where to find friends
Keri - posted on 12/08/2011
www.meetup.com has a lot of pages for mom's groups and there's a range of "types" of groups (twins/multiples, preschoolers, infants, etc.) so you can find a group that fits your family. If not, go hang out at the library during a children's event or something similar elsewhere. See who your child gravitates to in the pack of kids, then scout out the parent(s) of the kid(s).
Tamara - posted on 11/20/2011
You can check the local library, if you live in a small town you can check the city/town hall they would know about the groups and things like that (big ones don't they don't know whats going on in the next room nor care) also check out the supermarkets they have bulletin boards with signs of new groups and things like that so worth checking in to.
Jane - posted on 11/20/2011
Try some free programs for preschoolers in your area. I move a lot and have four young children, so often don't have time to talk and make friends when I am trying to supervise them. However, some situations are helpful. I've had excellent luck meeting nice moms at public library story times, especially if they have a craft time, too. Playgrounds, open play gyms or bounce houses, etc. Once you find one or two friends, they will probably know people too. Oh, and you can try www.meetup.com but I never had much luck with it, personally.
Alyanna - posted on 11/20/2011
Another group that you should check out is Mothers & More - it's about celebrating moms for being moms, but also for everything else we are outside of just moms. Most local chapters have playgroups as well as Moms' Night Out events.
Erica - posted on 11/19/2011
Does your town have a MOPS? Or maybe even a mommy Bible Study group. Those are two groups that are typically found just about everywhere and offer a great deal of support and activities for moms. Just a couple more suggestions. :) I hope you are able to connect with some new moms! I now drive 30-45 country minutes to go to my bible Study for some sanity outside of my home :)
Julie - posted on 11/18/2011
A church is a very good place to find friends. Chances are good there is a group for young moms. That, and older moms who might be willing to befriend you and give you not only a break once in awhile, but good motherly advice -
I am part of an international club called MOMS Club, It stands for Moms Offering Moms Support. Great club $20 a year membership. We are a group of stay at home, or part time working moms that have kids of various ages, but mainly at least one that is not school age yet. Each month we have different daily activities, that range from crafts, play dates, morning coffee time where moms drink coffee and kids play, to trips to local parks and zoos. I have been a member for 4 years, I have 2 kids, one age 5 1/2 and one 20 month old. Great opportunity to chat in any other language besides "baby talk". My son goes to kindergarten with 2 other kids, he knows from the club. It has benefits for us all. We also have one Moms Night Out a month, and it is the only activity that kids are not allowed. Just moms with other moms. Great way to meet other moms. www.momsclub.org should be able to give you additional information.
Anne - posted on 11/17/2011
I found a lot of friends just hanging out at the local playground (outside and at the mall). I met one of my best friends at the supermarket. Our then 3.5 year old daughters started playing together while we were in line at the check-out! I also joined a playgroup at a local church. I wasn't a member of the church and not planning to join the church, but they still let me join the playgroup. I ended up running the group!
Just start talking to moms you meet and don't be shy.
Jill - posted on 11/16/2011
will your son be going to preschool any time soon? that will be a great place to start as well. start talking to moms when they drop off or pick up their child, ask the teacher. how about church? volunteer.
oddly enough, i met a very good friend of mine at the play area in the mall once. we didnt know each other but her daughter and my daughter started playing together and even though we sat on the opposite corners of the play area, we noticed how well they played together. we ended up eating lunch at the mall and sitting a few tables away from each other and the girls kept getting up to visit the other table to say hello. finally, her mom came up to me and said she noticed how well the girls clicked and asked if we could get together for a play date sometime. we exchanged phone numbers and now we're very good friends.
offer to meet back at the same play area or playground until you get to know each other better. all it takes is speaking up, asking questions and having a friendly face on. good luck. once you are able to start getting involved in groups or getting out, your child will do most of the work for you! good luck!
Christe - posted on 11/16/2011
Look up Mom's Club and your zip code, I had the same problem until I found my chapter, it is an international service based organization that brings stayed home and part time working moms together. Other than our weekly meetings we have playmates with other kids in our age group and fun activities and mom nights/days out, it's really fun!
Kimberly - posted on 11/16/2011
That's a good ? & I have had that same prob...That's why I came to this site so I do believe u'r in the right place. So how u doin' I'm Kimberly & I would love to be your friend...I'm trying to get some Mommies together maybe for coffee or drinks to chat & b.s. about whatever. Back @ ya.
Kristal - posted on 11/16/2011
hey Kristal! I just read your entry and saw that you spell your name EXACTLY as I do. MY name is Kristal too! I've never known or met anyone else who spells it that way! LOL I do understand where you are coming from with the whole social thing. It's hard when you have little ones, especially when you don't know anyone else who does. I'm kind of in the same boat. We are transplants in our town so we don't know many people. Most of my social connections used to come from work, but now that i stay at home with our 8 month old, its become difficult. I know other moms that have children around my son's age, but they are more like acquaintances (they are wives of my husband's friends) and so we aren't really close enough where playdates wouldn't be awkward. I've been considering joining Gymboree and looking into local play groups once my son is a year old and can show interest in group play. Sometimes towns and cities have websites that list groups of parents that have organized playgroups and where and when they meet. You could probably start there. Good luck!
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