What to do when your a stay at home mom

Crystal - posted on 11/19/2010 ( 31 moms have responded )

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I'm a stay at home to two children. 2 and 8 months. Being a stay at home mom is starting to get to me.Im wondering how do the rest of you stay at home moms handle it? and what do you do during the day?

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Corinne - posted on 11/19/2010

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Okay, this is a typical day:
7am: out of bed, throw washer load on, get kids up, breakfast
8am: washed, dressed and teeth brushed, wash breakfast dishes
8:45am: coats on, walk Mia to school
9:15am: playgroup with Devon
11:15am: walk home from group, lunch prep, washing in dryer, washer back on!
12:15pm: chow time
12:45pm: walk to playgroup, shopping on way
1pm: playgroup
3pm: leave playgroup, sprint across town to pick Mia up from school
3:30pm: School kicks out, visit Nannalynne or park, home
4:15pm: homework with Mia, kids play/fight while I cook, washing into dryer, fold previous load
5pm: chow, wash lunch and dinner plates
5:45pm: bath
6:15pm: t.v (bedtime hour), toys away
7pm: upstairs, teeth brushed, story, bed!
7:15pm: vaccuum floor, fold washing and put away
8pm: make cup of tea, open biscuits, plonk arse at computer, sit here and type! Or, if I'm being good, I'll do a workout for 2hrs then dive in the bath, guess I'm not in that kind of mood today?!
Of course we don't always get to all the playgroups, but I try to take him to as many as possible because Devon gets lonely at home now that Mia's in school, plus you get to meet other Mums in your area. Ask at your library, local school, church or even your doctor to see if there are any groups near to you.

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It is hard to tell you what to do without knowing what you are already doing. Here are some things I did with my son when he was that age.
Our library has story time twice a week, and a mommy book club which had activities for tots while moms discussed the book we were reading.
Starbucks, Barnes&Noble, and Fiction Addiction also have story times once a week. Obviously, we didn't go to all of them all the time, but it was nice to have several to pick from so we had somewhere to go on days I needed to get out of the house.
There are also parks, but depending where you live, those are obsolete in the winter time.

In the house, I started doing crafts and preschool activities with my son when he was about 2 yrs. We also played board games-- Toy Story Yatzee, The Hungry Caterpillar, Cootie, Horton Hears a Who, I Can Do That, are all great games for little ones.
We read a lot of books.
And then there is cleaning--I spend 15 minutes in each room cleaning. During that 15 minutes, my son had to entertain himself. It taught him how to play independently and use his imagination. After each room, I would spend 5-10 minutes playing with him doing whatever he was doing while I cleaned.

Is that kind of what you were looking for? I hope it helps and that you enjoy your time being a sahm :)

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i have a 17 month old daughter and a 6 week old son. im pretty busy, especially when they're both awake. i try to clean every day because if i miss a day, then its disaster the next day! sometimes i dont want to clean, it just feels monotonous, but its gotta get done. and i bake. i love it. cookies, cake, pie, cinnamon buns, brownies... really anything with flour sugar and eggs lol. if both the kids are sleeping at the same time (doesnt happen very often) then i play around on the computer and watch some tv. sounds like you need a break, though. do you have someone (or a couple people) to watch your kids for you for a day or two so that you can sit back and relax without having to worry about them? that way you could get some rest, get some alone time, and feel refreshed. being a sahm is hard work, and can be really lonely sometimes, so maybe all you need is a little bit of time to yourself or with your husband baby-free :)

Jessica - posted on 11/19/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. I have 10 month old twins and they keep me pretty busy. I play with them a lot and work on developmental skills. when they nap I usually read or watch a movie to relax. We run errands and grocery shop or go to themall and walk around. When its warm I take them to the park.

Ashley - posted on 11/24/2010

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Oh I am in your spot to Ally. that's why I got a gym membership... just to leave :) Had to do something for me!!

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Brandy - posted on 11/08/2011

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I go to alot of free plaugrpups in the communitt that way I have a social network moms goibg through same things that I am and my children are happy and tired when we go hm

Brandy - posted on 11/08/2011

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I go to alot of free plaugrpups in the communitt that way I have a social network moms goibg through same things that I am and my children are happy and tired when we go hm

Wanda - posted on 03/20/2011

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What i do during the day is i write in my journal and write some poetry. I also read books and magazines, meet and make friends on FB, Twitter, and other social networks. On nice days, I just sit out and bask in the sunshine.

Ally - posted on 11/24/2010

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I'm on/off some days I love it other days I'm in tears feeling alone. I mostly let him watch tv its all educational cartoons like special agent oso, handy mandy and other things like that! I try to set a schedule but does not always do well in my house.

Chloie - posted on 11/24/2010

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well i have 2 kids nearly 3 and 1 and i am suppose to get the house clean and maintain it, look after and amuse the children, feed them, put them for sleeps and if i have spare time then i can go on fb or com but hmm the kids get looked after but my house seriously looks like a bomb went off oh i forgot cook dinner pick up my husband and pick up from my husband from work

Ashley - posted on 11/24/2010

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Although I am very busy, I take time to play with my daughter and love on her. I also let her have her own play time in which I clean or do other things but sometimes I make her help me. She is only two but she cleans lol... she makes a mess, she picks it up!! It is easy to go crazy at home being a stay at home mom and no one can say that it is easy! But at the same time we need our space! When I put my daughter down I do things that I like to do! Long baths and just hang out around the house.

Amanda - posted on 11/24/2010

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Well I have 4 children ages almost7, 4, 2 and a yr. I also do inhome daycare and have 4 fulltime kids. My 2 oldest are in school fulltime during the day so it makes it easier with just my 2 youngest until about 130. I typically spend a day, cleaning the entire house, dishes, laundry, vacuuming, and entertaining the kids! I honestly wish I had more down time but I love my job because I get to stay home with my own kids, and I love taking care of them and teaching them new things! It takes a little getting used to but after time you'll get the hang of things. I was going crazy until I started taking in daycare kids, and since than it's been a busy ride for me and I totally love it! I don't know what I would do without the chaos! And I love to clean so that helps keep me busy when I start to get bored!!! Hang in there and you'll eventually get the hang of things. Plan playdates, or pick up arts and crafts supplies for your older child and entertain her that way! Keep your head up and enjoy your time with the kids!

Wendy - posted on 11/24/2010

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Being a SAHM has brought me so much happiness and fulfillment. I never got bored, but adult talk during the day is hard to come by. My youngest will start school next year and then no more little ones during the day. When my sons where babies like yours are, I used to enjoy reading to them a lot. My husband asked me to do this for them during the day and he read (still does) to them at night. It relaxes everyone! Even though they are babies, try it. The tone of your voice is what they will respond to.

Lyn - posted on 11/24/2010

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I am a SAHM as well. Both of my kids are in school. Our day during the week starts at 6 am. My 7 yr old has to catch the bus as 7 am. So i have from 7:10 am to 11:30 am with my 4 yr old. He goes to school at 11:45 to 2:45. In the itme he's gone i do laundry, fold and put away, vacuum, clean animal cages, start figuring out dinner and find a snack for them. My 7 yr old gets off the bus at 4 pm. as soon as he gets home he is starving. The boys have a snack do homework and by then it's dinner time. Sometimes they go out to play or they run around the house. Tuesday nights are cubscout nights and wednsdays are half days for my 7 yr old. I agee with the other moms in saying join a mommy group. Make new friends while at your kid's school. I met my best friend Angie at our sons's school during pre-k. Even though they don'tr go to the same school now we still are friends and once a week try to get together. My friend Grace and i met through another friend about 5 yrs ago. Our kids go to the same school and her daughter even watches my kids. Friends are great to have they cheer you on when you're down.

Zoe - posted on 11/23/2010

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i sometimes wishhe days were longer, mondays swimming, walking through the park on the way there and back, tues anything, baking, painting or if weathergood the local statley home. wends, parent and toddler group. thursday meet up with frends, friday meet up with frends. some weeks i even clean the bathroom.

Keila - posted on 11/22/2010

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I think having a girls night, or date night is a good thing to have when your a stay at home mom. that way you do get a break from your kids. not that you don't love being with them. but we all need time to breath and do some grow up we like to do with other grow ups.

Leah - posted on 11/22/2010

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I enjoy it even though sometimes I wish I could contribute to the income even though I can't just yet. I enjoy staying at home because I don't get to miss any of my son's moments. Sometimes you just need to get away and have "you" time. So if it's possible have your kids go to a babysitter for the night.

Keila - posted on 11/22/2010

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I plan art projects, make lessons for them to do like abc's and 123's stuff. we also use the news paper to to find free local events. I find the more structure you put in to your day the better it goes. at lest it's working with my kids. you could also try play groups.

Amanda - posted on 11/22/2010

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I have been a stay at home mom for almost 4 years now and I absolutely love it. YES there are hard days. But it's totally worth it. Being home with your kids is AMAZING for them. When they are older they will appreciate the sacrifice you made to stay at home with them. I play with my kids, do crafts, dance, sing, eat together. When they have a nap I work my home business. I work with a team of hundreds of moms over the phone and internet so I get to connect with other moms on the phone and chat online all day long and that has been my saviour! haha being able to chat with other moms and talk about our day and connect with adults during the day has been great for me. So even just being on Circle of moms and chatting I'm sure will help you out :) Maybe there is a hobby you'd like to start?

Melanie - posted on 11/22/2010

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I think I can relate to what you are saying, it's been quite an adjustment for me. I was quite into my career and a bit of a workaholic and then at age 35 had Emma, who is now 8 months. I decided to stay home and have been struggling with the adjustment to not having the social outlet of work quite a bit. I agree with all these moms, you've got to get out and meet people. I joined a tots and mommies class on Fridays and I've met some moms there. It's been even worse, as I fell down my stairs two months ago and sprained my ankle, and it's just now really getting better. I was so upset to miss the Fall weather and the walks, and getting out and about was difficult when I couldn't walk around too much. I'm looking forward to being completely healed, getting through the holidays and then getting out there!!!!

Gemma - posted on 11/22/2010

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being a stay at home mom is great but it can drive you stir crazy!! its great playing with the kids all day, but you need to get out and about with them (weather permiting) try and find a mother & baby/toddler group at least then the kids will have fun and you get some grown up conversation! or trips to the park shops etc will help break up the day

Christi - posted on 11/21/2010

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My day consists of an hour on home therapy and two hours of therapy in a facility for my Autistic son as well as cooking, cleaning, laundry, paying bills, grocery shopping, running errands, yard work and anything else that might need to be done. My son also goes to a weekly music class at the children's hospital with other Autistic children and he has play dates a couple time of the week. After my husband is home, if he doesn't have to work, we go to the park or walk at the mall. I love being at home with my son, even though it wasn't really a choice I made but something that had to be done.

Jasmine - posted on 11/21/2010

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Hi Crystal. I'm a stay-at-home mom w/ two girls, ages almost 1 & almost 3. Rewarding, yes. And at times, challenging & lonely. I fill up our mornings & early afternoons w/ activities. Monday morning we have a 45-minute Music Together class, Tuesday & Thursday my older daughter goes to pre-school in the a.m. while i take the younger one to the library or a drop-in kindergym class at the community center or we run errands, Wednesday my older daughter & I do a parent/toddler ballet class thru the community center (1 hour) while my mom-in-law takes the younger one to the park, Fridays we run errands or arrange playdates, whatever comes up. It's nice to fill up the mornings because the girls are nice & tired after lunch! Usually take 2-3 hour naps & I'll tidy the house or catch up on reading, emails, phone calls, bills. After they wake up we'll play or take walks. So important to reserve time for yourself. I try to get together w/ my girlfriends as often as I can for walks or dinner or a movie. I admit, I don't allot very much time to myself these days & it's starting to get to me. Trying to get back into a good excercise routine now, but so hard to find the time!! Good luck & take care.

Lara - posted on 11/21/2010

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HI Crystal. Staying at home is one of the most rewarding yet thankless jobs you'll ever have. Make time for yourself or you get wrapped uyp with everything else and forget who you are!

Stifler's - posted on 11/21/2010

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Lots of walks around the block, cleaning things for no reason, sorting out cupboards, visiting friends, shopping, coffee with the neighbours, drives to the dam to get baby to go to sleep hahaha

Lisa - posted on 11/20/2010

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meet friends at the park that are also stay at home moms so your kids interact with other kids & you get adult interaction too!!

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umm housework, laundry, general cleaning, encouraging my son to put his own toys away, ironing, folding clothes and towels and sheets, changing nappies, changing clothes, getting meals and snacks, getting drinks, playing, reading to my son, sleeping when he does, baking, grocery shopping, going for a walk ...I have a one year old i'm never bored

Alice - posted on 11/20/2010

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I know what you mean. I love my girls to death, but also enjoy having a bit of adult stuff - usually I stuff it in my chatting with people at the park or online lol. My work (I'm an online fitness coach) helps too, as I spend a few hours a week chatting ro talking with my clients. :)
Most of the day is spent teaching (we home-school), cleaning, working on the farm, and playing :)

Theresa - posted on 11/19/2010

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I understand what you mean. My little ones are 2 and 8 months also. I was a SAHM for my two boys. When they were both in school and old enough I went back to work. Then, surprise, #3 came along when the boys were 9 and 12. I became a SAHM once again. I enjoy it much more this time around. I've learned to just enjoy every moment because I know I'll blink and these two little ones (we had surprise #4 as well) will be grown up too. It happens so fast when you look back. I know in the moment it seems like it will never end, but it WILL end, and all too soon. Try to enjoy it as best you can. As for things to do, check your local library for story hours. Do you have ECFE (early Childhood and Family Education) classes or a MOPS (Mother's of Preschoolers) group in your area? We like to head to the mall or Walmart when we feel cooped up and "window" shop. Good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 11/19/2010

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release the guilt, if you have it like i do, of leaving your kids with a sitter or hubby..... get out by yourself sometime and by all means go to a playgroup with your kids, it is well worth the time and you find out all the other moms are just as crazy as we are!!

Christy - posted on 11/19/2010

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Can you join a mom's group? They usually have activities planned every week, along with playgroups. Check out momsclub.org to see if there's a chapter in your area.

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