Darcy - posted on 10/21/2010 ( 73 moms have responded )
Ok, so obviously I'm a stay-at-home-mom, and my husband works long hours in the oilfields. We have been together going on 12 years and it seems that in the past 2 years we've been having issues. Ok, not 'we' but him. I won't go into too much detail, but it's a problem with porn and 'sneaking' out with friends and not coming home till 4-6 in the mornings. Obviously, I have forgiven him & we always work through these issues....only for them to pop back up a couple months later. Well, my issue now is that the other night his brother came by to hang out. It was about 11 at night, and my husband came into the house and asked me if he could go with his brother to pick up an old friend & that he should only be gone about an hour. Not thinking too much about it, of course I said yes. Well, needless to say, about 4 hours pass by and I'm stewing sitting in my bedroom. I go outside to talk to him, and soon find out after much screaming, yelling and insisting that he tells me the truth, he had left this house with the intentions of going to a strip club!!! I asked him if he had gotten a lap dance, and his answer was no. Well, the next morning, I find out from my sister in law, that in fact he did get a lap dance, they never went to pick up a friend, and he knew that I was trying to reach him on his cell, but wanted to avoid me in fear of me getting upset.
He lied to me!!!! And he paid some nasty woman $20 to rub all over him! I even found out that this lap dance took place in a private room! I still think that I'm not getting the whole truth from him, and he wants me to forgive him & work on our marriage some more, but my question is....is paying another woman to rub on you cheating????
How many times am I supposed to let this man lie to me & deceive me, and I'm supposed to forgive him? Granted, I married this man through thick and thin, but lately it seems to be more of the thin.....HELP, I am in desperate need of some advice!