Why do people frown upon stay-at-home moms?

Dawn - posted on 06/24/2010 ( 718 moms have responded )

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I get so much grief being a stay at home mom. I have had people tell me that I am just being lazy staying at home with my son. That i need to pull my weight and bring home the bacon also. I thought staying home is a good thing to do for my son, why do I get crap?

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Vanessa - posted on 06/24/2010

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Tell them I rather forgo certain luxuries of life, than have a stranger raise my children for me. One doesn't say after the first four years of there child's life look back and say boy I sure missed out on OVERTIME, or DEADLINES, NO regretfully and YET tooo often parents look back and wish they had spent more time with there children, especially when it's too late. After there children have become despondent or have grown into a mind of there own, and are disrespectful and talking-back. It takes ALOT of determination, LOVE, and perserverance, and GREAT patience to raise children, on top of dirty diapers, spit-ups, tantrums, bathing, grooming, nursing, teething, then oh throw-up accidents, potty training stage of poopy & pee pee accidents, we have sweeping, dusting, vacuuming, laundry, dishes, ironing, cooking breakfast, lunch, and dinner, not to mention snacks, paying the bills, organizing closets, and that's just the short of it to keep the entire household in order from allowing chaos to rule the day or dominate our families lives, YET we manage to keep up with society view of women and live modern lives and we find time amidst it all to do our hair, nails, and work on our killer bodies. FACE IT Stay At Home MOMS ROCK!! We are YOUR MODERN DAY DOMESTIC DIVAS!! Whose LAZY?? I think not! More like those who pay others to avoid it all.

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They're just jealous because, lets face it, staying home with your babies is straight up awesome! We go to the park and hang out with other babies and get fresh air and sunshine all of the time!
I also think people who ditch their babes at daycare to "bring home the bacon" are delusional. Having a job actually costs more money than most people think when you have kids. Check this out:
http://moneycentral.msn.com/personal-fin...

In addition to that, I think that our capitalist, patriarchal society really undervalues the private sphere of work. It seems that raising children and keeping a clean happy house is worth less than driving a nicer car, or having more crap in your house. What unusual priorities...

Dawn - posted on 06/25/2010

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It does not have to be an us vs them type issue. We should all support one another in our life decisions. I say to each his/her own. We all have different paths that we must travel. For some of us it is to be at home while others can not for one reason or the other afford that opportunity. We should never look at someone else decision and judge them. Just learn to live at peace with yours. Don't focus on the negative people. Again, I stress - Find someone who will encourage you.

Daisy - posted on 06/24/2010

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I am sooooooo happy to see a post like this one and so many positive remarks on this issue. Wow awesome!!! First of all i get crap like that thrown at me without really being said to my face almost daily. From my friends i get the usual "i don't know how you can do it", or the most popular one "i would go crazy staying at home with the kids". Okay it's called BEING A PARENT, RAISING YOUR KIDS YOURSELF AND NOT PUTTING THEM IN DAYCARE BECAUSE YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOUR COFFEE IN THE MORNINGS, OR YOUR GUCCHI SHOES...Sorry got overwhelmed on this one. I respect all Mothers out there, whether they are stay at home moms or working moms, it is extremely hard going outside the home to work and then coming home to be a Mother at the end of the day. I admire and respect single moms that have no choice but to put their children in daycare because they won't be able to feed them. I used to be an Executive Secretary for a General Manager at a Marriott hotel and i loved my job but when i got pregnant i knew i would not go back to my job and four years later, i do not regret it at all. I am now a Mother of a second child, a baby boy of 9 months and i'll be doing the same with him, raising him myself. We are on a one income household, we have struggled to make ends meet, i even work sometimes as an Independent Contractor at home but doesn't bring in the money i need, but with all of that we are satisfied and happy.

I love being a stay at home mom and you shouldn't care what other people think in the first place, being a Mother is more work than doing it out there. If other Moms have an issue with us Staying at home moms then it has to be because they can't handle it and therefore would rather be at work than dealing with feeding, diapers, naps, screams ( i can do without that lol)...Anyways, wow sorry it turned out to be so long but it does upset me to hear these stories...Don't pay attention to what they tell you, what matters are your kids and your life not what they think or don't think...

Lucy - posted on 06/25/2010

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Some people are just rude and think they know best about everything.

I have been a working mum and a SAHM, which personally suits our family better, and I have had negative comments from both sides of the fence.

When I went back to work when my daughter was 6 months, I overheard comments from two mums at the parent and toddler group saying I couldn't "hack it" as a full time parent and was lazy to hand her over to a nursery. Now we have two kids (2 and 4) and I am a SAHM, another mum at playgroup said straight to my face "What? You don't go out to work at all? Don't you feel bad that you don't contribute to the household?"!

So, welcome to being a parent! Every parent is different, and I don't think it is fair to say that either being a SAHM or a working mum is always best. What ever you choose, there will always be some who want to do you down, so just ignore them. When it comes to being a SAHM, You're damned if you do and damned if you don't!

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Claire - posted on 03/20/2011

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I was stay-at-home for 10 months, then my husband was stay at home for 1 year, and now it's my turn again (while we wait for nb 2 to be conceived:-) Try being Stay-at-home Dad for comments regarding bringing the bacon home! I just think some comments people make are stupid and ignorant - so I don't pay attention! Most people are astounded my husband would do that - I think many Dads are envious.

Claire - posted on 03/20/2011

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I was stay-at-home for 10 months, then my husband was stay at home for 1 year, and now it's my turn again (while we wait for nb 2 to be conceived:-) Try being Stay-at-home Dad for comments regarding bringing the bacon home! I just think some comments people make are stupid and ignorant - so I don't pay attention! Most people are astounded my husband would do that - I think many Dads are envious.

Wanda - posted on 03/20/2011

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Believe me, i know just how you feel. Just yesterday my aunt was telling a mutual friend of ours that i need to get a job somewhere b/c me staying at home was doing anything. I just simply smiled and ignored her. I feel that being a SAHM is the hardest job in the world and not too many women want to do. When you're a SAHM, you're there for every milestone that your children accomplish, watching them grow up and becoming loving, caring, and smart adults. Try not to let people get to you about being a SAHM, i believe they're just jealous! LOL

Leah - posted on 11/22/2010

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Ignore them hun. People just like to get a rise out of others. Ignoring them is the best thing you can do. Your doing a wonderful thing by being a SAHM.

Stifler's - posted on 07/29/2010

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I'm not knocking single mums but if you have a partner who can provide while you stay home then why not? I can understand their frustration but it doesn't mean everyone should have to go back to work straight away after having a kid.

Amadahy - posted on 07/28/2010

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The trueth is they can't stand spending 24/7 with their kids without losing it, completely. I've met government workers who look shocked to find out that I find them leaving their children in daycare 12hrs a day appalling. Then I put on a very simpathetic face and tell them," it's OK though I can understand how much pressure society puts on woman these days to work even if they're not a single mother. After all you can't blame the single Moms for doing what they gotta do".

Stifler's - posted on 07/28/2010

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Who cares. I don't care what people say, kids need their mum at home. Stuff the career women and jealous single mothers.

Kim - posted on 07/22/2010

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I'm a SAHM too and I love it. I don't care what anybody says. Raising children is a tough job. I have 2 plus one on the way, no way am I going to pay someone else to raise my kids. That is MY job. My husband works a job to make money, I stay home and do the housework, cut the grass and raise my kids. I am so sorry you get grief over staying home.They either don't understand or are just plain jealous that you are able to stay home. Being a mom is 24/7 job. I am looking for other SAHM's where I live to get together with myself. And yes, staying home is the best thing for our children. Soryy, I am all over the place, pregnancy brain!! I hope everything works out for you!!

Sharlene - posted on 07/21/2010

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You see, now everyone is abusing working mums! That's not what it's all about - it about accepting that we have the right to choose what WE think is best for ourselves and our family and supporting our friends in the decision, whether they work or are at home full time.

Atasha - posted on 07/21/2010

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No one seems to realize that being a stay at home mom is no easy task. It takes alot of time and energy to rear children (especially since they are so active). As well as daily chores, meals, school activities, ect. Besides who better to raise your child? Why go 'make money' only to pay someone else to care for your child? People need to realise being a mother is an exausting job, as well as very rewarding. So don't feel bad and don't listen to people who bring you down. :)

Diana - posted on 07/16/2010

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I was uplifted just by the replies! I get a lot of back-handed crap because I do stay home and my two oldest are old enough to 'help', but my house is usually chaos. I know I'm lazy sometimes. But, at least I don't have to worry about someone else filling my absorbent little sponges with some twaddle on their own political or social views or letting some maniac little kids teach my kids to hit, hate, and disrespect me. I worked in daycare. I know how it is.

Thank the Lord that the first three years I worked DC, I was in a like-minded environment. The last time was a daycare in our public school system and a lot of kids whose parents didn't give a rip and the kids were hateful, disrespectful, and often just plain mean to others because bad attention is better than no attention. And, as much as I loved my co-workers, some of them taught their classroom kids all about their political views and that certain values were out-dated and arrogant and stuff like that.

I really am dreading my 10-year reunion this year. I was one of the 'smart' ones, so only getting through one semester of college (married before that-not because I was pregnant, because I wasn't) and then not working for the last six years is sure to raise some eyebrows. It really sucks when your own family tends to look down on you as weak and lazy because you choose to sacrifice deadlines and working vacations for your kids.

At least my kids won't grow up spoiled and with no personality and hopefully won't decide that grasping for every last nickel is the way to go!

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Ignore the nay sayers you have to do what is best for you and your family. I am sure most of the people that is giving you grief about your family as if they are being affected by you being a stay at home mom are the same ones that would love to be in your shoes. If you and your hubby are fine with this then everybody else opinon is just that, an unimportant opinion. Be Blessed

Marie - posted on 07/15/2010

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I hear the same thing all the time as well, but mine comes from my boyfriend (my fathers son). He thinks that since I don't have a job that pays money that I do nothing!!! I really wish he would understand that staying home all day with a 1 1/2 year old is not easy at all!!! So I completely understand the feeling that you are going through!!!

Kim - posted on 07/14/2010

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B/c the society we live in is all about "MORE"... people whose treasures are stored in Money & in the "more" that they don't see the treasures that life has to offer ... of the blessings we have in our families. Don't sweat the naysayers... & a lot of them are jealous...

Lika - posted on 07/13/2010

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because when people dont know what you do they assume you do nothing then begin to speak out of turn off those assumptions

Kimmie - posted on 07/13/2010

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I get the same crap...but my husband works and we made a mutual decision that I would be a stay at home mommy...I feel the kids need one parent there at all times...Just dont listen to the crap...u know what is best for ur baby and for urself...my daughter is almost a yr old and I still dont plan on going back to work until she is much older.

Shannon - posted on 07/12/2010

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i hear ya wen you say tht i get shit on all the time with bein a stay at home mom wit my some bc i dont bring money in im lazy im never gunna learn responsibility i dont get it either isnt stayin at home doin best for my son responsible ????? i think they r just lookin for someone to dump on. . . we get to relax yea btw naps but we work just as much if not more i felll .

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Do people actually come right out and say that? Who is saying it? Not hubby, I hope! Do you live in a major city like New York, San Francisco, or D.C.? I am at home with my children and it is a decision that my husband and I made together. I would prefer to live near a city center rather than suburbia but suburbia allows me to stay home. Can I say I love every minute of being home with my kids, no. The park, the pool, the library, puzzles, games, reading and then....the park, the pool, the library, puzzles, games, reading and then....you get the picture. Who knew boredom could be so exhausting! I wanted to be home with my children and am glad that I am but I would have to say that I don't jump out of bed every morning looking forward to spending every waking moment with my children (and if you do, then you may want to find an office with a sofa in it). In defense of those who are critical of home makers (stay-at-home mom sounds like a prison sentence), I think they know in truth what our lives can be like and don't understand how we could put ourselves through it. Some days I don't know either. I just remind myself that before I know it my children will be in school full time and won't need me quite as much as each year goes by and I want to make the most of our time together.

Lorri - posted on 07/12/2010

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First of all, who are these people and are they your true friends. Secondly, they are just jealous and wish that they could be a sahm. I've done both...worked outside of the home and now am a sahm and both my boys and myself and my husband enjoy having me at home. The attitudes of the boys have changed to the positive, and I am more relaxed (not lazy) and have more time for them. All in all it is a positive and good thing to be a sahm and your true friends would be very supportive of you and not jealous...so find some new friends:) and enjoy that son of yours!!!! Just think of ALL the great memories your are creating to share with his children and your grandchildren.

Ella - posted on 07/12/2010

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tell them to read Steve Bidulph's book "Raising Babies", an amazing study into just how bad daycare is for the emotional development of children under 3 years. After reading that I would sacrifice anything to be at home with my kids.

An - posted on 07/12/2010

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When I was growing up, almost everyone's mom stayed home, and those who didn't were looked down on as "your dad doesn't make enough to support his family so mom has to work to make ends meet" thus neglecting the children as a result. and everyone was sorry for those kids! Usually kids whose mom's worked, got into more trouble, didn't do as well in school etc. that was a given. I guess today in some areas there may be a back lash against "sahm"s because before there was a serious backlash against mom's who worked. But overall, I don't feel any bad attitude about staying at home and taking care of my child or feel anything bad for those who have to work. That's just life, everyone has their different reasons.

Tami - posted on 07/11/2010

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OMG! I worked while having 2 boys and my parents helped watch them. They love their grandparents and I loved it too. When my mom got sick I just had my 3rd and my husband said NO BABYSITTERS. I've been home 3 years and love it. Going to work was easy. Staying home is hard work. I can no longer hire the maid. ha ha. But truly rewarding to be there for my kids. Now ages 15, 10 and almost 3. They need a parent at home more than people think. They just don't know how to ask. And you parents that choose to work or can't stop because of finances. Check in on them often. They might be angels when you get home, but believe me, all kids need guidance. Just check their Facebook pages and see.

Cyndel - posted on 07/11/2010

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Being a stay at home mom is all I have ever known. My mother was one, my paternal grandmother was, and all of my friends mothers were, and now I am. Through seeing there lives I can't understand the 'satisfaction' other women get who leave their children in other peoples care when it is unnecissary (They are neither a single mom nor are their husbands laid off or incapable of getting a sustainable job). What is more satisfying then raising the next generation? after all I've heard so many single women say they want to make a difference in the world with their job, but if I raise three sons to go out and make a difference who is going to have a bigger influence in the long run? I'm willing to wait a generation or two for my fruits to begin to show.

Lia - posted on 07/11/2010

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The book "In Praise of Stay at Home Moms" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger has been a huge encouragement in my decision to leave my career and stay at home. The book was given to me by another SAHM as a baby shower gift. I encourage you to find this book ... it will do wonders for your morale. It'll also give you some great come-back lines. LOL! All the best.

Mandy - posted on 07/11/2010

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I have to say its because they don't stay at home and don't realize what us sahm really do. I feel that i work twice as work being a stay at home mom than i did at my full time job and my part time job before i had kids. I much rather give up a little bit extra money to be able to raise my own children, and I feel a lot of people have children just to say they have them. not because they want to give up a lot and raise them. i think stay at home mothers are doing the right thing, by raising our own childern.

Elaine - posted on 07/11/2010

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I think sometimes they are just jealous.....why? perhaps they think it's easy to stay at home with the kids...well, we all know it isn't! I have been a working mom before I was a stay at home, and it was easier with one child, juggling home responsibilities and work. Now I have four! I don't know how these working moms do it! Especially when school is out or the child is home sick! One of my neighbors asked my husband how we do it on one salary. His reply : We don't, usually we are sweating out the bills and there are alot of things we do without. Such as making the kids join numerous sports or buying a bunch of electronics for them. My kids have them but they only get them when Grandpa and Grandma give them money for Christmas, etc. If I am gone part of the day for one reason or another the house is in free-fall when I return! I am thankful I can stay at home but also wish I could earn money, as the kids get older (14, 12, 9 and 3) they are getting more expensive.

Carol - posted on 07/10/2010

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those people who think that way about stay at home moms are just jealous, bec. the money they earn from working cannot replace the love and joy you get to share with your son everyday.

Erika - posted on 07/10/2010

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I have tried at various times to work outside my house, it NEVER worked. I am a single mother, their father lives down the street, but I now work with a great international company out of my house. I agree with another post, get new friends. Find other SAHM's

Shannon - posted on 07/10/2010

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I read this one day...and was like "WOW this is SO true..." and decided not to let what other people say bother me. They will never understand because they themselves have not walked in our shoes.

"We are daughters, sisters, grand daughters, nieces, wives, significant others, in-laws, aunts, grand mothers, guardians, students, working moms and friends. We are the maids, chefs, chauffeurs, social planners, financial planners, nurses, teachers, playmates, care givers and role players. We are patient, strong, tenacious, intelligent, kind, loving, multi-tasking, sincere, open-minded, state-of-the-art problem solving role models. Above all else, we are moms, and our love for our children will come first."

Amy - posted on 07/10/2010

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I think they are jealous in many ways. I often get the same thing, we have 3 kids, and so to kind of help with things I decorate cakes on the side (in my spare time...haha) It seems to be ok for now. There are so many things that we teach them w/o knowing it! Which I think is great! Just ignore them and move on! I once had an uncle of mine ask what I wanted to with my life...I told him I wanted to be a "MOM"...his reply: that's all? Is that all, seriously that's a major undertaking for the rest of your life, not until you find a new "CAREER"

Joanna - posted on 07/10/2010

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don't beleave what they say.im a stay home mom too.i have 5 kids & that's a job to do takin care of your own so you ant lazzy.sometimes i do get tired being home but is my thing to do for my kids.

Sarah - posted on 07/09/2010

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i get it too all the time i guess its just because some ppl take advantage of it and are lazy so ppl think they all are but in all reality we work our butts off for our family cleaning cooking etc.

Claire - posted on 07/09/2010

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i'd prefer to stay at home than send my kids to nursery and pay someone else to look after them both as our eldest has slight cerebral palsy and the youngest one has slight developmental delay so its a lot harder for me to let someone else look after my children as neither one of them can communicate with anyone and trying to explain what he's wanting is hard but then it has been very exciting to see them walk and interact with each other and start walking we've had portage, physios everyone helping with homevisits and appointments all over the place so i think being a SAHM is the best job in the world and anybody who says otherwise is just jealous and would prefer to pay someone else to look after their kids and miss out on everything is MAD and will regret it for the rest of their lives

Jacki - posted on 07/09/2010

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I've been a stay at home mom since 07, when i decided to go back to school and its tough. I also suffer from a medical condition that can put me out 3 days a week. My husband works out of town all week and we only see him on weekends and I have two children. I am doing the job of two parents during the week and at the same time, going to school and managing a household 24/7. It is alot of work, try not to let other people put you down, you need people who will bring you up. I haven't got much negativity about doing what I do, and if I was a single parent, I probably would be doing more than what I am doing now. But with the help of my husband and the understanding we have, it works. I love that I can be here for my kids and that I can see them grow, my husband adores that I can do this and he sometimes wishes he was here to do this also. Ur not lazy, just very busy and others cant see that...

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Then they must not have kids God ur kids must be first then all those stupid comments are giving u its up to you waht do u prefer when someone asks u that at what age did u kids dis something whatever do u want to be able to answer that question or u want to have to tell them well ask my babysitter she spends more time with my kids then i do?????? hmmmm think about it twice ur kids come first if u are bored try spending more time with your kids they always crave for ur attention......

Amber - posted on 07/09/2010

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I get grief about it at times too, but you know what? As long as your able to provide for your children and have the bills paid on a one income, why not? I mean As long as your kid(s) have what they need, I see no harm in it. Yes if you were a single mom, you would have to work to feed them and buy things like clothes and such. But there is nothing wrong with staying home. I have done it for 4 years now and nobody is going to tell me different.

Julie - posted on 07/09/2010

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People assume that if you are a SAHM you are lazy. You stay at home therefore you just watch soaps and Oprah ;) I stay home and have for 4 1/2 years since my son was born. I babysit 3 kids on top of that. And I use my preschool teaching background to teach them all. I have friends who stay home and don't have to babysit and yes sometimes I get a little jealous of their one on one time with their little one. But my time with my son and what I am doing for my family is important. You can't let someone tell you how to life your life. If you were a working mom you would be frowned upon just as much. You are doing a great service for your son and should keep up the great work.

Jennifer - posted on 07/09/2010

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I know the feeling! I am a stay at home for 3. I worked and brought in the bacon for years. I have also been an at home mom for the last 5 years. Both are worthwhile pursuits but in a different way. No one ever views it from the mother's point of view. I even thought about getting a job again...I went for an interview and got this reaction...Ohhhh! You have been out of work because you were an at home mom.(with plenty of sneer) I would like to see some of these na-sayers to do my job. It's not easy. No one gives a mom any credit. These are the most important days of our childrens lives that we are dealing with. Our grandmothers did it. Our mothers did not have a choice but to broaden. Now many kids have turned into terrible teenagers and adults. I blame it on the changes we have made to society and child upbringing that seems to have left gaps that our children fall through. Ignore those who do not have to do what you do. you are doing something wonderful.

Bethany - posted on 07/09/2010

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ya, this is ridiculous... they just dont understand how hard we have it unless theyve been there themselves... just tell them your job title which is as follows: I AM A SHORT-ORDER COOK, CEO, DAY CARE TEACHER, LAUNDRY OPERATOR, VAN DRIVER, JANITOR, PSYCHOLOGIST, BOOKKEEPER, COMPUTER OPERATOR, HOUSEKEEPER, FACILITIES MANAGER, AND AN ACTOR....and i could only imagine how much we would get paid for doing all of this!! You need to have positive people who respect what you do around you.. you dont need someone putting you down when you are doing the toughest and best thing you can do for your children..Tell them if they arent supportive of your choices then to not say anything at all...Maybe you could put them in your shoes for a day or 2 and then ask them if they still feel the same?? good luck and keep up the good work. its moms like you who inspire us all.. thank you :)

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Try not to let random people bother you! Those that you consider friends & family should understand. I have 3 kids7-14, all in school. One has a disabilitiy & health issues. I knew from day one that I wanted to raise my kids, not a sitter. I volunteer at school & w/ 2 other organizations. I don't have to worry about daycare when my kids are sick or during vacations. I do what is best for my family. I do think that some are jealous & want what you have. Nothing beats seeing those first steps or first words. Do what you feel is right in your heart.

Shannon - posted on 07/08/2010

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I get a lot of grief from my mother, who thinks a really women should wokto erd a pay chek.and support the family. I have also found that those who give me the most grap are the othr women. Most men I encounter .wouuld preefer there wife tostsay home and do what need to be done there and let the man make the money. It it the other wenon wh hate and criticize you. These come from two group: the firsrt being the ultra fenanist, who basic belief is that any thing we do that is considred frmnen is autimatically wrong: weaeing dresses, doing house work,traeting a.man wuth repect and #1 of course is taking care of your kids. Those people aren't even worth talking to. They consider it some kindbof slavery to take care if your kid and husband and houe, they want to offer you the key to freedom. & void them like the plague. Those who call youu lazy must not have spent anytime raising kids or they would kniw that it more work than getting a job. Or it could be that they are jelous be that have to work and can't stay at home as they would like.

just remember that the job of taking care of the home and family was give by GOD at the beginning of time. So followung the will of GOD should override anything else.

you are doing you GOD given duty so be proud of it abd di it well

Jeri - posted on 07/08/2010

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I have stayed home for 12 years now. I have tried working twice, but needing to be the main caregiver of kids my wages barely cover daycare or sitters. Add up the cost of clothes and lunch and gas. However if it is for insurance purposes or you could take them with you. I am glad I stay at home. Next time indulge yourself with your favorite candy and share with your son; you don't miss all the precious moments.

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Sacrifice is an ugly word in modern society. As the oldest of 10 kids and a mother of 3, I've learned sacrificing a social life, a college education, and possibly a better living (financially speaking) is not a big deal when its done out of love. Just remind yourself that you set a good example for other mothers out there, and that your child(ren) need YOU! Society needs more upstanding citizens, and the best way to do that is to start at home with our kids. it might take a long time, but your kids will thank you for being there for them!

Mari - posted on 07/08/2010

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I'm sure some people think I'm lazy too even though they don't say it but it shows in their faces. Sometimes it bothers me but most time I don't give a crap cuz I know my reasons are the wellbeing of my son and his future: I don't want him to be a lazy prick! really... and I'm staying here to guide him and in the mid time I spend more time with my hubbie too! cuz I get totally stress out when I'm working and doing house chores!!! sooo, for the sake of us all I better stay home ;)

Jenny - posted on 07/08/2010

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Hi Dawn, take no notice of people like that, if u are lucky enough to be able to stay at home with your son then i think thats the best thing for both of you, its a full time job in itself. Ive stayed at home with all of my children, i never wanted to have children and let someone else bring them up and being at home with them has made a big impact on them x x x

Sandra - posted on 07/08/2010

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I too am a stay-at-home mom and I love it. I have 3 children and as soon as my first 2 were 3 months old I was back into the working field. Then I had a live in boyfriend (the kids dad) and I felt that the kids dad didn't need to take care of me. Now that I am married and my husband and I don't feel that is was cost efficient for me to go back to work and have someone else "raise" the kids so I can go to work. Not to mention the cost of daycare is through the roof. It's not that we are being lazy. Lets' be real we have a 24/7 job. Neverending and not much gratitude.We are taking for granted. With that said I have the intent to go back to work when my son now 2 is in school during school hours. But untill then I am proud to be a stay-at-home mom. I am sadend for all those women that have a opportunity to enjoy motherhood and all the perks but choose to miss out on it. I never knew what I had missed out on with my older 2 children.

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