What is the worse piece of advice you have gotten from other mothers?

Ashley - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 198 moms have responded )

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Everyone has a funny story to tell about the lady in the store who gave some off the wall piece of advice on motherhood! What's your story?

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Everyone in my extended family calls me the "Nap Nazi" because I'm so committed to naptimes. I never miss one, and I'm never late - mostly because my 10-month-old falls apart otherwise. I can see the tiredness written all over his face and it breaks my heart.

Anyway, the advice they give is to just keep him up! (They don't like being inconvenienced by his naps.) They tell me it won't do him any harm. But as any mom knows, tired babies make for BAD sleepers. And who gets punished most of all in the end? I do!

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Karen- Soap is actually a peristalic stimulant and is a main ingredient in some enemas. It can also be used directly as a rectal stimulant but this is a practice you see with elderly people who are constipated by medications and immobility, not babies. Depending on what type of soap and if it's not diluted, it could cause ulcerations on a baby's sensitive mucosa. There is no way I'd put a bunch of soap on my baby's bum, but I can see why she thought it might be helpful. ; )

Ashley - posted on 04/18/2010

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This wasn't really advice as much as a scare me moment with my MIL. We were driving a long distance and my son 2 months old was crying in the backseat. My MIL was back there with him and she took him out of teh car seat!!!! I was so shocked for a minute that I couldn't even think or talk... I actually started to cry and tell her to put my son back! She was actually offended and told me she used to do it all the time when her kids were babies... Crazy!

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I was told to put the baby in the window for jaundice too...I know there are special lights the hospitals have for jaundice, but my boy never needed it. They had me roll his bassinette to the window once a day. By day 3 the yellowing was completely gone.

Jessica - posted on 04/16/2010

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I haven't read research or anything but from what I've read, what people have told me and my experiences with my two cats and our baby- cats avoid them! They've never voluntarily tried to actually lay with the baby and they also have never once tried to drink breastmilk or formula- they've sniffed the bottle and walked away. I seriously doubt there are many cats if any that would lay with a baby.

LOL at drinking whiskey to stay calm! I'll bet! I'm not opposed to having a beer or wine while nursing but wouldn't drink hard liquor right before-hand.

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Christy - posted on 05/28/2010

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Someone told me to put Vicks Vapo rub IN my child's nose (not under it) when he had a bad cold. Hello??? The ingredients in it can get caught up in the lungs and cause all sorts of issues. Even if you didn't know that, why the hell would you shove it up your kid's nose, it BURNS!

Debbie - posted on 05/25/2010

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One lady told me (as I was buying diapers) that my almost 2 year old should be potty trained. Whatever.
But the very worst piece of advice came from my daughter's first pediatrician, he told me to let my 3 day old daughter wait for 4 hours, when she was starving, instead of giving her formula since my milk had not come in yet (she was an emergency c-section). He told me she needed to learn a schedule. I hung up on him, fed my girl a bottle of formula, she went right to sleep and 2 things happened the next morning, my milk came in and I got a new pediatrician. In a way it was a good lesson, trust your instincts.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/28/2010

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The oven thing DID save children who couldn't regulate their temperatures right after birth back in the day. They wouldn't put the baby in the oven and shut the door, it would be a swaddled baby placed in a warm oven or near the oven with the door opened not too much different from the warming beds they place infants on today. If it's between trying to warm my child or letting it die and I live in a time with no technology... please, warm my child. But, no I wouldn't suggest people use an oven today, although if it was an emergency type situation, say me and my daughter are snowed in and the heat isn't working but the oven is, I would absolutely turn the oven on and open the door and we would cuddle near it to stay warm.

Maurida - posted on 04/28/2010

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Yeah, people always say "let them feel if they don't want to listen' sounds cruel and I don't believe in it either, but with my child..she wouldn't listen when I repeatedly told her that if she touches the Iron, her fingers will burn, she just had to touch it herself when I weren't looking. She burnt her fingers and never even attempted to touch it again.

Alicia_rife - posted on 04/27/2010

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This is not necessarily bad advice, But my mother-in-law told me to not put the baby on a routine until he is 9 months. I wanted my son to be on some sort of routine: eat, play,sleep. 9 months is way to long for the baby to do what ever whenever. I'm not to routine crazy, but this works for me.

Ashley - posted on 04/26/2010

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I had a nurse tell me to get rid of constipation in my daughter when she was 2 months old to put her on a BRAT diet..i was a nursing student at the time...i was like..isnt that for babies who have diarrhea? she just looked at me.....

Ashley - posted on 04/26/2010

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I forgot to add that my father told me not to tickle my baby because it would make her stutter...I was cooing at my baby while standing her up on my thighns when she was about 4 months old and my grandmother jumped up and yelled to stop doing that because it would make her bow-legged...lol...with the pillow thing being bad advice, i read so many stories about babies suffercating between pillows and beds and the increase in SIDS..based on those facts, i thought myself that to be bad advice! Some of these stories are CRAZY to me..but maybe not crazy to others! esp. the oven thing!

Ashley - posted on 04/26/2010

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I had a lot of older people tell me to put my baby in the window seal also! lol..she had jaundice also..but the problem was she was born december 30th and it was so cold the pipes were freezing! we lived in a drafty house at the time so i didnt think that was the best advice..seh ended up being under a bili blanket (light blanket) for a couple days and that didnt work so we took her to the hospital and she was put in a little minni tanning bed type thing..lol

Lisa - posted on 04/24/2010

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I was told not to listen to music too loud when I was pregnant by an old woman or put the head set near my tummy or I could loose the baby or the baby would come out deaf. I wonder why they tell us the first thing our child hears is their mothers voice & why would they sell those products to have a baby listen to music & connected to mics. its baby crazy out there. It doesn't mean you shouldn't listen to music.

Rebecca - posted on 04/24/2010

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my husbands cousin didn't learn to walk until he was 2 because his grandmother made him sit down every time he tried. she said that this was the best way to keep him from falling!!!!

Cathy - posted on 04/24/2010

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I think the thing that I got the most and that irritated me the most is to sleep (during the day) when the baby sleeps. Hummmm, when would I clean he house, shower, brush my teeth, use the bathroom, etc., etc., etc. After 4 children I can honestly say that I rarely napped when my babies did because it was the only time I could get things done. Well then there was mommy-in-law (this was with my first) who would tell me over and over not to buy too many clothes because with babies I would just keep him in pj's most of the day. She obviously didn't know me well, my children are dressed most days even when they were infants. That's part of the fun before they get old enough to pick their own clothing.

Tiffany - posted on 04/24/2010

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Ooh! I forgot one! My 5 year old neice told me, after watching me change my sons dirty diaper, "Oh, Auntie Tiff, I think you feed your baby too much!" She was hillariously serious. I will remind her of that when she is changing her own baby's diaper one day. LOL

Rebecca - posted on 04/24/2010

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The alcohol on the gums thing isn't so far-fetched because if you look at the ingredients list on Orajel, alcohol is in it. But I found that a cooled teether worked best anyway, so for me it was a moot point.

Jennifer - posted on 04/24/2010

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Oh wow Stephanie! So sorry about your miscarriage. I was told to hold a metal pan over my belly if I wanted to go outside and see the lunar eclipse. I also had to wear keys pinned to the front of my pants. Apparently the metal protects the baby!?! lol



My biggest peeve is when people who are on baby #1 try to tell me, who just had baby #4, how to be a parent. My SIL is guilty of giving her daughter whiskey and tries to tell me I should do it with my 3 month old. I just tell her thanks but this isn't my first rodeo, my first 3 survived teething without whiskey and I'm pretty sure this one will too.



Oh and my FIL , lol, he tells me to let my baby cry so she can strengthen her lungs, but he freaks out if he is holding her and she starts screaming. He's like "Hurry up come and get her, she's crying, make her stop!!" Talk about a hypocrite, lol. So whenever he is home and we are visiting, if she starts crying I tell everyone to give her to Pampa so he can hold her while she strengthens her lungs, rofl.

Jamie - posted on 04/24/2010

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Hahahaha Well This is the worst advice I have gotten......

That it was ok to feed my week old baby mashed potatoes and gravy.

To use Burnt Flower and Cornmeal mixed together for diaper rash.

To give my 3 month old blackberry wine in his bottle for constipation.

That it wont hurt if you put the baby up on the table while sitting in the bouncer.

Best part is this all came from my own Mother! hahahha

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My daughter (now 16) was on one of her first trips out with me without a pushchair (stroller?) and we did a very short walk from the car to a local shop for a loaf of bread and out again. But she threw one heck of a paddy just outside the shop, screaming and yelling and refused to get up off the floor, it was a real humdinger. I've had back problems since having a motorbike accident 10 years before she was born so didn't have the strength in my back to pick her up and hold her safely while she was thrashing around so calmly allowed her to complete her strop, apologising to other customers for the noise as they left the building, before being able to carry on.

I then became the talking point of the whole shop with an extremely old woman came flying out of the doors on her granny-mobile , literally screaming for the police as I was an unfit mother. I apparantly should have smacked her half a dozen times extremely hard and dragged her to the car and locked her in there as punishment. Bless.

My dad had the best way to stop the temper though, he'd throw a paddy with them at the same time, just louder. The todler was so shocked it all stopped. He was sometimes very embarrassing to go out with.

Lea - posted on 04/23/2010

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From my mother in law the day after I gave birth: "You're not trying." Great advice about breastfeeding, huh? Thankfully I got lactation consultants to help me, and no it was not my fault and yes I did breastfeed for 9 months too!

Elizabeth - posted on 04/23/2010

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I guess I'm a little on the opposite site of things. When my daughter had really bad constipation and I was having to use suppositories at 8 weeks old, a 3 ounce bottle of water with a tsp of Karo Syrup did relieve her symptoms. I also don't buy into the new advice about crying it out etc. We let our daughter cry within reason, and while I don't believe crying makes her lungs stronger, we aren't jumping at every little whimper. There's a great deal of modern advice I don't agree with. When my daughter rolled herself to her tummy to sleep, we let her. I do tend to go with what my mother did and my husband's mother (raised 9 kids between them) than the latest study results. You wouldn't believe the death stares I get if when I disagree with other Moms who literally jump all over the latest research. So I guess for me, some of the most ridiculous advice I've heard haven't been from old batties, but young batties (you must go to them everytime they cry or they will lose trust in you, really? I know I'm not going anywhere, and my daughter's not going anywhere, I think the longevity will win out over the occasional nights where she gets to fuss herself to sleep because she is overtired, refusing rocking, changed, and perfectly ready to go to bed once she gives in).

Kylie - posted on 04/23/2010

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haha I think the brandy might work better for all us mums suffering through teething!!!

Heidi - posted on 04/23/2010

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You know, I understand if breastfeeding or babywearing isn't right for you, but don't make it seem like the people who DO do it are some sort of freaky weirdo. I know that some people are of the 'if you aren't doing it my way, you are doing it the wrong way' variety, but just because one babywearing mama is a nazi about it doesn't mean we all (or even most of us) are. /end rant

As for bad advice?

MIL insisting that cloth diapers are a horrible decision. (Whatev, it's not like she is the one diapering my kids).

Many people insisting that babies need juice. Um, no. They do not need juice. Mama Milk or formula is all any baby really needs. And after about 6 months, water in a cup is OK too.

People telling me I was starving my baby by not feeding them cereal at 4 months or even earlier. My babies both went straight to solids. No cereal or purees. As long as the choices are appropriate, solids starting when they can sit and use a pincer grasp is just fine. It's called Baby Led Weaning.

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Oh oh oh, and the time that my 7 month old son had just woken up from a sleep and a lady that he had never met was visiting... she wanted a cuddle so I gave him to her but I could see that he wasn't comfortable with her (having just woken up I think he just wanted a cuddle with mummy) but she refused to give him back saying "trust me, you don't want one of those babies that needs to have mummy around". Ummm, he's a BABY, of course he wants mummy around!

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Oh, and I should say that the daycare centre favoured 'Cry It Out' which I am against, so I'm guessing that that would have been the method that they were wanting to use... even though I'm against it... so much for 'mum knows best', obviously the teachers at the centre (who don't have any children of there own I should point out) know best... lol.

Nicole - posted on 04/23/2010

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Four days after giving birth to my son I was taking him in for a check up at the hospital and a lady dressed in scrubs asked how old the baby was, then if I was the mom, when I said yes she said "Well you didn't eat anything when you were pregnant did you??!!" Because I had lost most of the baby weight at delivery. I have always been petite and was 125 pounds when I got pregnant and was 160 pounds when I delevered. My son was over nine pounds!! That is a big baby don't tell me I didn't eat enough my baby was very healthy and so was I! The nerve of some people.

I was also told that if I didn't share my baby with other people and let them babysit while I go out that he would be spoiled (my son was exclusively breastfed and wouldn't take a bottle and was a couple of weeks old eating every hour and a half... ummm seriously)

People need to stop trying to raise other people's children when it is obviouse that they are well cared for... They had their chance with their own, give me mine. And most of the people who give advice their children all grew up totally messed up, and no one would want their children to take after them. lol loved reading all of these brightened my day!

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Oh, a few more...



When I was breastfeeding, I was told that if my son drank more then I wouldn't have to breastfeed as often. It's like, okay I'll just force my son to drink! He was the one who stopped drinking when he was full, it wasn't like I was stopping him!



Somebody else mentioned about children with names starting with the letter 'J' being more trouble - I've also heard this lol.



Babies need to cry for at least a couple of hours a day (what?!?).



You should stop breastfeeding when your baby can ask for milk (my son started signing 'milk' to me at about 9 months) otherwise he'll start asking for it all the time even when he doesn't need it.



And my favourite (not so much advice, but still evidence that some people have NO idea)... my son at 8 months wasn't a very good sleeper during the day, so I had him in a very strict routine for sleeps. His daycare teacher asked me if she could put him down early (one hour after waking, instead of two hours) because he was grumpy (side note, if you put him down early for any reason, he will NOT sleep). I said no. She rang 20 minutes later to say that he was in hysterics. I went over there (I worked upstairs for the centre at the time) and picked him up for cuddles and he calmed down. I then had the comment that while he is in their care, if the teachers feel he needs a sleep they should be able to do this no matter what method they had to use to get him to sleep!!!!!! I pulled him out that day (I also quit my job and became a stay at home mum).

Lily - posted on 04/23/2010

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She's a RN and insists that I am wrong about hairspray being dangerous if swallowed....and she also insists that all children, no matter their age, use sippy cups in her vehicle. My kiddos never use sippies and she will bring them for them to use!!! I'm sorry, I feel that six years old is just a bit old for a sippy cup. If you are worried about spills, give them water! Not chocolate milk all day long!

Lily - posted on 04/23/2010

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Oh, I've heard so many of these....but we do use organic herbal teas that are specifically made and sold for children for their tummy aches and such...don't know if they work, but they make them feel soooo special.

Worst advice I every received? My SIL told me that playing with my kids is a bad idea because they won't learn to play by themselves. She never plays with her kiddos. Also that five years old was too old to be held and cuddled while watching tv by Daddy.

And this tops it all: That she always lets her five year old watch the baby for up to forty minutes while she's outside mowing the lawn or such. That her parents left her at four years old with her six year old sister home alone while they were at work and they had to clean the house while they were gone. And nothing bad ever happened. They have to learn to be independent.....Are you kidding me? What if they get hurt or fall or the house catches on fire? Five years old is too young to babysit...I think there are laws about that....

But then again, she also told my daughter that I'm wrong to let her trade toys with her sister, that's stealing and stealing is a sin and you go to hell for sinning. My daughter was four! I think that is a bit out of line....Golly....we don't do playdates there anymore!

Tiffany - posted on 04/23/2010

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That is hillarious Alina! I was told that the second toe being longer would make them bossy.....too funny.

Lisa - posted on 04/23/2010

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The worst piece of advice ever?



Leave him alone and he will potty train himself when he is ready.



What a disaster! Aaak!

Laura - posted on 04/23/2010

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To Tonya, I know what you mean. My husband and I were years ahead of the rest of his family (sibling, cousins) at having children. Now mine are 11, 9, and 7. They all have kids under the age of three and some newborns. It amazes me that my MIL tells me how to hold my new niece like I have never done it before! I said "Woman, I know what I am doing! Remember the other three grandchildren! Those are mine!"

Danie - posted on 04/23/2010

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the worst bit of advice i ever got was to rub Vaseline into my 18 month old boy's scapl (he suffers from severe outbreaks from excema) i thought ..okay.. lock in the moisture or something like that, right? OMG!! it took a week for it to come out all the way and i ended up having to very carefully use dish soap to get it completely out! ugh....

Cheryl - posted on 04/23/2010

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I was taking my kids to the nurse practitioner at our local family practice. I really liked her because she seemed to listen and she didn't feel the need to prescribe something every fifteen minutes. However, when my now 3 yr old was 9 months old, he came down with what we thought was a cold. I took him for his regular well baby visit and she told me to give him some Mucinex. I did, he got a little better, but it just kept coming back. So the next time I saw her I told her about it and she told me about Mucinex as if I had never heard of it. Uhh, didn't you just tell me that last time I was here? So this kept up for quite a while. We stopped giving him unnecessary medicine and his cold turned out to be allergies. He then got a rash on his cheeks that would not go away for anything. We tried every kind of eczema cream on the market and when we took him to see the nurse practitioner, she prescribed a steroid cream. She told me it was perfectly safe and to use it as many times a day as necessary to get rid of the rash. It didn't work. We took him to see the pediatrician who told us the cream was not approved for children under two and if used too often it would cause an atrophy of the facial muscles! He referred us to a dermatologist who took a scraping of the rash and told us within twenty four hours that it was a fungal infection, prescribed an anti-fungal and it was gone in 10 days. Needless, to say that after the cold that wasn't a cold and the eczema that wasn't eczema we stopped seeing that woman right away.

Kristen - posted on 04/22/2010

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This is in response to Tonya: When my mother in law was pregnant with her 5th child, someone gave her "What to Expect When You're Expecting" as a shower gift! Unless her daughter was born with flippers or an extra head, I think she knows what to expect.

Bethany - posted on 04/22/2010

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You hit the nail on the head there Tammy. People are usually comparing their own experiences with ours. It's really all they have to go by (except for doctors, who should know better)
It's also a way of combatting cognative disonance, making themselves feel good about what they have already done and can't change.

For this reason, I am going to try to remember to always answer a question with a question. Like: is she your first? Do I look like she's my first? or Are you having anymore? Do you think I should have some more, how many do you have?

Turn it around on them, as it's they that seem to need to talk about it, and people always like to talk about themselves, because for alot of Mums, there's just the kids and the walls to talk to alot of the time. And for the men that care to comment, they have probably been shot down their whole lives, and would appreciate the hearing.

Tammy - posted on 04/22/2010

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well....mine actually comes from a pediatrician lol... my son has a history of being the 5 percent of humans who if there is a reaction it happens to him...so he was sick and on a very strong antibiotic which caused an extreme chemical burn on his bum. My family dr had prescribed him some magic butt paste for it and it was slowly working. well my son had to go back to his dr for his 18 month shots and when we did the pediatrician (who he will never see again for other reasons) told me to stop using the magic butt paste (which is a mixture of zinc, silver, and an antifungal) and she prescribed an antibiotic ointment. Now lets think about this if we have a chemical burn from an antibiotic we are taking why on earth would we use antibiotic ointment on the burn?... well i did and guess what... it got worse within a matter of hours. I stopped using it and went back to the magic butt paste and it started getting better again. This dr was comparing what worked for her children who had regular diaper rashes to my childs chemical burn rash. Sounds like she needed to go back to school for a little bit lol. Needless to say I wont be taking either of my children to see her.

Jessica - posted on 04/22/2010

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This isn't advice but something weird/funny I just remembered a nurse saying to my mom. I was 17 when my little brother was born, and I was in the room with my mom when she breastfed him for the first time. The nurse was standing there helping (not that my mom needed much help after 4 previous kids lol) and after he latched on and everything she blurts out: "Well just wait, he'll be doing that again in another 16 years!" My jaw hit the floor because I couldn't believe she'd say something like that, but me and my mom both laughed about it.

Tammy - posted on 04/22/2010

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well....mine actually comes from a pediatrician lol... my son has a history of being the 5 percent of humans who if there is a reaction it happens to him...so he was sick and on a very strong antibiotic which caused an extreme chemical burn on his bum. My family dr had prescribed him some magic butt paste for it and it was slowly working. well my son had to go back to his dr for his 18 month shots and when we did the pediatrician (who he will never see again for other reasons) told me to stop using the magic butt paste (which is a mixture of zinc, silver, and an antifungal) and she prescribed an antibiotic ointment. Now lets think about this if we have a chemical burn from an antibiotic we are taking why on earth would we use antibiotic ointment on the burn?... well i did and guess what... it got worse within a matter of hours. I stopped using it and went back to the magic butt paste and it started getting better again. This dr was comparing what worked for her children who had regular diaper rashes to my childs chemical burn rash. Sounds like she needed to go back to school for a little bit lol. Needless to say I wont be taking either of my children to see her.

Jacquee' - posted on 04/22/2010

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Hi All!



The worst piece of advice was NOT to let my daughter eat solid food before she turned 12 months. Her whole way of eatting is not off, yet slowly getting on track for her age. I think she will be EXTRA picky for the rest of her youthful days. Go with your mom gutt!

Maggie - posted on 04/22/2010

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Heather I know what you mean. I was in the elevator of my building going up to do laundry and my daughter had kicked her shoes off into the hamper. An old man got on and lectured me that I was going to give her pneumonia taking her outside without shoes on. I had to explain rather bluntly to him that she wasn't going outside, but up to a heated laundry room and that her shoes had fallen into the clothes hamper. I then thanked him for his concern and suggested that he might want to ask a mother where the shoes were in the future instead of jumping to conclusions.

Melanie - posted on 04/22/2010

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there are alot of posts on here and my baby is getting mad and wants attention so i have to say that jaundice is caused by a lack of vitamin d which you get from the sun. vitamin d is what your body requires for your liver to clear out any waste in the body. which is why newborn poo is usually yellow or orange. green or brownish is fine as long as babys skin or eyes arent yellow.

Cheryl - posted on 04/22/2010

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Kristy, I had a friend who believed his mother' yeast infection when he was born crossed and caused his thrush. I have no idea if this true or not, but he also said she gave him OJ to help him get over it and that it caused sores in his mouth and throat. He also believes that his mother's yeast infection was caused because she was unfaithful! He honestly believes that women get yeast infections from infidelity. He's got issues, but if his mom actually gave him OJ then so does she.

Cheryl - posted on 04/22/2010

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Amy,
Actually I have gotten the same thing with my father. My first husband and I split up and my father would help out ALOT when my son was little. One day my 15 month old son, my father and I were at the eye DR and the nurse asked me when I was in the exam room how I managed to get such a good looking sugar daddy!

Tricia - posted on 04/22/2010

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watered down pure orange juice in a bottle for a baby from 6 weeks is fine according to my health nurse. Its meant to be very good for babies digestive system. She reccommended 1oz of orange juice to 3 oz water.

Brean - posted on 04/22/2010

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advice: my 85 yr old grandmother, who passed away the day before we found out we were pregnant, used to tell my cousins and aunts some crazy stuff. i.e. if you rub egg white on the back of baby's knees, they'll learn to walk faster. rub pee on baby acne and the ammonia will kill it.
not so much advice, but i hate when people ask me personal questions as to how we are going to raise our daughter. i.e. will you be spanking her? has she latched on yet? (i had trouble BFing and have to pump)
or when i get asked 50 questions on a daily phone call. i.e. how much has she eaten today? how many times have you changed her diaper? is she pooping regularly?
or when people make fun of my daughter, some may thing its cute, but i take offense. i.e. omg, what do you feed her? shes huge.... calling her a "butterball" and making up nicknames that were specifically for me and my fiance.

Deborah - posted on 04/22/2010

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Ok some things to add or reply......

about diarrhea ever heard of the BRAT diet? If anyone has it eat bananas, rice, apples and toast or bread. Will help make stool harder.

My sisters 2 older children had the cords wrapped around their necks. It is on tape, she recorded the births. She, mind you, probably weighs 109 pounds dripping wet and is only 5 ft 2in tall. Poor kids had no room in there for crying out loud. Of course the cords were wrapped around their necks. I can tell you that for my second son we did use rum on his gums for his teething. He was in horrible pain and they all came in at once. He was getting no sleep and we weren't either. We kept it in the freezer and would just dip a finger in and rub on the gum. It worked like a topical analgesic. The poor baby also finally got some sleep. He definitely did not get more than a few drops when we did this.

I was told when my son stopped talking at around 2 not to worry, he was upset because I had just had my youngest son. He is jealous of all the attention was what the pediatrician said. I waited but knew that something was not right. He has autism. All I can say to all of this is trust YOUR instincts. You are the mother(or father) of this child. You have known them the longest, you have a bond with them. I can tell you that my Mom started my brother on cereal when he was 2 weeks old. He was bawling after only 30-45 mins after having a full 8 ozs of formula. He is not fat now. Nor has he ever been. He is 6 ft tall wears 32 pants. He just eats like a horse. Started out that way and is still that way.

Nikkole, sometimes babies do bring their knees up to their chests if their stomachs hurt. Usually they are screaming like banshies and their stomachs are kind of hard. Gas pain or constipation. Just one of those things. My oldest had a horrible time with that and projectile vomiting until we realized he was allergic to milk. When we switched to soy it made all the difference in the world.

My youngest happened along when Hunter started behaving wildly and was eventually diagnosed with autism. Hunter is always making noises, screaming, etc. The youngest could sleep through a train going by the house. I always used to think that we shouldn't try to be quiet, but we shouldn't try to make enough noise to wake the dead either.

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Oh my, the breast feeding posts really crack me up...doctor’s advice to BF up to a year old...in my opinion, when they get teeth, the first bite they are weaned...lol. But unfortunately I was not able to breast feed either of mine...and I cried. I wanted to...I think God knew what He was doing to provide us that ability...it is a bonding time with your baby. And just who are they supposed to rely on when they need fed anyway?



I don't recall a lot of advice, because I don't take things seriously when I find it stupid...but the one thing that has stuck with me is when my ex husband’s grandmother told me I shouldn't hold my baby so much, or I would spoil her...I said that was ok, I was the one who had to deal with it...lol. Now his other grandmother told me to share that baby, let someone else hold her for a while...lol. I held her a lot...she is a little spoiled...she loves my time and attention...she still hugs me and kisses me...and she has a very affectionate nature about her...she is now 17. I say hold them, love them, it builds up their since of security. I wouldn't have done it any other way.



The advice I gave my friends and nieces is to take in all of the advice you get...figure what works best for you and follow your own motherly nature...most of us either know or can figure out what we need to do...and if we make a mistake, have another one to do better the next time around...lol.



Oh, one more thing, the Tylenol info...they are now thinking that is bad advice...because the fever in the body is part of building the anti bodies from the vaccines...if you fight it off with meds, it may not build the immunity that a child needs...so they are not so sure it is a good idea or not.

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that's about the lenghts i am ready to go to with my youngest. she's almost 10 and noting we have tried has worked- she still sucks her thumb. i had hoped when she went to school it would stop, but it hasn't. any other ideas on how to get her to stop sucking her thumb?

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To let my baby burn herself on the radiator so that she will learn not to touch it.

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that's about the lenghts i am ready to go to with my youngest. she's almost 10 and noting we have tried has worked- she still sucks her thumb. i had hoped when she went to school it would stop, but it hasn't. any other ideas on how to get her to stop sucking her thumb?

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