Well I'm having trouble making my son stay in his room at nap time and night time. Don't know what to do anymore, I put a gate at the door of his room and he figured away out and then I put those door knobs things so they won't open the door but once again he figured that out too. Please help?

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Emma - posted on 01/09/2009

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Had the same problem with my daughter. Do what Lori burdette advised. Return him to his bed without talking to him. As soon as you hear him get out the bed and left his room get up and take him back that sec. Dont give him the chance to get to ur room as it becomes more stressful for him to return as hes closer towards his goal of being with mummy.



If he cries leave him. Only respond as I say when he leaves his room.



However I disagree with Lori on the spanking. Totaly inappropriate. You wont achieve anything just raise tensions. Your child may not react calmly to this. The environment needs to be calm and relaxing. You will have this mastered in 1wk. I seeked advice from health visitor and it really did work. good luck

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Jacqui - posted on 01/23/2009

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My son is two. We did the exact thing you did. The gate then the knob cover. Although with mine he took aprt the knob cover. He doesn't know how to open when it's together. So what I did was taped it together. Then he couldn't get apart and get out. It worked for me. Hope it worked for you,

Rebekah - posted on 01/10/2009

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We had the same proble, with my daughter. We finally had to put a screen door hook latch on the outisde of the door up high where we were the only ones the could reach it and her brother (they're twins) couldn't reach it and let her out.

Joanne - posted on 01/10/2009

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i agree try putting him back to be when he gets out also u can try a minute syetem go in at 2 minutes 4 minutes untill u are going in at 10 minute intervals so he knows you are still there but not giving in, as with the door handle try a facewasher jammed in the door up high

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Put him back in a crib. He probably won't like it, but you can explain that he has to act like a big boy to have a big boy bed.

Lori - posted on 01/09/2009

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You didn't say how old your son is, but I would advise you stick to your guns.  You will have a couple of rough nights....but put him to bed, close the door.  When he gets up or opens the door, put him back in the bed...NO TALKING TO HIM.....close the door.......when he gets up...do it again.  Keep doing it over and over until he finally gives in.  Right now, he knows he can win or get whatever he wants (maybe you finally lay down with him now??)  but don't.  Tell him before bed what you expect then follow through.  If he is 2 1/2 or older, I'd tell him if he gets up, he will get a spanking.  Then pop his bottom and place him back in bed...no talking.  Do this however many times he gets up.  He will eventually figure out that bedtime is bedtime. 



The other way I've done this with one of my children, because discipline didn't phase him.....I used a chart system.  I let him put a sticker on the chart every morning that he went to bed and stayed in bed.  Then I had a treasure box he could get something out of.  Once he mastered one night, then we stretched it to two nights.  When he was able to do two nights, then he got a treasure.  (These can be a piece of gum or candy, stickers, toys from Happy meals that you save, buy a bag of plastic farm animals he can collect, etc.)  This worked well for him.  My daughter, she could care less about the treats.....so discipline worked with her.   If you don't spank, then still do the system of putting him in the bed, closing the door..no talking.  He wants you to converse with him.



Good luck.

Emily - posted on 01/09/2009

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Check out the "No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers & Preschoolers" by Elizabeth Pantley. My older girls both gave up their last nap just before 2 1/2, so, maybe he's not tired at naptime and if he does nap he's not tired at bedtime. If he's old enough to reason with, you could offer stickers or something. Also, I found that the more I tried to lock my kids in their rooms... the more they tried to come out, they were just testing boundaries. Once we left the door open and the hall light on (for bed time) they stayed in their beds and would just yell if they needed us.

Lori - posted on 01/09/2009

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You didn't say how old your son is, but I would advise you stick to your guns.  You will have a couple of rough nights....but put him to bed, close the door.  When he gets up or opens the door, put him back in the bed...NO TALKING TO HIM.....close the door.......when he gets up...do it again.  Keep doing it over and over until he finally gives in.  Right now, he knows he can win or get whatever he wants (maybe you finally lay down with him now??)  but don't.  Tell him before bed what you expect then follow through.  If he is 2 1/2 or older, I'd tell him if he gets up, he will get a spanking.  Then pop his bottom and place him back in bed...no talking.  Do this however many times he gets up.  He will eventually figure out that bedtime is bedtime. 



The other way I've done this with one of my children, because discipline didn't phase him.....I used a chart system.  I let him put a sticker on the chart every morning that he went to bed and stayed in bed.  Then I had a treasure box he could get something out of.  Once he mastered one night, then we stretched it to two nights.  When he was able to do two nights, then he got a treasure.  (These can be a piece of gum or candy, stickers, toys from Happy meals that you save, buy a bag of plastic farm animals he can collect, etc.)  This worked well for him.  My daughter, she could care less about the treats.....so discipline worked with her.   If you don't spank, then still do the system of putting him in the bed, closing the door..no talking.  He wants you to converse with him.



Good luck.

Keisha - posted on 01/09/2009

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Quoting Laura:

Well I'm having trouble making my son stay in his room at nap time and night time. Don't know what to do anymore, I put a gate at the door of his room and he figured away out and then I put those door knobs things so they won't open the door but once again he figured that out too. Please help?




I had the same problem with my three year old I finally after up all night putting him in his room turned the doorknob around and locked him in and i know it sounds horrible but it worked and now i never have to do that b/c he knows it is nap or bed time it's not going to hurt him it's his room and it's safe. Or just keep on taking him back don't talk don't give up just keep putting him to bed and eventually it will work i promise super nanny doesn't lie it works. It may take days or a week but eventually he will know you mean buisness.

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