ugh well im getting accused of doing nothing

Christy - posted on 01/18/2011

Leave him with the kids one weekend and go somewhere with your friends. Do NOTHING to prepare him for it (don't stock up on the baby's food, don't stock up on diapers, etc). Make sure the laundry is piled up, too. He'll get it after a few Mom weekends out!

Tiffany - posted on 01/18/2011

WHEN I HAD THAT PROBLEM I JUST HAD HIM DO WHAT I DO ON HIS OFF DAY WHILE I RAN ERRANDS AND TO THIS DAY I DON' T GET THAT ANYMORE

Candy - posted on 01/18/2011

Stop doing anything. Take care of your son but leave the rest. Such as his cloths want get washed,no supper on the table,and anything that you do for him STOPS now. Or talk to him about taken a day or two off from work and doing your job. Let him see what you have to do. Make a list of everything you do in a given day. Those are all the ideas I have. My Hubby says he couldnt,wouldnt ever stay home if he didnt have too.lol He would watch the girls for a couple of hours so I could go out once a week to shop or have a quiet dinner. That was enough for him to know that is not what he wants to do.

Kate - posted on 01/18/2011

yes, do no cleaning, picking up, laundry, cooking for a day or two or three, since men are so slow to notice the mess. He'll soon start to understand. And don't forget to one day just get yourself ready, say l'm going shopping, l'll be back in about 4 hours. Leave the messy house and the baby with him. Then he'll really appreciate what you do.

Stifler's - posted on 01/18/2011

Right on Angela!

Ginger - posted on 01/18/2011

Try making him walk a day in your shoes... He may not ever admit that what you do is hard but after a day in your shoes he'll know and you'll know, and then leave it at that if you can. My husband says the same thing but he tells others that he couldn't do what I do everyday.. So I just do what I do and he quit spouting off about it so much....LOL

Laura - posted on 01/17/2011

I agree with Angela, show him what it's like when you actually do nothing all day.

Heather - posted on 01/17/2011

When all else fails... TASER! Kidding :) I skipped town for the day and went to the states... I live in Canada. When I came home he was like OMG thank god... :) Mom's always get the short end of the stick. If he complains, then stop doing shit, when he complains that the stuff isn't done tell him this is what doing nothing looks like. Then kick him in the shins repeatedly while your son holds him down :) Good Luck!

Lisa - posted on 01/17/2011

Talk to him. Tell him about your days, tell him how it makes you feel when he says comments like that. Maybe there is something he wants done during the day that's not getting done and it's frustrating him? Or maybe he's just being a smart butt and it's coming across wrong? If you don't talk to him...you'll never know!! :)

Angela - posted on 01/17/2011

Mine used to say that so for one day I told him in advance I was doing nothing at all and he could see what I do. So I went through my day fed my daughters and bathed them but did not clean one thing up so when he came home he said what the heck happened here I said I did nothing all day. Then I cleaned up and he told me later he was sorry. It darn near killed me to leave the mess but it worked for me. hope for the best.

LeahDawn - posted on 01/09/2011

my dh is the same way. he is asleep all day and at work all night. we only see him for a few hours a day. So he has NO idea what my day is like. Well after the millionth time of him telling me i do nothing, i got fed-up. If you can have someons follow you and record you. I did that. I also said to him to get a long weekend then gave him one day to sleep then gave him a timeline and a list then left the house without the cellphone. ( i went to a friend's so he could find me if there was an emergency) He doesn't complaine any more though he did say it wasn't that hard and still won't help any but atleast no more complainets.

Stifler's - posted on 01/09/2011

you should tell him to shut up! why do men even care if you do nothing? as long as they have dinner and the house is tidy then whatever!