Kristi - posted on 05/02/2011 ( 25 moms have responded )
Do any of you have unsupportive grand/parents in your life? My parents (MP) who live 10 minutes away from us have nothing to do with my kids. We do not have a bad relationship with them, my husband even works alongside with my mother, but they do absolutely nothing with my children.
My kids are 2 yrs old and 10 months old. MP have babysat for a total of one time.MP arrived at my son's 2nd birthday party an hour late with no explanation.
MP constantly accuse me of not letting them see their grandkids. I have said to them numerous times, come when ever you like we are home every afternoon and every night except Thusdays. They flip out because Thursday is when they want to come see them. I have even said I am not home on Thursday but the kids are here with a sitter, she won't have a problem with you stopping by. But they never have.I have even offered to take them out of playgroup one morning if they wanted to do something with the kids. That too has never happened.
Just last night I was called rude, selfish and ungrateful because I didn't give them in writing a thank you for my son's birthday gifts. I told them that I had thanked them numerous times that night and that thank you notes after a birthday party was not customary.I was told that thanking them the day of was not enough - it should be followed up with a phone call or note.I apologize and said I am very busy at home with the kids and don't have any time to be on the phone with anyone.
They act out when we bring our kids to see my mother in law, who lives an hour away. MP go on about how my mother in law doesn't buy my kids as much as them, how uninvolved she is etc...My mother in law has driven here on numerous occasions so that I can attend appointments or just have some 'me' time.Because MP won't watch the kids.
MP have called us names, sworn at us, they refuse to help feed, bathe, change or even play with my kids.A few times I have said to them if you are going to be here, be here and participate. Read to my son, sit on the sofa and watch mickey mouse with him, sing to them. They are kids not bombs! You had three kids of your own, you might be out of practice but just try.
When my husband was away on a business trip and I was home alone with the two kids, they never dropped by to help, never called, never even sent an email.
Oddly enough they will then say things to my husband and I "when are you having the next one? you know you should really look at having four kids, wouldn't that be great!"
Our children are as cute as a button and mostly well behaved. My son is in his terrible two's but he is 2 - that's normal.I am extremely frustrated and confused and not sure what to do. The list of their disinterest and corresponding behaviour goes on and on...My husband and I are not sure what this is about or why. We have tried to talk to them but they deny that this is even happening. We don't want to go to the extreme of having nothing to do with them but I am not sure if there is any point in having a relationship. Any advice or suggestions?