what is everyones opinions on weekend away from kids?

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I know that it is always good to have time away from your kids and every parent needs it no matter what. I am not naive to that fact at all and i know even i need breaks. BUT. I just want to figure out if this is just me or if its an issue everywhere. It seems like my husband and I are the only couple we know that have our kids on the weekend. Maybe its because we are a younger couple (26 and 30) and most of our friends are young too. But every weekend we have nobody to hang out with because we have our kids and they don't. Alot of them have shared custody which i understand obviously, but another big percent give their children to their own parents EVERY weekend. I feel bitter about it all the time and jealous. I wish i didn't feel this way because i love my kids and i know they are my responsibility. I do love spending time with them but i just cant help wonder what it must be like to be able to *gasp* make plans and go out every weekend. i guess my question is do other people notice this, or is it just my friends? and if so how can i make myself stop feeling so jealous over it. p.s. havent had a full night to ourselves since our youngest was born and hes 20 months.

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Liz - posted on 09/14/2012

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My husband works days and nights. He is self-employeed. I am home with our three children 7 days a week. I would love to have 2 hours to myself. It is so hard because we love our kids but we have no time together nor do we have time to spend with the kids together. I get depressed being home all the time but I think if I had the chance to get away for a weekend without the kids I would do it. You don't have to go every weekend but you can certainly go once in a while. I think the biggest concern is that they are with someone you trust and they are well taken care of. Then you don't have to worry. I have with my husband for 17 years and I was 19 when we met. I had my first son at 21. I never got a break and still don't. For me, I know this is God's Will for me to be with my kids. Good Luck to You Liz

Misty - posted on 09/14/2012

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I think a Friday night from 5pm till 8am Saturday with someone you trust once in awhile is perfectly fine and great for all ppl involved. That way u still have all day Saturday and sunday with ur kids. Nothing wrong with needing you time or just a break for adult time. Plus absence makes the heart grow fonder!

Michelle - posted on 09/14/2012

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The only time I don't have my boys is when they are with their Dad. My kids only have 1 grandparent in the country (My Mum) and she has never had the kids for a weekend or even a night.

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I wouldn't, I had kids to spend time with them. I'd rather spend the weekends at the zoo, or on a hike with them, then sitting at home alone wondering if they are doing alright. The only time we can go out and I don't sit there worrying about them, is if they are already in bed. A local movie theater has $5 Tuesdays so we go there about every other month or so.

Misty - posted on 09/14/2012

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My opinion, if you have someone willing to watch your child(ren) for a night go for it! My mother in law begs to take my daughter every weekend. We let her take her just for a night and not every weekend but at least one night a month. It helps us not only take a break from the parent life but it helps us keep a close bond as husband and wife. Not to mention I am 37 weeks pregnant so knowing my daughter is comfortable going to grandma's overnight is reassuring for when I go into labor and she has to go to grandma's! Plus sometimes it makes my daughter miss me and I love when she gets excited to see me when I go pick her up!

Sal - posted on 09/14/2012

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Yes yes yes, very important, but more than a couPle of days is too long for me

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