Laura - posted on 10/25/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
So My family consists of myself, my partner, his 7yr old son, 16 month old daughter and I am due in 7 weeks. We have had his son living with us for 4 years now and since he was still a young toddler, I knew we were going to have issues with him. The violent outbursts are so unpredictable and completely unstoppable! they happen at least 3 times a week no matter if we are at home or in public. He generally reserves the more severe ones filled with swearing (with threats on me and his sister's lives) for when his father is at work... I have tried everything.... out reach programs, therapy, doctors, friends and family, books, classes... I dont know what to do any more. No matter what we try, nothing has helped and has only made things worse. My partner is gone up to 14 hours a day, 6 days week, for work, so there is little help through most of these times, but with as consistant as we both are, things are still volitile. As soon as his father gets home he will run to him crying (and lying) saying that I have beaten him, threatened him, or refused to let him eat or drink and if his father wont hear it any more, he procceds to throw a very long and loud tantrum waking his sister, and causing a fight between his father and I.... I am at my breaking point. I dont know what to do anymore. I will not split apart my family and leave just because of my step sons issues. I know it is not the "step mom" syndrome..... I have raised him from the time he was only a few months old. I don't know what to do any more.... Please! Do any of you moms have some advice that could help?