What is the most common problem stay at home moms have?

Teresa - posted on 10/01/2010 ( 211 moms have responded )

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For you, what is the most common problem stay at home moms have?

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Annie - posted on 10/01/2010

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Feeling like even when Dad is home that I have to do everything! Also ditto what Sophie said. People thinking that being a sahm is a piece of cake!

Chesnie - posted on 10/01/2010

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having energy to get out of the house..I feel like a lazy human being and i have no energy. Everything is so routine same thing every day it seems.

Theresa - posted on 10/01/2010

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The fact that I never get "time off". I'm a mom 24-7. Sometimes it'd be nice just to have a few hours a week to myself.

Tiziana - posted on 10/02/2010

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My most common problem is being a sahm without a car, so I'm @ home all day evryday unless we go out somewhere on weekends ( but it's rare we r on a budget since I no longer work)

Jill - posted on 02/14/2013

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The hardest thing about being a stay at home mom is your hubby wants to brag and use it to his advantage in front of co-workers and family. But the truth is he thinks you do nothing all day but shop and eat Bon Bons & ask if you looked for a job today. Funny when they are off on a school day they ask were the day went cause school is getting out in 5 minutes! Did I mention he asked me to be a stay at home mom so he could follow his career dreams and goals!

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Bri Lee - posted on 03/24/2013

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I miss sleeping in!!! Other then that I love being a SAHM! It's rough sometimes but over all I like not having to go clock in somewhere and have a boss breathing down my back! Lol!

Charity - posted on 03/24/2013

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Keeping up with basic house stuff with 2- 15 month olds and a 4 year old. Then having mom guilt for sometimes feeling overwhelmed and feeling judged by other people on what you do and or don't do.

Stifler's - posted on 02/11/2013

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Gaining weight because i'm bored and dont want to exercise with kids jumping on me

Giselle - posted on 02/10/2013

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Finding time for myself and explaining to people that my lack of a paycheck doesn't mean that I am on vacation.

Stephanie - posted on 02/09/2013

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Being overwhelmed with chores...difficult to keep up with the kids messes and other chores.

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The pressure to go back to work. Well, I don't know how common it is, but here in the UK there is an assumption that mums go back to work. Most of the pressure has come from my husband worried about how we can afford everything on his salary. The rest of the pressure comes from myself, worrying about the same thing! That's why I gained a bookkeeping qualification so I could work from home. I didn't start "working" until my youngest started school. I knew though if I didn't work from home I would be pressured into working out and I knew I didn't want to do that.

Nikki - posted on 01/29/2013

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This time in my life is wonderful, I love my boys with all my heart. However I am so lonely plus to make it worse I have social anxiety disorder. So when I try to make friends I think they are turned off by my obvious discomfort. I take medicine but I still suck at social situations. Add to that, I don't know anyone with multiple kids. My family is spread all over and my parents and in-laws are not in the best of health. I wish I could just suck it up and solve the problem.

Tammy - posted on 01/28/2013

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Wow, am I the only stay at home Mom that has no problems with it? I love being a stay at home Mom! I hate working, though I think that when my daughter starts going to school five days a week next autumn and for longer hours, I might go looking for a job, so that our family can have the extra money. But other than that, I cook, clean, garden, balance the books, etc, etc, etc.

Wilmarie - posted on 01/27/2013

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Having 4 kids. Not having any time for myself. Always frustrated and tired. I don't ever get any time with my husband anymore either. By the time we get our kids to bed we are both tired and end up falling asleep. We have no one to watch our kids. I have family that our close by and they wont even watch my kids. A lot of times I am just sick and tired of being a SAHM. I honestly think I will like working better at the moment at least I will get some adult interaction and be less stressed, and unhappy with my life.

Danielle - posted on 11/02/2010

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probably the continuous attention to the kids and NO time for yourself...that's why there's so many on this site! hehe...sometimes it's our only adult contact ALL day :)

Amanda - posted on 11/02/2010

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The hardest thing for me would have to be games and activities they all enjoy doing! I have 4 children of my own and 2 are in school until later afternoon..I also have 2 daycare children who come after school as well. The ages range from 18 months to 7 years soo finding an activity is tough! Cleaning and laundry is daily for me with a household as big as ours and I really enjoy that part!

Theresa - posted on 10/21/2010

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how true I could've written that except feeling bored mine don't give me a chance...lol

Theresa - posted on 10/21/2010

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people thinking you have it easy whereas it's a full-time job. I'm a SAHM to 3 girls 9,5,11mnths Im 30yrs hubby in Norway, somedays i feel like I'm going insane my kids take turns with no breaks in between for me so the only time I get to relax is when they're in bed asleep at night. Somehow the fact that Im always at home has made them more clingy and attached to me. I love them and I feel blessed to be there for them and spend most of my time with them but it gets to a point where one needs a break and touch base with other adults. I honestly feel having a full time job is nothing compared to the task of being a SAHM.

Andra - posted on 10/19/2010

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I get irritated with people saying, "Oh, you just stay home...must be nice!" Urrggg! I have 5 children. one in college, two in high school, two homeschooled. And I am going back to college. I clean, cook, teach, and study for my own 12 hours of college to become a Radiologist. When will "working people" realize that raising good, solid, respectful, loving, studious, careful children is the hardest job in the world??

Aslina - posted on 10/19/2010

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i feel bored...everyday have to do the same task...i have 2 boys and 1 girl..everyday they will figthing each other even for the small matter especially my 10yrs old son and 8yrs old son.my girl always make my house messy..and..messy...

Sara - posted on 10/18/2010

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Multiple things...the lack of adult interaction, the loneliness that comes from having a husband that works 12 hour shifts every day/night, the monotonous daily tasks, and trying to keep my sanity dealing with a child going through those dreaded "terrible twos." We also live in an area that doesn't offer too many activities for either child or adult, so most of my and my son's time is spent here at home or at the grocery store (now there is a challenge!!).

Samatha - posted on 10/18/2010

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Trying to take of a 16 month old and a 4 month old at the same time. The oldest doesn't like the youngest so I'm constantly having to pull him away or take pointy objects away.

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Even though my day is full of cleaning house, being a fulltime student online at home, fulltime mom, and all the chores that come with that, I find myself bored and isolated from the rest of the world

Kitty - posted on 10/18/2010

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I Think Craming Everythin in into the Day!! you only have 7 hours to get it all done and i hate rushing around so i space thngs out! so it isnt such a one day thing '' the GET IT ALL DONE'' in a day doesnt work for me!

Caitlyn - posted on 10/18/2010

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where do i begin? laundry for 5 people, we have to go to a laundry mat.i have 3 kids my daughter will be 5 next month, my son 2 1/2, my daughter 6 1/2 months born with spina bifida. i cant go grocery shopping i cant do laundry with them. i have to go late at night after everyone is in bed. i get so much support from my family, my finace's family thinks sahm have it easy. sometimes he asks why i couldnt get something done today, i just give him the "look" sometimes he gets it sometimes he doesnt. my daughter has PT 2x's a week 40 min away. my life if tough, but i do get to spend everyday with my babies and i love them.

Heather - posted on 10/17/2010

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Adjusting to the change! Work, new responsiblities etc. Learning to understand that no matter how you might feel at the time (bored, restless, tired etc) raising your children to be good citizens and the best that they can be plus having an active, interested parents in their life -is the MOST important contribution that you can EVER make to the world, your family and yourself.

Debby - posted on 10/17/2010

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Not enough income.....can't trust online work to pay or take too much time, or having babies interrupt...cant stand selling.

Shannon - posted on 10/15/2010

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Being on a tight budget since i dont work and my hubby is the only one working..so cant really go out to do much because have to save money..and hes always working so he always has the car..

Amy - posted on 10/14/2010

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After 17yrs of being a stay at home Mom, now it's trying to get back in to the working world. Done the free computer classes but still hear that I don't have the experience. Would like to go back to school but can't afford it and husband doesn't want the loan.

Debra - posted on 10/14/2010

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With 2 kids under the age of 2 years old...my biggest problem is not enough sleep!

Meagan - posted on 10/14/2010

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I have a 5 year old in school, 1 1/2 year old and a 4 month old and I baby site my cousins 2 year old so I pick up 5 toys and there is 10 more back in its place so Its hard to keep my house clean !!

Melysa - posted on 10/14/2010

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well 5 kids under 8 laundry is big dishes is huge just keeping up with food can be a trial you no sooner get the breakfast dishes done the washing on the line you need to make a snack cause they are hungry, then you get more dishes and more washing and oh look it's lunch time = more dishes fold washing put it away oh look they are hungry again after school activities or even just home work then you have to make dinner and oh look more dishes a bath and of coarse there is more washing for tomorrow (3+ loads a day rain hail or shine- we have a few clothes horses inside) i then lay in bed till my youngest finally gets to sleep try to talk to my hubby for a bit before falling into my own bed the next day it starts all over again there is always somewhere to go something to be washed and my job to get it done in short i guess the answer is washing, cleaning and food prep

Elizabeth - posted on 10/14/2010

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I'd say loneliness. I miss working sometimes just for the adult interaction. Also 'bickering' sibs. Drives me nuts and pushes my 'patience levels'.

Krystal - posted on 10/14/2010

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I agree with Chesnie. I am in such a routine which doesn't involve leaving the house that I rarely get out...I really miss getting out LOL

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Things like taking a shower and blow drying my hair are a luxury - and that just doesn't feel right.

Nikki - posted on 10/13/2010

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I have my husband, four girls, 2 sisters, and my mom...getting out the house is scarce! I savor sitting at the bookstore or Starbuck's alone for an hour more than anything!

Nikki - posted on 10/13/2010

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Hmmmm....I could provide a whole scroll full. LOL! No really...I think being taken for granted is the biggest and most common problem. We all have the standard responsibilities, chores, errands, and so forth. We all get exhausted and frustrated. I think the biggest issue is being taken for granted. People around us assuming we're sitting on the couch watching Oprah chilling. I work from home also...I have to defend my time spent working at home, running the kids around, and doing those things that we find ourselves having to take care of during the day. A lack of understanding. Of course, we can't forget the temporary insanity of watching Dora and Spongebob over and over again! LOL!

Kelly - posted on 10/13/2010

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No socialization with other adults....I also work from home while being an at home mom....its so stressfull..as my husband works 3pm-11pm.



I don't think it would be as bad if I dind't have to also work while taking care of the kids...

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My biggest issue I guess is not having any interaction time with other Mommies and there children. I have tried to find ways to meet other stay at home Moms so that I can have adult interaction time while my son learns his interaction skills and can learn to socialize with other children, but it is hard. I have tried a mommies group but didn't feel I was getting what I was looking for.

Julieanne - posted on 10/13/2010

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To sum it up, I would have to say that a lack of time and energy are biggest problems, especially with 5 children.

Rebecca - posted on 10/12/2010

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Sara! Leave! Get out!! This situation is going to get a lot worse! You SERIOUSLY need to move closer to YOUR family! He is isolating you and making you dependent on him. Even if there's no physical abuse (yet) this is still abuse. You need to get away for the sake of your child's emotional, psychological, and physical well being as well as your own. It is your responsibility to protect your child!

Carolyn - posted on 10/12/2010

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There are so many...loneliness and lack of respect and believe it or not...boredom.there is not a whole lot to do all of the time...every hour...everyday!

Ai Lian - posted on 10/12/2010

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Being taken for granted. I know it's my "job", but a little appreciation goes a loooong way. Also the constant fighting, whining and complaining from children. It's tough to keep the peace in the home.

Shilon - posted on 10/12/2010

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people not realizing that being a stay at home mom is a job that is around the clock and never stops....getting out the house

TwiceBakedTwins - posted on 10/12/2010

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you are too funny. Joy says that all the time. She has 4 girls! Melissa join us on r facebook page if u r not already!

Melissa - posted on 10/12/2010

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The "stay at home mom" is difficult, but, it's the STAY AT HOME MAID that gets me... ugh!!!

Jennifer - posted on 10/12/2010

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The problem I am having is my 2yr old son always laughs at me and hits me when he gets in trouble! Why is that I was told its natural but come on!!

TwiceBakedTwins - posted on 10/12/2010

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Trish, If u really get into it, who really has the more impt job? Taking care of children and raising them to be happy and healthy and confident? MOMs do!

Trish - posted on 10/12/2010

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I think guilt for being home when it seems like everyone else is "working". The truth of that is, they get time off from the house and the kids and they bring money in!!! I hate feeling depressed because I feel like I don't contribute enough!

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