When do you shower?!

Shauna - posted on 11/16/2011 ( 79 moms have responded )

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Hello! I was just wondering how and when other moms shower.



I used to be able to just set my lil guy in his bouncer next to the shower and play peek-a-boo the whole time. Then he got older and I just put him in the bathroom with me with his toys but then he started screaming and pulling the curtain out and getting soaked so now I have to shower when he's napping. Very frustrating sometimes because we live in an old house and the bathroom is right next to his room so it's a 50/50 chance he'll be awake by the time I get out. I usually shower during his morning nap from 9-10.



So to say the least, I don't shower nearly as much as I used to, but hey they say it's healthier for your skin! Ooh the joy of motherhood...

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Miranda - posted on 11/17/2011

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I have four children and it is tuff, but a good way to get a daily shower is a safe room. If you have your home or a room that is complety baby proof, put on their fav show or movie get them a drink ( i wouldnt suggest a snack choking factor) keep your door open to the shower and hop on in. I do this in my master bedroom, My kids know when Mommys in the shower and will talk to me and asked me if they can get me a towel. If you get in a pattern of doing this they will get ust to doing it like everything else in their schedule. Goodluck!

Michellechayrez - posted on 11/16/2011

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I would say shower with your child. It is fun for your child and you both will be clean:-) Also that way when he/she is taking a nap you can do something else ( cook, clean, read, relax, nap, ect...)

Kelly - posted on 12/24/2011

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at night when she is asleep! Its way to hard to do it while she is awake because she is walking now and tries to pull the shower curtain open when im there. Or I wait til daddy comes home.

Merve - posted on 11/29/2011

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THE moms that have replied with 2 kids... how the heck can you leave a 3 and 2 year old in a play room.. i mean im very jealous so to speak since i have 3 year old and a 8 month old and let alone being in the same room with them I cant even take my eyes off on them for one second since im afraid the older one will do something to the big one.. ( cause he does try)

Joyi - posted on 11/28/2011

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I have a six-year-old girl and a 2 1/2 year-old boy. Both my husband and I have taken a bath / shower with both of our kids ... the rule in our house was this: eye-level, three, or discomfort for bathing with the opposite sex. Now, I often still bathe with my six-year-old daughter and my toddler son at the same time. My daughter has shown no signs of being overly curious, uncomfortable or otherwise disturbed by bathing with her brother or me. My daughter and husband stopped taking baths together right at the time she turned three - she got right at eye-level and curious and he was not comfortable anymore. So no more baths with Daddy, but he would still go in and wash her hair and whatnot until just this past birthday. On her sixth birthday we explained that she was a big girl now and we explained the basics of privacy. She fully expects that when her brother turns three, that neither she nor I will be taking baths with him anymore. For her the issue is not about the body or shame, it is simply about being old enough to bathe alone.

I started bathing with my kids for convenience and then my kids practically threw hissy-fits if we tried to bathe without them. It sometimes is annoying, because I just want to have my own dang bath; but usually it is okay and I enjoy those baths. The kids enjoy showing me their newest water antics and the closeness gives us some real one-on-one time. I mean it is impossible to get overly distracted when you bathe or shower with your child... except maybe when you have soap in your hair or on your face... but still... you are there and in the moment. I guess I kind of grew up in a hippy house - our mother always bathed with us, but my husband's family was the complete opposite. He at first was not at all comfortable with bathing with our infant daughter, but later changed his mind. He too enjoyed just sitting in the tub with her and watching her float and be calm. As time passed it simply became second nature for each of us to bathe with our daughter and then, later, our son.

The result, frankly, my daughter has no sense of shame or modesty yet, and sometimes I wish she had just a bit - but only because she clearly has not yet associated nakedness or functions of her body to be shameful.... curious, yes, but not embarrassing. Her frankness sometimes makes me blush, but never her. She is just so matter-of-fact and I honestly believe it is because of us all bathing together. We are not nudist, but we clearly are not ashamed of our bodies either - so in turn, she has a very indifferent attitude about seeing nakedness related to bathing. We are otherwise dressed and (except as toddlers) the kids are expected to also be dressed in PJ's or their clothes when not bathing. Hope that makes sense.

I am a shower person - so I always just sat the kids in the tub and let it fill a bit while I showered. They played with their toys at my feet. As I finished up my shower, I soaped them down and rinsed them... about that time I also started letting out the water. Usually they still wanted to play - so I put clean water back in the tub and let them play while I dressed.

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Nelly - posted on 01/02/2012

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I shower in the morning b4 i wake up my children and get them ready 4 school i also shower and get dresed up b4 i go pick the youngest 2 @ school

Nicole - posted on 12/29/2011

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When my kids were little I showered at night. I didnt skip days Im the type that cant get in bed having not showered. idk I feel icky. Taking a shower makes me feel so refreshed and even with baby that doesnt sleep all night it somehow gave me my 2nd wind. LOL.



Now that they are older going on 2 and 3 I just put the baby gate up in the hallway so they can go in their room and the bathroom but no where else. Otherwise id have toddlers climbing the stairs, kitchen table, god knows what else. It works they come in the bathroom say hi run back in their room to play.



but I do remember the days of little little babies and trying to shower thats when I decided as soon as they go to bed I get in the shower right away. Luckily I can now shower mid day as they play and I can see them cuz I keep the bathroom door open.

Marcie - posted on 12/22/2011

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I choose to shower whenever my kids are both in bed asleep,I have two toddlers both 3 and 4 and i'll normally wait until they have been sleeping for about an hour because that guarentees me that i won't be comming out to a little boy or little girl who have snuck there way into my bed lol.

Gladys - posted on 12/22/2011

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My daughter is 15mo young and it took me a while to figure out a solution to your question haha what I do is pull my shower curtain back so that she can see me through the clear shower liner and leave the liner open half way. She thinks it's so funny to throw random things into the tub! So she will be in and out trying to find the next thing to throw in there. I make a big game out of it like in so surprised she did it. By the time get out i have the most random things in my tub but she seems to enjoy it and i get to shower =)

Momof1 - posted on 12/21/2011

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I only have one child, so I guess it is easier for me then parents with more then one child. That being said when he was a newborn/young infant, I showered when he napped and if I didn't feel like doing it then, I showered when my husband came home. When he got a little bit older and I needed to shower while he was awake rather then waiting for his nap time, I would put him in his exersaucer or he would just be gated in his play room, with the bathroom being right next door and the door opened. Once he was on a regular sleeping and napping schedule, I just showered/shower when he is napping, unless, like I said, I need to shower earlier then that because we have things to do.



My son sleeps from about 9 PM to 8 AM and I wake up for the most part at the same time, so I don't wake up earlier to shower. I like my sleep too much. And now when I do shower when my son is awake (he is 2 years old) I just set his favorite toy in front of the bathroom door and he plays with it and I shower and sing the songs to him. He doesn't stray far from the bathroom anytime either I or my husband are in there, so I know he is always around. And luckily (knock on wood) he doesn't get into anything bad.

Leah - posted on 12/21/2011

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I have a 5yr old,3 1/2yr old,1yr old and im 21wks pregnant.i get breakfast for all three and shower when they done eating.older two play and watch baby.she wanders from room to room....

Melissa - posted on 12/21/2011

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I did the same thing with the bouncer, then when he got old enough we left him in his walker in the bathroom. Now I just shower with him, with only a few toys so the shower doesn't get too crowded.

Brooke - posted on 12/13/2011

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I get up before my daughter to shower. My showers only last 5-10 minutes, but I can't stand not showering before I start my day.

Heather - posted on 12/13/2011

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I have a 3 year old and a 14m old and when I get ready for a shower I wait till the 14m old is asleep and put the 3 year old in with me because she can get in to stuff when not watched. When my 3 year old was younger she was in the bouncer in the bathroom with me and we played, now if I want a shower by myself I do it during naps or wait for my husband to get home and get it then. I hope this helps you and good luck. Also took out the time to get some me time in and I do during shower or bath.

Amber - posted on 12/12/2011

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since day one, i always bathed with my son. since he was a preemie i was afraid to set him in a baby tub on his own so i just held him and cleaned us both. to this day, thats the only way he will take a bath and he is 19 months old. almost time to break the habit, but we will figure it out when the time comes. its easier too when you are in a rush!

Joyi - posted on 12/12/2011

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To Jennifer... same here. My kids are the same way; if someone is bathing, then their nakedness is a non-issue. I JUST this last summer finally got through to my six-year-old daughter that she was not allowed to just pop in and out of the bathroom when Daddy was bathing. I mean we have a shower curtain you cannot see through, but still - she is old enough to "hold it" for 5 - 10 minutes while Daddy showers. (The habit got started because, we only have one bathroom - and potty training demanded immediate access!)

Bethany - posted on 12/09/2011

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I like to shower after my daughter is in bed at night, and I can take my time. She's nearly 3.

Jennifer - posted on 12/09/2011

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LOL when my girls were little I would shower or bath with them but then I started with the co baths as soon as I could comfotably sit in the tub. Around the time my oldest was 4 months I would bring her into the shower with me, I started that by leaving her in a bouncer right outside the tub so after I was done I could just lean out take off her diper and bring her in, I did the same with my youngest as well only big sister would be in there the hole time and yep the soap is slippery and it can be tricky. Of Course now at 9 and almost 7 they still have to pop thier heads in if they are home when I shower to ask something or tell me about something going on in thier lives ect. I dont think I will ever be garuntied a totaly privet shower ever again if anyone is in the house LOL.

Amanda - posted on 12/09/2011

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My oldest turned 2 in September-he comes in with me about 90% of the time during awake hours

for now at least for now at least. Though I do try to sneak in a quick one when daddy is home.

Keri - posted on 12/08/2011

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How old is he? Set him up with an activity and let him know Mommy needs to shower. Keep the bathroom door open so he can come in and get you if he needs to. Besides, unless I need to shave my shower takes 5-10 minutes. I lay out my clothes before I get in so it only takes another 5-10 minutes to get ready - just about the length of one of his favorite TV shows!

Jenn - posted on 12/02/2011

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I grab a shower when my kids are into a movie and I know I can have at least 5 min without them fighting or needing me.

Racheal - posted on 12/02/2011

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I have a 2 yr old girl and she showers with me and when my 8 month old boy is taking a nap

Nicky - posted on 12/01/2011

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Yep mine did the same thing....Do you have a jumper?? My DD only sleeps for like 30min so its enough to get a shower and half of my hair blow dried lol! I found the jumper is pretty entertaining to them and they can't get out, Im guilty of leaving the bathroom door open and setting her in her jumper in the hallway so i know shes okay. They get over those bouncers too fast.....

Laura - posted on 12/01/2011

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Because I have a as of yet un-named seizure disorder (we have ruled out epilepsy) and still have mild seizures while on medication, I have to shower with someone home. So when my daughter is asleep at night, my husband sits and reads in the bathroom while I shower.

Joyi - posted on 11/30/2011

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If you start bathing with your child - I highly recommend a handheld sprayer. It is easier to get the kids to accept the shower spray if they can explore it first.... plus, it is safer to rinse them - you don't have to hold up a wet, soapy baby who is going nuts, because you dared to wash their hair and now want to rinse it! I just save the hair washing for last... spray 'em quick and assure them it is over when I am done - then usually I distract them by directing their attention to their bath toys.

Krystyna - posted on 11/30/2011

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When my twins were babies I had to change my routine and shower the night before. Morning showers were on hold for a while.

Jo Ellen - posted on 11/30/2011

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Sometimes it's just easier to hang out with others who don't have time either!! LOL mom of 2yr.old twins

Autumn - posted on 11/29/2011

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I DONT GET A CHANCE ALOT EITHER IT IS HARD PLUS I WORK NOW SO ITS ALOT MORE TIRING BETWEEN HER WORK AND ALL I GET IT WHEN I NEED IT USUALLY THE FIANCE JUST WATCHES HE FOR ME

Lexi - posted on 11/29/2011

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lol yeah, I don't shower near as often anymore. And showering alone? boy is that a luxery! lol How/when I manage to has varied from stage to stage as my kiddo grew. When my son was too old to leave in the bouncer I would put him in the play pen with some toys. When he was big enough to sit safely in the bottom of the tub without me holding him we would just shower or bath together. The past 6 months or so (he's almost 2.5yrs old now) I've gotten comfortable putting him out in front of the tv and I just leave the bathroom door open so I can peak out and check on him while I shower. Lifes gotten more complicated since our second son was born 2 months ago of course. He does not tolerate being put down! Even if I get him to sleep he wakes up when I put him down. I pretty much have to wait until a time when my husband is home and free to hold him while I shower.

Jennifer - posted on 11/28/2011

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I usually shower when my girls are asleep at night :) I hope this helps I live in an older house also but my girls room isnt next to the bathroom any more

Katrina - posted on 11/25/2011

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i have an 18 month old and a 7 month old and we all get in the bath 2getha. i have even mastered washing my hair while all in bath. i now find it the easiest way. Getting out is the hardest bit but ive mastered that aswell. i feel quite proud of myself tbh x

Patricia - posted on 11/23/2011

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your not the only one they either won't settle or i am to exhausted i have 10 kids i really just don't care any more if i get out of my pjs it's a miracle

Amy - posted on 11/22/2011

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I have a set twin 22 month olds, I shower at night when my husband is home or I get at 5 am with my husband and shower before he goes to work.

Charlene - posted on 11/22/2011

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I have a baby gate on my toddlers bedroom door and a playpen for my 10 month old to amuse himself in when I'm in the shower...I'm only in there 10 minutes maximum anyway and I know they're both safe and happy...is hard finding time for yourself when you got kiddies but needs must so long as they are safe and settled :)

Cari - posted on 11/22/2011

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I get up earlier than my DS1 and get myself ready then. DH agreed to look after DS if he wakes while I'm in the shower, which is rare, and when I'm finished DH gets himself ready for work and DS usually wakes up round then. When DH is travelling I keep the routine but bring the baby monitor into the bathroom with me. Like you, our bathroom is in close proximity to baby's room but baby has gotten used to it.

Ange - posted on 11/21/2011

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I just show when ever if I am lucky to have the time to shower when he is napping then I do but usually its first thing in the morning before I have to go out some place and he will come in the shower with me I can't get away from that he just LOVES, LOVES, LOVES going in the shower with us he hears the water running he is right there looking to get in with you lol and we don't mind then he gets cleaned too so it really works out

Karol - posted on 11/21/2011

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I usually wait until my 18 month old son goes to bed a night. I find it's the best time for me.

Whitney - posted on 11/21/2011

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We start our day at 530 so typically I wait until the baby (14MODD) goes back to sleep - usually about 7. I would highly recommend waking before baby does if you can to shower before he awakens for the first time - if it's after 630. If not, is he old enough to do solo playtime in his crib yet (sounds like it)? You could institute a new routine of solo play time after breakfast so mommy can shower. A few minutes alone entertaining himself helps build necessary life skills and reinforces that sometimes mommy's need have to come above baby's wants for mommy to be a better mommy. Sounds like your old routine's not working anymore and it's time to change! :) Good luck Mama!

Heidi - posted on 11/21/2011

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I started bathing with my son when he was about 9 months old... it became our special time when we would chat and play. I made up a song that whenever I sang he would run to the bath room because he knew he was gonna splash. Now he's 3 and I can say to him sit and wait while mommy baths and then you can have your turn if I want to bath alone....this doesn't always work because he is too excited to wait. But I get to hear all his stories from playschool and his new words and what happened to him during the day. It has become 'our time' and honestly, I kinda get jealous when he baths with dad!!!!
xx

Angela - posted on 11/20/2011

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Shower with your kid in the high chair! I always do that, and my Son is 2 1/2....

Anna-marie - posted on 11/20/2011

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i shower first thing when my boy wakes up. i chuck a few toys in his cot and tell him i'm going for a shower.. and that i'll be in to get him in a while.
he's fine with it and most mornings now he will tell me that i'm going for a shower!! hahah

Kylie - posted on 11/20/2011

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I always shower at 6am before hubby leaves for work. It's a gr8 way to start my day. A shower in peace - heaven!!!

Clarissa - posted on 11/20/2011

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I have finally gotten my almost 9 month old son to play in the porta crib right after he wakes up in the morning so that I can get a shower. At other times, I will place him in his crib and turn the baby monitor on so that I can get a shower, even if he screams for the 10 minutes, it's well worth it. But there are many days that I wait until my husband gets home, because I don't really see the point in getting a shower if I am going to be cleaning the kitchen, vaccuming, dusting and everything else because I just feel nasty again anyways.

But I do feel like you, I don't shower nearly as much as I used to and at a normal frequency or schedule, but I wouldn't trade being a mom for anything in the world!!!

Chrissy - posted on 11/20/2011

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I take my daughter (2 years old) into the shower with me. She loves water and will ask for showers in the morning. My husband will sometimes take a shower with her as well, he just leaves his boxers on. If I'm in a rush, I'll sit her in her chair with Sesame Street or Fraggle Rock on and she'll have a snack while I have a quick shower.

Jenni - posted on 11/20/2011

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Hmm. That's a tough one. I always shower during my childrens' naps. The bathroom is fairly close to my daughter's room but she's a heavy sleeper.



Is there anyway you can play ambient music while he sleeps? Either in his room, or just outside?



Or if you know approximately when he wakes up. Shower about 20-30 mins before that. So it doesn't really matter if it wakes him up.

LEAH - posted on 11/19/2011

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I have five children 15,5,6 and twin 1 year olds. I shower whenever. If the older kids are at school I just put the babies in thier cribs or in their play pens with a few toys and shower. Sometimes I will strap them in their high chairs with some gerber puffs and shower. I never tiptoed around the house when babies were sleep so now they can sleep through all kind of noise. So the shower (and even me singing in it) doesn't wake them up lol.

I love taking showers, it is so relaxing and part of my "me time" so I would not dream of showering with the kids.

Emily - posted on 11/19/2011

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I used to have that very problem when my daughter was little. Now I have my son, aged 2 and 4 months, I stick him in front of a kid-friendly DVD (he loves In The Night Garden) while I shower. That's his only TV time. Works like a dream! Sure helps keep me sane. Hope it works for you, we all need me-time.

Julie - posted on 11/18/2011

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Get up each morning before he does!

Not only does it afford you that time alone - it is an excellent way to start your day - FRESH!!!

Susan - posted on 11/18/2011

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I shower before my kids wake up in the morning, or at the gym after working out since they have a childcare center I can leave my daughter in - which is a good motivation for working out, I guess. In all three of my kids' rooms, I put a "sound spa" from the time they were infants. It creates a lovely "white noise" effect" that blocks out noise from outside the room, and has the added bonus of creating soothing sounds in my room, too, at night since I had a monitor with the receiver in my bedroom when each was a baby, so I could hear them at night. Maybe something like this would help your son stay asleep while you are showering in the morning during his nap?

Angela - posted on 11/18/2011

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i shower during nap time, but our bathroom is right beside my daughter's room as well so I agree its best to take a shower right after you put them down for nap when they're not asleep quite yet so the noise won't startle them awake. I have super thick hair so taking a shower after she goes to sleep at night doesn't work for me, i'd have to spend an hour blow drying it and if I don't feel like doing that and I sleep on it, it looks CRAZY in the morning. I'd rather take one during nap time, but if we have to go somewhere on short notice and I HAVE to take a shower first I'll put her in the shower with me (she's 2) I give her a bath first and wash her hair and everything, then I get in and take my shower while she plays. Then I can get out and get dressed while she's still playing - have clothes in bathroom with me obviously - and after that get her out and dressed. but my daughter loves bathtime and she'll play in there forever if I'd let her :) I may have to rinse her hair one more time before I get her out because its mostly dry by then and usually looks crazy as well, but it works :)

Holly - posted on 11/18/2011

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My 4 yr old can play by herself or do whatever while I'm in the shower but I put my 17-mo old in her highchair in the bathroom and eats her breakfast. Gives me plenty of time to take a shower and start my hair & makeup!

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