What do moms think of Homeschooling?

Kellie - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 60 moms have responded )

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Looking for advise on homeschooling from those who have tried it. My daughter will be entering public school next fall and am wondering if home schooling will be more beneficial (i.e., I will be in control of what she is learning). Please respond with honest pros and cons...

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Merry - posted on 01/11/2010

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i was homeschooled from the beginning and my husband went to elementary and middle school in public then private and ended up being homeschooled for highschool. we both loved it. really loved it and i have always planned on homeschooling my kids. as for socialization, a hs comedian said in his show "when people ask me , dont you worry about her socialization? i answer YES that WHY im homeschooling!" i agree totally. i heard a statistic that shocked me, most middleschoolers have had their first oral sexual experience before they graduate to highschool. I was stunned. this is yet another reason i will homeschool my kids. my mom decided to hs because she said that she had dreamed about having kids her whole life and now that she had us she didnt want someone else spending so much time with us. I agree and I want to be the one shaping who my kids will become, not whoever is teaching that grade. I never want to let my kids learn things that will shape them into adults that i wouldnt be proud of so i want to be the one teaching them.
as for cons
its alot of time and effort
it gets harder each year (scholastically)
you dont get a "break" when the kids leave for school
you cant put off chores for when the kids leave
but as for pros
you decide what she learns
and when she learns it
you can let her learn faster in some things and take her time in others
you can take a day off if she needs it
you can pick when and where field trips are
she wont have the possible emotional scarring from teasing and bullying
you decide what she gets punnished for
you can help her in chosing friends as she doesnt have a ton to chose from
you can take vacations during the school year or take extra time off whenever
it is documented tht in general hs kids are more advanced
you decide which religious teachings she has
and doesnt have
you teach her sex ed when you see fit and only what info is appropriate
she is likely to have a close relationship with you!

Laura

Tally - posted on 01/11/2010

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Quoting Melissa:

I have been a teacher for 10 years. I do feel that there ares some benefits to home schooling but I wouldn't go that route. There are socialization aspects that go along with taditional schools that parents could not possible make up for at home.( friendships, competition, group work, plays, physical play time........ )Academically, you may be able to provide for your child but children need socialization just as much as academics :) good luck :)


I don't mean to be disrespectful ... but this is the farthest from the truth... and actually has become a private joke amongst us home schoolers.  Home schooling does not mean being stuck at home 24/7.. There are so many wonderful activities that my kids are involved with... sometimes I have to be careful that they don't socialize too much, and get some work done.   When you home school, you simply ge to choose whom the kids will socialize with!  I have 5 children - ages ranging from 4 -19.   My 19 year old for example who has already graduated, still thanks me to this day for home schooling her.  She was very involved in many activities.  Dance, drama, political club, youth group, 4H... She did not miss a thing.

Tally - posted on 01/11/2010

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I am a homeschooling mom... going on my 15th year. I am absolutely convinced this was the right choice for my kids... but really ...there's so much to say about it. I know that there's a group here on COM, you might want to join this group:

Homeschooling Moms on Circle of Moms

And maybe see if your local library has a few books on home schooling. It is much better to do your research first... decide if it's for you... and what style of home schooling you fit into.
Also... find a support group in your area, and get to know some of the moms. Many groups will have monthly meetings for the moms to chat about topics.
One of the benefits to home schooling is that you really get to decide who your children will be spending time with... so to some degree you have control on what type of friends they will have. This is huge to me.
Feel free to contact me any time... my email is mom4wellness@live.com

make it a great day!
Tally

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2010

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I am personally pulling my children out of public school to homeschool. I feel like I can give them more of what they need at home. My daughter is home this year and she loves it. I feel like they were really falling behind in public school because they don't get enough one on one attention. That is just my opinion.

Jodi - posted on 01/11/2010

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I have been considering the same thing...my daughter is only 10 months...but I figured if I was thinking of it, I might as well learn what i need to learn and take as much time as I needed to figure it out. I have a cousin who was homeschooled and I asked her to share her thoughts on her own experience and she shed a different light on the matter that I had not seen before. If you're interested in reading it, let me know...I do not want to post it publicly as it was between the two of us, but I would be willing to send it to you via private message if you are interested. :) Message me to let me know if you would like to read it.

Kellie - posted on 01/11/2010

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I agree with the socialization issue. In my resarch, I have found that there are homeschooling groups that get together once a week for trips and group activities to promote socialization. I am also hoping that the schools here accept homeschoolers in band/chorus or other activities. Having them at home, from what I am reading, my protect them from the bullying and teasing that seems rampant in public schools, and from my experience in HS, the peer pressure and clicky groups that are created. I need to do more research, and I will take the advice of visiting some homeschool groups to talk to the moms and get more feedback. THanks for all your posts!

Kristina - posted on 01/11/2010

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I just started homeschooling my son, he's seven and it's the best! You do have to have a lot of patience, as far as socialization, No worry's there are a lot of resources for extra curricular activities, and some charter schools pay for them!

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If I ever decide to homeschool then I will make sure that my son participates in other group activities outside of the home. The lack of group socialization is what worries me the most about homeschooling him.

Melissa - posted on 01/11/2010

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I have been a teacher for 10 years. I do feel that there ares some benefits to home schooling but I wouldn't go that route. There are socialization aspects that go along with taditional schools that parents could not possible make up for at home.( friendships, competition, group work, plays, physical play time........ )Academically, you may be able to provide for your child but children need socialization just as much as academics :) good luck :)

Jade - posted on 01/11/2010

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pros..

you will be in total control

it can take place at a time and place to suit you both

the bond with your child will stay strong

individual attention

you have your childs best interest at heart

work at your childs pace



Cons...

can you offer your child all the help they need, especially as they get older and more advanced?

are you organized and disaplined enough yourself to get enough work done?

do you really have enough uninterupted time to devote?



I did it for a while when my daughter was nine. Get lots of advise and see if there is a local group you can join before you make a decision.

Good luck x

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