everybody something to eat, then he goes to work and I usually give her a bath because she makes a big mess everywhere and it's cold at night at the moment.. sometimes she will play in her room or have a sleep if shes tired - we just do whatever really - it's loosly structured haha I stopped worrying about sticking to routines no matter what! and I am so much less stressed now and so is she! :) if you have 5 mins spare at night set up a treasure hunt and make it hard so they take ages haha

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Alina - posted on 06/05/2013

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I don't try to overdo the structure - but I was yelling way too much too. My kids are 7 and 5 and want constant entertainment. After breakfast I let them have a little playtime while I clean the dishes. Then we have school time (the Dollar Tree has fun math, shapes, colors, etc., workbooks for every age). After the workbooks the kids have to read to me. Then they can go play some more while I put school stuff away and start to thaw meat for dinner. They have their daily chores to do (they have to clean their own room, take out trash and wipe the table or counter). I have sidewalk chalk, jump ropes, rubber balls, and I let the kids go outside and play, like my mom used to do us. I even let them put on their swim suits and I fill balloons with water and make bubble solution and let them go outside and get wild playing. We make tents out of sheets and they can have the snacks of their choice and movies of their choice (you will have time to do your hair while they are under there lol) Oh, and I'm teaching them their Scriptures, too, and we pray together for Daddy at work and for whatever they want to pray about every day. We go to the park or the mall's play area (it's free)! Or to the Library for the summer reading program. And then there's vacation Bible school. Our church has fun activities for us, too. For example, yesterday the men of the congregation took their sons (and the sons of the single moms) out to play basketball. My husband and son came back soooo tired! And our son has ADHD and it's hard to wear him out lol. I found that the kids will entertain themselves and use their imaginations a lot when I'm not hovering over them demanding that they do things a certain way (I used to do that). Finger painting and play-doh is still fun if you don't mind the mess. And I love Connie Pauley's suggestion about putting on music and letting them dance - it works great! We love to do that. You'll find it's the simple things that make kids happy. If you go to grocery or appliance stores on delivery day, you can get cardboard boxes to bring home and they can make their own fort or club house with stickers, construction paper, etc. Thank you for this post - the other ladies have helped me, too.

Ann - posted on 05/30/2013

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I have two girls who are 11 months apart one is 8 months old and the other is 18 months old. I get up at 8am with them everyday change them dress them, give em breakfast they watch cartoons for an hour hour and a half and then they play together in their playroom (which is where i get the dishes done, a load of laundry, and some cleaning) until snack time which is usually 10:30 we go for a walk or play outside until lunch at 12:00, eat lunch, watch an hour of cartoons and both kids are amazing nappers and nap from 1 - 4 on a good day, in which that time i make myself look half decent and get the rest of the cleaning done. they have a snack+bottle, I then start dinner at 5 the kids eat dinner at 6, bath at 7, in bed by 8 and then i clean up after dinner, and make formula for the next day as my youngest is still bottle feeding she hasn't taken to solids just yet. Then I have at least 2 hours to myself before I go to bed. My youngest still wakes up two times in the night at 1am & 4am which sucks, but yeah that's about it. lol

Erika - posted on 05/30/2013

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Well what can I do when my husband doesn't like me going outside by my self I'm Epileptic so my seizures could happened at any time it my sound a little extreme or over protective but I have to respect his decisions. Anyways my 3 year old would love to do things like going outside she's very active but because of that we cant what other things can I do to keep her busy during the day so she wont watch so much tv.

Ashley - posted on 05/18/2013

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i have a baby boy turning one tomorrow actually and im a stay at home mom, without any help from his father's side of the family and to my surprise the only people that have had him overnight a few times a week for the whole year has been my mom and stepdad. my sisters planning a wedding to her thirteen year boyfriend and works full time , but she hadnt offered every to have him over or watch him so i could get away awhile. it is acrtually surprising to me because shes so loviing and givign to her friends and their kids. i just assume her only nephew she would make time for mason. but until i got sick starting months ago i had had him every day of the week with the exception of thursday night and saturday nights. but i never got two days off in a row. i had a bad gallbladder and had been nauseous and in pain or throwiwng up every time i ate. then in march it got bad and my mom and stepdad had to take mason for about four days. now here i am not even two weeks out of sugery and just had my baby for seven full days and nights three days after my surgery and am feeling better but still not eating hardly at all and stuck in the house unable to exercise and taking care of a one year old 24/7..Isometimes i wish the father was involved so i can have more than one night off and then get baby back the next day. i bought a house when i found out i was pregnant, because it came as a major surprise,considering i was 32 and had been married and with the same guy for five or six years married three. i thought i wasn't able to have children and there are no other grandkids in my family as far as out of the three siblings i have and three younger step brothers. i am struggling with my sister and mother acting like ive not been having major health issues for months and needed one weekend off. just one. well now my mom is saying "i did it with three of you" but she was married to my dad who worked and paid the bills and my dad was an excellent father to us and spent alot of time with us. she says that me as a single stay at home mom with not options for a break except from my mom when they want or can have him. im stressed out losing weight and the stress of trying to explain that in the past year ive worked my butt off to raise mason right and did it without help except from my mom and now i cant keep food down and am strill recovering from surgery and my moms telling me it should be much easier than she had it and that is asinine. in my situation i dont have the other side helping bc his father is a drinkeri need advicei and been in alot of trouble lately. i need advie

Q - posted on 05/17/2013

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I have found that the local recreation departments in town have helped avert some of the anxiety and stress in my day by offering so many activities for 18th month olds and preschoolers that are home with mom or a caretaker. Without this I would litterally be out of patience! I'm not sure how our parents did it back then, but I know parents were a lot less stressed out it seemed and a lot less engaging with us as we seem to need to be with our kids these days. I used to have plenty of kids on our block to interact with nowadays no one is home and I find it a real struggle to keep up with my 4 year old and 2 year old. I'm awakened at 5am and don't go to sleep until 10pm and woken up in the middle of the night either because I have to go to the bathroom or a child. I barely get sleep. I do allow my daughter in the afternoon to watch tv so I can get something done or just downtime for myself. Its very difficult with so much attention to technology and the obssession with keeping up with the JONES that I find you have to do what works for you and no one else!

Nidaammar - posted on 05/12/2013

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i wake up daily for my hubby then my baby wakes me up daily at about 8 whole day im busy in doing home things n baby work i also sometimes feel so bored n stressed

Connie - posted on 05/07/2013

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Bless your heart! I have 4 girls myself 18 to 8. First things first....find a park. Physical exercise will do you and the girls good plus it gives you a time when you can let them yell and run and you don't have to get upset about it. Plus...after they run and play awhile they may even sleep long enough for you to comb your hair...read a couple pages from a book...listen to some music...take a bath...whatever it is you like to do. Don't be afraid to ask for help...it does not make you a bad parent or mean you love them any less. everyone needs a break every once in a while even if you just have someone (family or babysitter) watch them for just an hour or two so you can have some you time or maybe time for a date with the husband or at least a dinner alone. I do like activities when the girls were little but try to stay simple...outside finger painting or playing in the sprinkler. you will have more time in a few years lol...as far as the house...i often find that even now i multitask lol...i get in the shower and wipe it down before i get out. turn on some music and let them dance while you sweep they will think it very funny to watch you dance with the broom lol. feel free to message me anytime! Good luck and God bless!

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