What time is bedtime & what are reasons...

Jamie - posted on 05/23/2011 ( 31 moms have responded )

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you let your child stay up later?

During weekdays DD(almost 6) goes to bed at 8 and gets up at 6 to get ready for school, We have to get up early because of a move we made and we wanted her to finish the year at her school and switch over summer.

On the weekends she is usually in bed by 8 but I allow her to watch a movie on the tv in her room. The TV doesn't remain in her room. It's a small one that moves around from my room, the craftroom, kitchen and her room.

We don't go out much or do much that would cause her to stay up later but on the rare occasion that she were to be up past her bedtime we still try to get her to bed as soon as we can.

I'm thinking of letting her stay up till 9 or 9:30 over the summer and start pulling the time back to normal before school starts again.

The reason I'm asking is because I know some people who's 4&6 year olds are up till 10 or later on a very regular basis. I just don't know how parents can do that.

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Titch - posted on 12/16/2012

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I have seven children: aged 14, 12, 9, 6, 6, 3,1 /1/2 (Home educated- so they don't have to get up early)
Bedtimes:
12&14: 10.00pm-10:30 wk days. on wkends 10.30-11.00
9Year old: 9.00 wk days- wk ends 9.30
6 yr old twins: 8.00-8.30 wk day 8.30 wk ends
3 and 1 1/2 year old: 7.15 pm, no difference on wk ends

:D xxxxxx

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Barbara - posted on 09/13/2011

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On school days, bedtime is at 9 and non school days 10:30 - 11. I'm flexible on weekends but not too late as to not mess up routine too much.

Kacie - posted on 09/13/2011

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Now that my 6yr old is in school, anywhere between 8 and 9 and he gets up at 6:30 in the mornings. before he started school this year, bedtime was whenever we went to bed. anywhere between 9 and 10. was never really strict about bedtimes because he's a sound sleeper and always got 11-12 hours of sleep! and ive never had any problems having to wake him up early if needed either!

hell, he slept 4-6 hours after he was born! i got lucky! LOL

Sal - posted on 09/11/2011

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my kids are 3 &4 and go between 5.30 and 7.30 if i wait till later they don't go to sleep as easily, maybe over tired as they old saying goes, they are up between 5.30 7 reguardless of when they go to bed so off to bed early for my girls..

Sarah - posted on 09/10/2011

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8:00 on weekdays and 8:30 on school days NO later because shes going to be VERY tired my 8 year old has 8 or 8:30 bedtime and it works great no more than 30 min. at bed time because they will not go to sleep...

Susan - posted on 07/04/2011

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Bedtime is a personal thing that only the parents of the child know is best. I have 2 daughters 12 and 9 during the school year they are in bed lights out no later than 9PM sometimes even 8:30. I get a lot of slack from other family members and friends that I am too strick with bed times however I live with my kids and I know how much sleep they need. They both have busy afterschool schedules and some very early mornings (my 12 yo gets up at 4:30 each Wed to swim) On weekend I am a little bit more flexable if we are going out but I try to keep them as much on a schedule as I can. During the summer schedules are much more difficult to keep especially if you are not going to daycare or camps however I find keeping to regular schedule makes the fun nights even more fun and no one gets too tried. If you know that you daughter does not have to be up at the crack of dawn and out the house by sun rise then there is no harm letting her stay up til 9... The best bed time is the time that works for your family :)

Amanda - posted on 07/04/2011

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My kids, 3 yrs and 21 months are in bed by 7pm every night and up by 6-6.30am everyday. They have both done this since about 4 weeks old. The only time they might be up is if we are out for a special occassion. Even then they are normally asleep not long after their normal bedtime (we had a party to go to a few weeks back and they were both asleep in the pushchair by 8pm)

Jennifer - posted on 07/04/2011

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My son goes to bed between 7pm - 9pm. If he doesn't take a nap that day its the earlier time, if he does take a nap its the later.

Kimberly - posted on 07/03/2011

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well my daughter is only 6mnths and goes to sleep by 930 or 10 naturally.. but my niece who lives with me is 4 yrs old and usually she'll go down around 10 every night. school or no school and wakes up around 7 every morning. and during the day.. around 3 or 4 she takes an hour nap

Stifler's - posted on 07/03/2011

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We try to let Logan stay up later on the weekends, but healways wakes up at the same time anyway!

Bridget - posted on 07/03/2011

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My kids are five, four, and two and they go to bed between 7 and 7:30. It seems to work for all three of them so until their sleep needs change we are going to keep it that way :)

Savanna - posted on 07/03/2011

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My 6 year olds bedtime is 9pm on a school night and he will get up at about 6am to get ready. He can stay up as long as he wants when theres no school. I think kids just need their space to grow. My 11 year old has to be in her room by 11pm on school nights. I dont mind if shes not asleep I just dont want her up all night so i will check on her at about 5:30am when i get up. I also have a 13 year old who has to be in his room by 1am and he gets up and 6:30am. My 15 and 17 year old both do not have bedtimes and can stay out as long as they want but they have to be able to get up at 6am for high school.

Ange - posted on 05/27/2011

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My 7 year old daughter goes to bed at 730pm during the week because of school but weekends she is up till 10 pm with us as she can sleep in, in the morning..... and summer time will be a 9pm bed time I think unless she has to get up early in the morning.....

Karen - posted on 05/26/2011

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We put our kids to bed between 7-7:30pm for the kids 8 yrs and under. My 10 and 11 yr olds go to bed btw 7:30-8 and the baby goes to bed at 8:00pm. We were put to bed then growing up so it doesn't seem that early (even tho it's earlier than all our friends). We also got a note home from the school saying that the kids need to have at least 10-12 hrs a night sleep to function properly at school.

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My daughter is 18 months and goes to bed anywhere from 6-7 pm. It really depends on how cranky she is. Either way she normally sleeps until 7am. I had an 8pm bed time until I was 13. But I also had to get up at 5 am.

Kyleigh - posted on 05/26/2011

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9pm for 2nd grade and on up - if in 2nd grade or lower our bedtimes were at 8pm. The weekends for the little ones are usually 9pm and the older ones 10pm we stil have weekend bedtimes because me and the dh is quality alone time.

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Liz- i wish my 4 yr old would nap like that! Thats part of the reason for an early bedtime. She just refuses to fall asleep lol. Instead she has quiet time during her sister and brothers nap. Your lucky!

Jamie - posted on 05/25/2011

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@Bridgette

I know it about the amount of sleep. The people I was talking about in my post get their children up at the same time I get mine up yet they go to bed 2-3 hours later.

Bridgette - posted on 05/25/2011

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The actual time they go to sleep is not critical, it is how much sleep they get. If you make the bedtime later but they still get up at the same time it is an hour of lost sleep which is not worth it. If the amount of sleep is the same, and it works for you, go with it. I know families that work non-normal shifts who have all sorts of different schedules and have healthy, happy kids.

Stifler's - posted on 05/25/2011

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My 16 month old goes to bed by at least 730 every night except like if we go somewhere and he stays up to play with other kids or wakes up when we get home. I have no idea why people let their kids stay up heaps late either, I NEED ME TIME!

Stephanie - posted on 05/24/2011

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my 2 year old goes to bed around 9, she has since she was about 5 months old, with the hours her daddy worked it was just a lot easier for him to be able to spend sometime with her after work and before bed! I plan on moving her bedtime up as she gets older so she will be in bed early for school.

Medic - posted on 05/24/2011

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My 16 month old goes to bed at 630 and wakes up at 7 if she has to go to daycare otherwise she will sleep till 9 or 10 and she naps for about 2 hours or so from 1230-230ish. She is like me and NEEDS her sleep or she is a terror. My 4.5 year old goes to bed between 7 and 730 and wakes up at 645 on school days but will sleep till 9 or 10 on no school days. He also naps from 1230-2ish. If my kids didn't require so much sleep I would probably still put them to bed early just get them up earlier in the mornings.

Elfrieda - posted on 05/24/2011

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I never had a bedtime, and neither did my husband. I don't know how our parents survived! I'm very happy with our 7-8ish bedtime for our 1 year old. It's wonderful to have the evenings to ourselves! And of course, he needs lots of sleep so it's good that way, too. We are out later than that once or twice a week, and he survives, but the next day I try to get him to nap twice instead of his usual once to make up for it.

Sarah - posted on 05/24/2011

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I have a 10 yr old, 7.5yr old and 20 month old. bedtime in the summer is 8pm for the 7.5 and baby and 8.30 - 9pm for my 10 yr old. These times tend to be about a half hour earlier in the winter months. As long as kids have a routine and it varies from child to child and of course parents need their time alone also!

Michelle - posted on 05/23/2011

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I have two 7 yr olds, five yr old, and a 3 yr old. They all go to bed at the same time at 8:30 pm. Sometimes a little later and sometimes a little earlier.



Most of them wake up at 6 am on their own and one sleeps between 7-8am. He's like me and the others are like their father.



I find if they are up past 9pm or so they are a bear the next day since they naturally wake up the same time as they normally would.



I guess know your child and what works for them. If you let them stay up a little later than normal and they are a pain the next day then you know not to let them stay up.

Liz - posted on 05/23/2011

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I have 3 boys and my youngest two (2 1/2 and 17 months) are in bed by 9. My oldest, 4, is usually up with me until 10:30 or so. BUT he gets a 3 hour nap every day still, so he is not missing out on any sleep. I know he probably doesn't really need the nap and could go to bed earlier, but I just can't give up that nap time! All of my boys get up at about 9 in the morning, and then lay down at 1:30 until 4:30 for nap. I guess it all really depends on what your schedules are. None of my kids are in school yet so bed time is not something that is a HUGE deal here. On Saturday nights, they are all in bed by 8:30 because we have to get up early for church the next day.

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7:30-8 is bedtime here. Both of my girls (4&2) get up between 6-6:30am no matter when they go to bed so we have an early BT. If the girls are up later then they go to bed earlier the next night because the 4 yr old doesnt nap and an hour isnt enough for the 2 yr old to make up sleep.

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I should also add that before my girls turned 6.... bedtime was 6:30-7 cuz they needed 12 hours/night. By 6.5 though.. their sleep needs changed, so I changed the rules along w/ them. ;)

Katie - posted on 05/23/2011

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I have a 6 year old and a 1 year old. Both kids go up at 7 to get ready for bed and are in bed and asleep by 7.30. They get up around the 7.30 mark the following morning. Children of this age should be getting 10-12 hous of sleep a night. All children react differently with how much sleep they get but my children are much happier when htey sleep well. I don't agree with kids being up at 9 or 10 at night. But thats just my opinion :)

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Bedtime is a flexible 8 in this house. My 3 year old goes to bed earlier if he hasn't had a nap and my 9 year olds go to bed a bit later MOST of the time (but not past 9 except on rare occasions that are NOT school nights).

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