were to put the big boy bed

Rachael - posted on 04/24/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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my almost two yr old climbed out if his crib last nite so do i put him in a big boy bed in my room? or put him in a big boy bed in the room with his older 4 and 7 yr brothers hoping he doesn't bother them at nite , if so do i put him to sleep first or after they go to bed?

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We left our oldest in his room when we put him in a big boy bed. Same with our twins who are 3. My twins share a room and have a bunk bed, since they were 2. They did break the ceiling fan so now they only have a light in the room. They talk for at least 30 minutes before they fall asleep at night and sometimes we have to get on them about it because they should be going to sleep. But overall, they like being together.

I say put the boys all together and see what happens. Give it a month before you try anything new. As far as bedtime - only you can determine that based on their personalities and the 2 and 4 year old's nap schedule. Good luck!

Rachael - posted on 04/26/2009

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So I layed him down in th eboys room to see what would happen with out them and when I went to check on him because it was very quiet I found him on the top bunk bed playing with the fan so what now?I cant have him climb up their and fall off !

Rachael - posted on 04/26/2009

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My oldest slept on me, with me near me until he was two and we moved cross country figured that was a good time to make changes but I think it was harder for me than him I was up all nite and jumped at any sound I would sleep in the living room so I could hear if he was ok and now that im considering to put my youngest in with the other boys I already figured i'd be sleeping on the couch so I could hear him he gets up at midnite and between 4 and 6 when we moved my middle child out we went and bought bunk beds and made a big deal out of it and i was more comfortable with having a big brother with him and only slept out of my bed for a couple weeks

Cathy - posted on 04/26/2009

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Yah, luckily he's a very sound sleeper once he's crammed himself in between Mommy and Daddy. He just craves the warmth of the close contact and its his safe haven, like a cocoon...he's so happy to be able to stay that he just curls up and we all get blissful sleep. Whatever works, right? ;}

Sarah - posted on 04/25/2009

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Quoting Cathy:

I know it's not the most popular thing to admit, but I actually don't mind when my 3 yr old comes in my bed at 4 am>>he just snuggles in and falls back to sleep...I figure they're only little for such a short time and you know they'll want their independence soon enough, so why not enjoy the cuddling times when you can? Co-sleeping gets such a bad rap, but I enjoy it, and I know my son does too. I don't think it hurts them in any way, my son is very secure and well adjusted and sociable (not at all clingy) during the day. I don't think its a battle worth fighting>>and it doesn't last forever...:}


I kind of know how you feel. I don't want them in my bed at night because they kick me all night and take the space, but for naps I do what you do. I snuggle with my four year old and I love it. If my fifteen month old would stay asleep in my bed I would take naps with him too. But, yeah, I love cuddling with my kids. I can't believe your three year old doesn't kick you all night. That is lucky.

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i had my daughter in my room with her own bed till she was 4. we waited until she could come down the steps on her own with out any worries and she did great. my room in master on main floor so it worked for us to do that. but she never got in mine she had her own big girl bed.so it really what you feel is best for him. her brother also has a room upstairs . good luck with it.

Cathy - posted on 04/25/2009

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I know it's not the most popular thing to admit, but I actually don't mind when my 3 yr old comes in my bed at 4 am>>he just snuggles in and falls back to sleep...I figure they're only little for such a short time and you know they'll want their independence soon enough, so why not enjoy the cuddling times when you can? Co-sleeping gets such a bad rap, but I enjoy it, and I know my son does too. I don't think it hurts them in any way, my son is very secure and well adjusted and sociable (not at all clingy) during the day. I don't think its a battle worth fighting>>and it doesn't last forever...:}

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My oldest boy(6) did that until he was nearly 4. That's what I meant about never leaving ^^

And it's so hard in the middle of the night to march them back to bed, we just want to stay asleep, right, so it ends up being the easiest thing just to let them in.

Short term solution, long term headache. My youngest (3) will still do it from time to time, once every week or two, but they do outgrow it eventually.

Best of Luck, I know this is not a fun stage to be stuck in.

Rachael - posted on 04/25/2009

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ya..... guess who ended up in my bed at 430 this am ....... all that work not to co sleep and now im co sleeping well im sure ill figure it out in time we always do right?

Sarah - posted on 04/24/2009

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I would at least start with the routine you want most and if it doesn't work you can tweak it a little. If you expect a certain behavior and be consistent with the rules he might get it. Good luck!

Rachael - posted on 04/24/2009

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my older boys moved into the same room two years ago and it was a lot of yelling "go to bed" but now they just go and some times i have to yell at them, but the baby gets up during the nite still and bothers my 4 yr old just when hes napping so im not sure how he would be during the nite and id rather have one up than all of them up at 4 in the am. But im also afraid that if I dont do the transition at one time it may take me forever to do it

Cathy - posted on 04/24/2009

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I'm wondering the same thing. I'd like to put my 3 yr old in the same room with his older brother who's 8, but I'm afraid neither one of them will end up sleeping - just giggling and being silly all night. They both go to bed at the same time, but I suppose it would be better if the younger one went first...I guess its just trial and error at first.

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Don't put him in your room!! He'll never leave! :)

I think being in the room with his brothers would help him feel like a big kid, too, but if he is going to wake them up, maybe rethink the decision. My 3 and 6 year olds share a room, too, and I used to put lil bro to bed first, and big bro after, but now they both go at the same time. (lil bro naps). Everyone wakes up at the same time, so I tell them both to be quiet so the other can sleep, it works for me. Every kid is different, though.

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