WHAT IS CIRCLE OF MOTHERS FOR?

Rebecca - posted on 04/11/2010

Thank you Taralee

Taralee - posted on 04/11/2010

Rebecca, your empathy to new moms is noble :) All we can hope for is that those young or new moms follow their instincts, and can also learn about what does not work for them. So as an experienced mom, I hope you continue to contribute helpful, and loving advice! :)

Rebecca - posted on 04/11/2010

Sorry it wasn't you Lacey who said about the "new" site it was Taralee. I apologize..

Rebecca - posted on 04/11/2010

Well it's is nice to know that more people think the same, and I agree Lacey it would be a great idea to create a site like that then there would be a place where they can go and be free to be nasty to others and then I guess it would be acceptable to just think that your way is the only way(by your I don't mean you). At first I joined circle of mums because I was invited by someone on facebook but since then I have had another baby and with a 9 yr gap there are the odd little things that you don't forget but they don't just jump out at you either, and sometimes you just need someone to jog your memory so I turn to here. A lot of the time I don't have to even ask the question because someone has already asked so I just go and read the post, but I'm sure there will be a time when I may need to so I stay on here. I'm lucky though to have already had kids and I do know that you use your own judgment, I just feel sorry for the new mums (first time round) who would just get so confused with one person saying one thing and another saying different and I know that when you are tired you just can't think straight. I just wish some of the other mums would think of that as well. We were all there once and should try and remember what it is like......

Lacey - posted on 04/11/2010

I wish it would just stop. To be honest I don't like the stay at home moms board anymore. I have another one I go to all the time and theres hasn't been any fighting or anything. I tend not to ask ?s on here anymore, for that reason.

Lacey - posted on 04/11/2010

I agree! But I think its when people take it to personally that it becomes a huge fight. People always assume there being judged, when I don't always think that's the case. But once they feel that way, they tend to just go off.

Taralee - posted on 04/11/2010

Hi Rebecca,
I know posted thread such as the ones you are referring to can take the fun and validity out of this site. I have now learned to not post to these and ignore. Because the reality is we will never solve the woes of the world on this site. And we will never define parenting authorities on here either. But try to rememeber all those level headed women who have given you great advice and loving support, because there are tons of them on here, and that is why I love COM. Also remember some ppl fight on here because they see it as a easy/safe place to disburse their anger at other things. Maybe COM should create a "Fighting Moms" circle so when you need a good ole fashion argument someone can lend you a hand....LOL

Carolee - posted on 04/10/2010

I think it's just a case of "it takes one bad apple to ruin the bunch". A lot of moms on here are actually doing their best to help others. It's just that once somebody comes on and is all 'high and mighty' about their personal parenting style, it gets pretty heated. I have seen both the best and the worst of people (even the same person) on here before. I think one thing that is very important is that you find the groups that are a right fit for you. I've had to join and leave a few communities to find the ones that I like. There are also those people who, no matter what, you skip over reading their posts.

Annemaree - posted on 04/10/2010

i totally agree rebecca there are a few people on here who think they know the lot n dont take it anyother way but i have recieved some good advice in i have tried to give some advice wether people want to take it or not it is up to them but really dont leave circle of mums as there are som people who really do care n want to give u advice on what they have been through n what has worked for them just gotta take the know it alls with it too lol