Verbal Abuse since I was pregnant help?

Dania - posted on 07/13/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hello,
I've never really opened up to anybody about this but my newly husband of 5 months dark side came out. When I was 37 weeks pregnant I went to visit my husband at his military base thats in another state and things went wrong. It was right after I found out he was watching porn on his phone he flipped out when I found out and we were driving and he started cussing me out calling me all sorts of names and kicked me out of his car leaving me alone for 3 hours in a town that I don't know. I had an anxiety attack and passed out, later I woke up with emts taking my blood pressure and I notice my phone was blowing up with messages from him telling me I'm a whore, I'm worthless and I just broke down and I never break down. Second meltdown was a few days later we were on the freeway and he was upset that I wasn't talking to him from the incident and he began screaming at me and driving really fast and it terrified me I was so scared for me and my unborn baby. Sorry this is hard to talk about it's stressful and besides the other times he went off on me now it's worse cause he's pissed that I haven't lost all my baby fat from the pregnancy, or that my stretchmarks haven't gone away. He calls me an ugly animal, says I'm worthless, that I'm not a good mom, he threatened to take my baby boy from me. And I'm so scared I don't know what to do I just need to talk to someone about this and he was never like this at all he was very sweet and my first love and when I got pregnant he changed...I just blocked his number from my phone and he's sending me messages like you f Ing bitch answer the phone, fat bitch, answer or I'll take our son from you and you'll never see him again... I don't know what to do I'm just lost.

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Michelle - posted on 07/14/2017

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You need to get away from him and change your number. You also need a lawyer to sort out custody, visitation and child support for your child.
If you don't have any friends or family that you can stay with, go to a women's shelter. You may even want to take out a restraining order to stop him from contacting you.
You need to think about you and your child first. All the abuse he is hurling at you will go against him in the long run but you need to file reports ASAP.

Emily - posted on 07/13/2017

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I think you did the right thing by blocking him, I would contact the police, show them the messages and get them to have a word with him ASAP!!

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Christina - posted on 08/04/2017

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If you haven't done so already get away from him. Change your phone number. Move with family you know you will be safe with. There are also agencies who will help you! Keep every message he sends you, even voicemail's. I would get a restraining order asap. You can use the text messages and voicemail's to back up what he is doing. After your restraining order goes through if he comes near you call the cops.

Miranda - posted on 07/28/2017

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Oh and get the positive discipline books when you can for your child. A great way to help the baby grow up in a healthier way.

Miranda - posted on 07/28/2017

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You can also call 611 to get agencies in your area that might be able to help. Prayers going your way. Great advice ladies.

Danielle - posted on 07/21/2017

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I agree with the other ladies. You definitely need to put you and your child first. Children are innocent and need support and strength. I know its hard but dig really deep. Women are stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Find a support group or individual counseling. It will help lots. Stay strong and encouraged! God Loves you! When people treat you that way its a reflection of them not you!

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