What do you wear all day?

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My husband doesn't like the fact that I wear lounge clothes all day (like sweats, comfy pants, t-shirts). He would love it if he came home and I was in a cute dress with my hair all done. I just don't see the point in getting dressed up to stay at home. I have a 7 month old and everyday I clean and/or do laundry, dishes, cooking, baking, workouts etc. Am I the only one who doesn't feel the need to look like a beauty queen everyday?

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Sara - posted on 12/30/2009

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I do the same thing. We have a 6 month old son and for the most part I just stay in sweats and what not. But every so often I dress up for my fiance. He doesn't mind me in sweats but he does appreciate when I make the effort to look nice for him.

Chrissy - posted on 12/30/2009

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nope, you are in good company. I wear what I want, all day (I do get my kids dressed, but they usually want to wear sweat/lounge pants, or cotton dresses), no makeup and a ponytail. My husband rarely complains-- we comprimised. When he wants me to get dressed or whatever he sends me a text 2 hrs minimum before he comes home...

Jeannette - posted on 12/30/2009

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Nope I'm the same way I were sleep pants and t-shirts all day the only time I get dressed is if I have to go to the store. I dont think that i need to get dressed up with makeup and all that if I'm at home with the kids. Who is going to see me but them.

Ashley - posted on 12/30/2009

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im a stay at home mom. i wear pjs all day. i only get dress if im going to the store. if im dressed in reg clothes and my bf comes home...he'll be like why you all dressedup...ha ha

Katie - posted on 12/30/2009

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I start off in pj's and then change into baggy jeans and a comfy shirt. And half the time I don't put on any makeup unless I go out. I do try to look nice when we have our date nights but my hubby thinks I look pretty no matter what I wear or not wear.

Courtney - posted on 12/30/2009

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Ask him if he lives on this side of reality, girl really. Hair done and cute dress.. what does he think this is?? Sex in the City?? NOT LIKELY. Tell him you could try and do all that but that he has to provide his wallet for a new dress when your baby spits up on it and you get dish water all over it or some grease from cookin his meals splatters on ya. Further more that he pays your expenses for all that hair he wants done cause I know he aint thinkin that you got time to stand in a mirror and primp with a baby on your breast!! Cause girl, let me tell you.. I start out in lounge clothes, only to wind up in my pj's come sundown. And when my husband feels like he can't afford me and don't like my lounge clothes and pjs.. he can let the door hit 'im where the good Lord split him cause I aint about sittin around my house tryin to play dress up to feed anyone's ego!! Put your foot down girl!! He only has to do a little bit of work each day like every other man in the world. YOU on the other hand.. you cook, clean, do dishes, laundry, take care of his kid, have diaper detail and feeding detail everytime the mood so strikes your new baby. etc etc. You do and dress how you want and how you feel comfortable. You have a lot to do in the course of your day. God forbid it include the shopping, too. UGH, kids and shopping by yourself.. SUCKS. So does comin home and puttin it all away by yourself while your newborn screams at ya from a carseat while your "dogs" are barkin from all the walkin through the store you just did!! Does his job involve standing or sitting? If it involves sitting.. tell him you wish you could sit all day, then you might feel rested enough to pursue the venture of tryin to look like a beauty queen. If it involves standing, does it involve standing in one place?? If it does, tell him imagine not only having to stand, but to be running.. runnin for dishes, runnin for bottles, runnin for wipes to realize you forgot the diaper or change of clothes for when your baby pees out of her diaper. Then runnin to throw it all away. Let him know how much you run. If he still don't get it.. hand the baby to him one day on his day off .. once your house has had the chance to grow funk in every corner.. and say.. here ya go.. its my day off, take care of everything, do it in your best clothes, and I'll be in the bedroom in my lounge clothes when all the mess gets to be too much and you feel like you need to change into clothes better suited to the mess detail YOU have to contend with!! GO GET HIM, GIRL!!

Kelsey - posted on 12/30/2009

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Sounds like he belongs in the 50s! lol! Im lucky, my fiance could care less if Im done up or not. I usually wear lounge clothes, no makeup, and throw my hair in a pony. I used to be the kind of girl that always had to look her best and wouldnt even let my bf see me without makeup, now that Im a mother, I havent let myself go, but Ive become much less high maintnance. Im trying to work on at least putting a little makeup on, and jeans, but I havent gotten the hang of it yet, and jeans are much less comfy than pjs! ;) Dont know what to tell ya other than to do what makes you happy. :)

Taneshia - posted on 12/29/2009

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Yeah thats how i go around the house, but i do like to wear something nice for my spouse(thus leading to my 3 sons lol). but honestly he has never said anything about it, so i do it mainly for my own reasons.

Heidi - posted on 12/29/2009

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Quoting Renae:

Hey, just thought this was fitting... I read this old 50's article from a women's magazine once and it said that an hour before your husband comes home you should change out of your cleaning clothes and into your "welcoming dress", put on fresh lipstick and do your hair, then wait at the door for him with his pipe if he smokes, a drink of his choice and his slippers and always make the house smell like dinner is cooking even if you haven't started yet just put some garlic in a fry pan so it smells like dinner is cooking!!!!!!!! Maybe we should all give that a try! ha ha ha LOL :)



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Kristina - posted on 12/29/2009

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Unless I go somewhere I stay in my jammies... I already have enough laundry to why in the world would I create more?!

Jackie - posted on 12/29/2009

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If I am not planning on going anywhere I just stay in my PJ's lol . What's the point in getting all dolled up when you are going to be at home all day cooking and cleaning etc.... You should tell your husband that if he wants you to get all dressed up he should take you out some where nice lol

Laura - posted on 12/29/2009

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I feel the same way you do what is the point?? I only get ready if i am planning on leaving the house althoug it is nice when I do get ready because then my husband gives me complaments and I do feel better about myself although it is a pain in the you know what to get ready with 3 kids running around to go no where and do the same ol thing everyday

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No you're not. I only get dressed when leaving the house, i see no point in dirty-ing other clothes when I'm just going to be at home all day.

Jolene - posted on 12/29/2009

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most of the time I just wear comfy clothes, but I do feel better when I get dressed and do my hair and makeup at least somewhat... I notice I get crabby when someone pops in for a visit and I look like I just got out of bed.. So what I need is some"pretty" lounging clothes..=)

Michelle - posted on 12/29/2009

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I have been a stay at home mom for 14 yrs and no longer chase babies as mine are 1/2 grown. and I still do not wear dressy clothes as they would be ruined in an hour. If your hubby wants you to be wearing something nice ask him to buy you a few outfits that fits your new body and put one on every few days about an hour before he is due home comb your hair and add lip gloss. He will see you are making an efforts and you might feel better too.

Lee - posted on 12/29/2009

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I wear sweat pants and a shirt if I don't have to go out. Best way to go there. lol.

Jennifer - posted on 12/29/2009

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A common theme among even the greatest of hubbies is that they are sorely disillusioned when it comes to the amount of work it is to stay at home with the children! The ONLY time off I get is when I am sleeping! Heck no you don't have to dress up! Try having a date night every week or so and get really dressed up, even if it is just dinner or a movie, over-dress for the occasion. My hubbie bought me several gym/work out outfits for me to wear around the house so that I look a bit more polished, even if I do walk around with poo and barf on myself!

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I used to have a sales career and put on a suit...now I am in a different "line" of work and my work clothes involve a hoodie! So yes, I wear sweats around the house, but NOT gross work-out sweats...something that matches from Target, maybe a cute headband and a quick dust of powder and blush, too. BUT - I do this for ME! I just want to feel like I still matter and that I am still a "girl" in addition to being a mom to my five month-old. I may have "blap" and pee on me at the end of the day, but I feel better that am a little pulled together - not June Cleaver-pearls and pumps, just cleaned up. Otherwise, I think I would get way depressed about myself. I have a "mom" bob haircut that I never thought I would have and I am ready for my day, incl. shower, in 20 minutes flat. I do think an important part of a relationship is trying to maintain health and appearance for your partner, but within reason.

Stephanie - posted on 12/29/2009

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For probably about the first 5 months I only dressed to go somewhere..my hubby works nights so he only sees me from about 5pm till 8pm on work days. lol

Now that it has gotten a little easier to do things like shower...I made it a point to go out and buy me some cute but comfy work out/lounge clothes that I could be in during the day.

I just got sick of being in my pjs..makes me feel lazy some days.

I would also leave your hubby with the kiddos all day for one day. I mean get up and out before they are all awake and come home around dinner time. Lets see if he can get his teeth brushed and in some'fancy' clothes by the time you get home LOL



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Melody - posted on 12/29/2009

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I am comfy in my sweats and a tank........makes it easy to nurse my daughter, and I love being comfortable! I have 3 kids and I usually don't get dressed up unless I have to run to town for something......we live out in the country. My husband doesn't mind what I wear, although he would love it if I would wear nothing at all.....to bed of course! ...lol, he'll be waiting a LONG time for that wish to come true!!

Michelle - posted on 12/29/2009

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I think we all feel that way! Sometime i end up wearing what I wore to bed, running pants and a tank! Nut on weekend I make my boyfriend to most of the dirties so I can wear somewhat normal clothing haha.

Emily - posted on 12/29/2009

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I love this ... I never get dressed its always sweats or shorts ... with ts and tanks... my boyfriend never says anything but I think its cuz he knows better lol ... I put on make-up and get dressed when I leave the house but im not going to do it just to sit at home all day my daughter dont care what I look like!!

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no your not the only one. i sit in pjs like every day. i think its pointless to get dressed to go no where.

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try some nice underwear under the sweats, it workds for me, cause he knows it's what is on the inside that matters once these kids go to bed. It really works to feel better about yourself too, when I straightern my hair, I just feel better. A little lipstick doesn't hurt either. Don't forget to leave him alone for a whole day with the baby once a weeek to go shopping for all that stuff too, that will really teach him--- what your day is like

Joanna - posted on 12/29/2009

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I make it a point to not wear any lounging clothes... personally it makes me feel more productive just putting thought into what I wear. Most days it's just jeans and a tee or somewhat nice top, or a sweater. But getting out of my jammies transforms me. I make sure all my clothes are easily washable (no dry-clean only stuff!) since being a SAHM is a messy job, but I still like to feel pretty and like I look my best.

Nicole - posted on 12/29/2009

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I absolutely never stay in my pj's or lounge clothes, even if I'm not going anywhere. And yes, I do cook, clean and take care of the baby all day. Everyday I get dressed (not fancy) but jeans/shorts and a nice shirt and my makeup. It makes me feel good about myself!

Cari - posted on 12/29/2009

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I work from home during the day, so I am typically in Victoria Secret sweats and a t-shirt. He would do the same thing if he was home all day. They are just going off what they see on tv and that is just not reality...lol.

Kristen - posted on 12/29/2009

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lol im the same way most of the time i just wear my pjs all day. but if it is a real problem for your hubby just change your clothes and fix your hair when he is on his way home.

Amanda - posted on 12/29/2009

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i dont think there is a point to getting dressed to stay home. tell him to take to to dinner and leave the baby with baby sitter.

Victoria - posted on 12/29/2009

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Alot of guys think that we should look like beautyqueens and do everything around the house cook,clean takecare of the kids ect... but if you don't want to put makeup on ir get a dressy good man who really has time for that too i rather play with my son than put makeup on

Jennifer - posted on 12/29/2009

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yep...i am lucky if i get out of my sweats, unless i am going somewhere and even then it is iffy. I do try to get dressed up every so often though...i know my husband enjoys to see the pre-baby me here and there...plus, it makes me feel good too. I think your hubby just misses all the flattering things about your body that are hidden in sweats and t-shirts...

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If I am wearing a clean shirt and so are my kids, I consider my job done. As long as you are comfy and not dirty (although spit-up is hard to avoid) I wouldn't worry about it. This isn't the 50s!

Dawn - posted on 12/29/2009

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Maybe you guys can have a date night or special day once a month so that you can get dressed up for your husband. It is not only good for him, but necessary for you as well. Get a sitter and take a evening to reconnect with your inner beauty queen.

Heba - posted on 12/29/2009

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Hey sara,

no you are not the only one,,me too really like to stay at home weraing a comfy clothes,because of the home work ..etc

but at the end they are men they really like to see us like a Queen every night ,even if we stay working at home & take care of baby,then u really feel tierd & want to sleep.but my husband wants at night to see me a queen wearing a cute luingree.so i'm trying doing that at least twice aweek,the problem is beside i've beind tierd that i gained a lot o wieght which make me feel that i'm not look sexy in luingree like before.

Rachel - posted on 12/28/2009

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I am a stay at home mom with four small daughters and am pregnant with the fifth.. whether or not I'm pregnant I wear yoga pants or sweat pants and t-shirts/hoodies all day. If I find the time, I do do my hair and wear makeup but as far as clothing goes, I wear sweats like its my job. Our job is tough and I think sometimes the husbands dont always remember, but I'm totally with you!

Erinn - posted on 12/28/2009

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For my own mental health, I make sure to dress, moisturize, and perfume myself daily. Even if I am just staying home, I feel better about myself having put in the effort.



As to whether or not my husband even notices, I can't even say. He's never said anything to me one way or the other. And don't get me wrong - I have definitely had lounge days.



And by the way - I didn't start getting dressed every day until after my daughter was a year old. I spent a lot of her first year in ripped cutoffs and nursing shirts. Now it's a bonding activity for us to brush our teeth together, put on moisturizer together, and spray on a little body spray together. (She is two.)

Heidi - posted on 12/28/2009

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I am with you....if I put a bra on I feel like I have gotten dressed for the day....lol



I have four kids (ages 6 twins that are 3 and then a 9 mo old) I need to be able to move and not worry about getting messy or dirty.

Patience - posted on 12/28/2009

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i say it is important to look good you feel better about yourself, and make him feel better i have a 3 year old and a 7 week old and i still get dressed up and put makeup on even if i don't go any where on most days.

Angela - posted on 12/28/2009

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It's so easy just to throw sweats on! I have been trying lately to get dresses in my cute jeans and bling shirts!! And you know what i actually fill better!!!!

Angela - posted on 12/28/2009

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Your not alone. I have a 3 yr old and a 7 month old so there is really no time to get all dressed up for when my husband comes home. I save the dressing up for are date nights. I dont see the point in getting dressed up when Im so busy during the day with the kids and the household things.

Amber - posted on 12/28/2009

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I had been wondering the same thing. I always wear sweats and pjs all day because what is the point with a baby getting you all messy. I try to dress up on the weekend when we go out.

Cathy - posted on 12/28/2009

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I completely agree with not spending the time to get all gussied up to stay home and get food/ unidentifiable stains all over you. To be a stay at home mother I have had to sacrifice to get the benifits of staying home. I look at it as saving money. You save on makeup and laundry detergent. HA ha

Katharine - posted on 12/28/2009

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Okay, so I'm a little torn with this one myself. I like to try to look nice when I have time, but as soon as I'm dressed in something nice...I have an assortment of random stuff all over me. Baby food, snot, drool, cleaning products, ect.ect.ect. I say it is a good habbit to get dressed everyday as if you were going in public...even if your tossing something on right before your hubby comes home.

Gidgit - posted on 12/28/2009

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I have a 3 week old and i stay in my pj's or sweats all day every day unless I have an appointment or church. When my hubby comes home from work he changes into sweats and does not complain at all about what I wear. In fact the first words out of his mouth when he comes home is " how are my beautiful girls?" He then takes care of baby so I can shower and have some alone time.

I put on clean PJ's to get ready for the evening! I do love getting dressed up for him but we were empty nesters and I worked full time outside the house until a month ago. Now I'm on "vacation" from work until baby is a bit older and I will work in my PJ's right here at home!

Aya - posted on 12/28/2009

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I run around with 4 kids all day long and looking good is the last thing on my mind! I try to look cute for my hubby at least once a week, but he tends not to notice. He stays home all day with me too(though he doesn't help with the kids much at all). It would be nice if he actually looked nice for a change.

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i stay in my sweats until its time to pick my daughter up from school. the only time i get ready early is if i am going somewhere after i take my daughter to school. i'm the only one home with my 2 yr old and 1 yr old - no need to get dressed up for them :)

Samantha Neil - posted on 12/28/2009

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well I have tryed a few things when i dont get dressed up i notice we dont cuddle as much as i dont feel soo good about my self so if i dont like the way i feel how can i want him to like it so what i do is have a fun day with my kids then when they take there nap or just as my hubby is home he watched the kids and i take a bath and get ready and look good he then will rub my back and/or put cream on my feet i feel even better and just enjoy looking preety for abit then after dinner i put back on my pjs and enjoy time in my clothing with him as well but a bit of lip gloss and eye liner does make me feel pretty and sexy all in one do what makes u feel good who cares what others think ..

Debbie - posted on 12/28/2009

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some days i feel the same but its not good to stay in ur sweats all day everyday.

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