why don't kids like playing outside

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Mary - posted on 06/03/2010

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If you get your kids a sandbox make sure it stays covered and that it has a lid with it. The reason I say this is because stray cats like to use it for their litter boxes and then when the kids play in it they can get pin worms. Then they'll come in and say my hiney itches mommy. I know first hand because both my sister and I and I'm not sure about my brother all had it when we were kids. We used to play in the neighborhood sandbox and we had to wear skirts too which makes it easier for them to get up in your underpants. It was a sandbox in the park and of course had no lid. We now have a boat one for my daughter and it has a lid that we try to keep on it all the time when she's not using it so nothing gets in there. Trust me, pin worms are no fun to have. You don't want to have to deal with them. Just thought I 'd toss out that little bit of advice. A lot of people don't know about this.

Lucy - posted on 06/05/2010

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I think it's all about how things are presented to kids. If, when they are getting on your nerves you tell them "go on outside!" to get them from under your feet, they will probably see it as a punishment.

My kids love being outside, and luckily we have a nice, safe, enclosed garden so they can play together out there without close supervision. They are 2 and 4, and although they have some outside toys they mostly play imaginary games like pretending they are in a magic forest, flying to the moon in the garden chairs etc,

When my husband is off work, we have always done outdoorsy type family days out like visiting a farm, bike riding, the beach, the park, so I think the kids see outdoor activities as a treat rather than a punishment.

The main thing is that the kids do not have access to a computer or games console, and TV is very strictly rationed. I am very much against any electronic equipment in children's bedrooms, except a lamp for looking at books before they sleep. This means that playing together, and outside if the weather allows, is just automatic for them.

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Jemma - posted on 12/26/2012

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There are so many children who hate going outside.
Such as my own. Tell him to go outside and you have to drag him out only to have him sneak into the garage to text or something.

Some times I go with him to make sure he doesn't do anything and he just sits on a bench staring at the wall until I let him go in.

((I woluld also like to add that indoor people live an average of 2 years over people who spened the majority of their time outside))

Sharon - posted on 06/04/2010

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It's a punishment to keep my kids inside! My garden is secure, and we have dogs, and a trampoline, and a pool, which can keep my kids outdoors till all hours of the night in summer and weekends. when the cousins come over then they spend hours outside and I need to call them in. My daughter carries loads of dolls, etc into the garden and they play for hours, Healthy fresh air, exercise and Vit D never did any kid any harm, only good.

Kelly - posted on 06/04/2010

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Mine love to go outside, to the playground and to walk around the lake! But sometimes you just have to press the issue and toss them out in the yard, they might complain at first, but I bet you'll have trouble getting them back in!
I think that today's kids are spoiled with not only elctronic entertainment, but climate control as well. When I was little we were out no matter what the weather was, there wasn't always air conditioning, so sometimes it felt the same outside that it did inside! We also walked everywhere, because we only had one car and my dad used that for work.

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WHAT....I cant keep my two in..lol there five and 16mths.The love the outdoors,well same as there dad and me i guess lol.We go for walks and there dad plays football and hurling etc with them.I think for many to many video games might be the cause.:-)

Melony - posted on 06/03/2010

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I cant keep my two boys (3 and 18 months) in the house they like it cuz i go out with them and we are in the country and the only people that live around us is my parents and my little sister that is 4 so they have other kids to play with and they like to see other people other then just me and dad

Soleil - posted on 06/03/2010

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too many electronics. turn off the tv and video games, give them a bucket and shovel... or bubbles and go get good and dirty with them!!!

Natasha - posted on 06/03/2010

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because us parents spend more time inside doing nothing being lazy and raising a wimpy lazy generation. I force my kids to play outside at least 20min a few times a day. Usually they get into an activity and wind up playing much longer! but its the truth they hear us say omg its so hot and watch tv or play online and wanna just sit around to, my kids watch maybe 30-60min of tv a week. :) and have to play most the time

Laura - posted on 06/03/2010

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My kids LOVE to play outside! They are 3 1/2 and 6 1/2. Now that it is warmer, they don't want to come in. We have a playground and plenty of outside toys (bowling, golf, frisbee, soccer and other balls, bubbles, chalk, paddle sets, etc.). They have even more fun if I join in. I take them on bike rides. Fun, fun, fun. We also have a sandbox and sprinkler. They climb trees. In fact, now I want to go outside. :)

User - posted on 06/03/2010

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thanks for all the comments guys i'l definitely try alot of the suggestions thanks again

Alicia - posted on 06/02/2010

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My kids LOVE going outside! From what you said about your yard it sounds amazing! Maybe try going outside with them. My kids only get 20 minutes a day each on their video games or they have the option of playing on the computer for 20 minutes instead on weekdays, and on the weekends, They each get 40 minutes on the video games, or they can get on the computer instead. I have 6 kids, the little ones, (ages 2, 5, and 9) LOVE going outside. They beg me to come outside with them, and when I do, i just adds to their pleasure!
My older ones are all engaged in sports on leagues. My 17 year old is on a soccerteam that practices 4 days a week, so he gets outside alot, and my 14 year old loves to run. He does track.
Maybe get them a sandbox? My kids LOVE the sandbox.

Mary - posted on 06/02/2010

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playing with each other isn't a bad thing. My sister and I played with each other for a while till she felt she was too old for it. She liked to play school and would line up all the stuffed animals and pretend to be the teacher and then she'd have me too of course. Also, it's much better and healthier for the kids to get out in the fresh air and sunshine and play while the weather's good but even in the winter too because sitting around in front to the tv or video games all day rots your brain and is also a leading cause of childhood obesity. When you think of it they sit on the school bus, they sit at school for most of the day except for gym class, then they sit again on the bus on the way home and come home and veg out in front of the tv or video games with snacks. No wonder so many kids today are overweight. They need to get outside and do active things like play sports, shoot some hoops, ride their bikes, go swimming or whatever just be more active. I spent a lot of time out of doors when I was younger mostly to escape from my miserable home life. I was always either out with the dog or riding my bike or roller skating or swimming or something mostly riding my bike though. Even in the hot sun. I'd just take a water bottle with me and if need be stop at McDonalds and ask them to fill it up for me. They always did without complaining. That was a long time ago though. Things have probably changed about that subject by now. I was also at the local park a lot with the dog and going on the swings and slide and other play stuff. Now I'm not able to go outdoors as often though I try to get my daughter out a lot during the day as much as possible for her health too.

Cheri - posted on 06/02/2010

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TAKE AWAY THE TV! My kids very rarly get to watch tv. All they do is play. Rather inside or outside!

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My twins argue about everything, so when one wants to go outside, the other wants to stay inside. We don't have a play area just a small grass area, so I usually have to drive them to a park. I always think that my kids just don't have that much to do in our yard, but when I was small, I used to set up my Barbie's where ever I was, or my friends and I would color on the porch. Sometimes it's like pulling teeth to get both my kids outside.

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My boys do both, but yes it is a "chore" or "punishment" sometimes to send them outside. We have a huge yard where they are safe to play at any time of the day. But sad to say, Mom is on the computer for work a lot so they want to sit in their room or mine to watch TV or play the PS3 (hate that darn thing!). I've been wanting to make a new chore chart game for the boys to make it more fun and thought about putting in a couple of outside games like soccer or frisbee or flying kites to get them outside. Make it more like a game than a chore and see if it makes a difference. Of course my DH is having back surgery tomorrow and will be home for at least 2 weeks if not more, so the boys will be outside more while dad is recovering. And our weather up here is great right now, but I know our biggest problem is lack of kids, there are only about 12 that live on this mountain and only 4 are around the 7/8 year old age, and 1 other in the 2-4 year old range. So friends are a big factor of my boys staying inside a lot, it gets boring playing w/just each other all the time.

Mary - posted on 06/02/2010

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I don't know. My kid likes playing outside. Maybe because if you aren't a person that likes to go out alot maybe that's why. I never heard of a kid that didn't like going out in the sunshine and fresh air which is good for their health.

Celeste - posted on 06/02/2010

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Come to my neighborhood! On the weekends, the kids are all outside playing.

Nicole - posted on 06/02/2010

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The weather is getting warm so my kids love to be outside doing anything that has water involved. Sqirters, water table and kiddie pool are all fun things and keep them busy and cool.

Amber - posted on 06/02/2010

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My son just woke up and wanted to go outside. I told him he couldn't because it's raining. He is beside himself and thinks I don't want him out. I literally had to let him walk out onto the back deck and let him decide that he wanted to stay inside today. haha

Chelle - posted on 06/02/2010

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My 19 mths loves going outside. I always go out there with him. He loves to run barefoot in the grass, if he does that we use the front lawn on account we have a dog out the back! He likes to play with his shovel and spade and throw the ball for the dog. We sometimes go exploring and i ask him to pick up different things he finds like little treasures to collect. He loves rocks. And leaves. But the thing he loves the most is when i blow bubbles for him to pop and chase outside. There are SOOOO many things you can do outside and sometimes when he is grumpy just being out amongst nature is calming for him. If your kids find outside a punishment then its time you changed their association with outside into something positive. There must be one thing they can do out there that is fun?

Jessica - posted on 06/02/2010

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Both my kids LOVE to be outside! I am curently 6 mo pregnant and chasing a 2 and 3 yr old around outside in the summer in Las Vegas is punishment for me! lol but I would never tell them no just cuz I'll be unconfortable. But sometimes it would be nice to have an inside day. We seem to have the opposit problem, where's our happy medium? haha

Jacqui - posted on 06/01/2010

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My 2 year old absolutely adores being outside, in fact, I struggle to get her back in! I have made her a small garden area, she has her own (plastic) trowels, watering cans and gloves (all bought cheaply off ebay) and she planted seeds which are now flowers in her own little space. This is in front of her wendy house (also from ebay) which she has decided is an ice cream shop! You just need to find what stimulates their imaginations :)

Joanna - posted on 06/01/2010

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my 2 1/2 year old would LIVE outside if she could, she's always been little nature baby. She loves plants and dirt and bugs and water. I grew up without much TV/entertainment, so I tried to pass that on to her. We still watch TV here throughout the day (it's so helpful when I'm trying to cook a meal), but when it comes down to it, she would always prefer being outside!

Vanessa - posted on 06/01/2010

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Mine oldest is like that and it trickles down to the other. Its because she would rather read, watch tv or play quietly after a busy day at school and extracurricular stuff. She also abhores having to play with her (much younger sister) unless I am there to help (you know the youngest one 'wrecks' the older ones 'stuff'). If I set up interesting activities like painting or water table, mud pie stuff or new outdoor toys they will go out. Most of the time if I am outside with them they will stay out, even if I am not playing with them, just watering or weeding etc. Also helps if they have friends over their own age... then I have to drag them in.
We also have a pool, tramp, swing set/climber/playhouse and a ton of toys but it still takes me forcing them sometimes.

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Its funny cause i have never had a problem with my children going outside to play. They are 2 and 4 and i have trouble keeping them inside on rainy days as they love being outside so much. They go out by themselves as we have a fully fenced yard and live in a country town with 2 dogs that wouldnt hurt anyone but i know that people are weary of dogs so it helps appease me dont get me wrong i am constantly checking on them making sure they are ok. But they play by themselves and hate when i am constantly checking on them!

Encouragment is the best thing at 1st you have to go out with them and then eventually they just always want to be out there. I also dont have much that they kids can do inside they only thing they have is a DVD player and that is 1 movie a day!

Gena - posted on 06/01/2010

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OMG- my son LOVES to play outside...in fact I think he would live out there if we would let him! He rides his tricycle, draws with chalk or just plays with a ball for hours! We just got a swimming pool and we have to drag him kicking and screaming in the house:) I think you have to make it fun as well and part of your daily routine. Since he was very little, we would go outside and play everyday after his nap...it is just a part of our day and he loves it!

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Limit the amount of TV they watch and turn off the video games. Visit the local parks and pools and enjoy outdoor time as a family. You can go for walks, hikes, bike rides, or to an amusement park. There's miniature golf and outdoor sports. There's too much technology distracting today's children and many of them are turning in to couch potatoes.

Sherry - posted on 06/01/2010

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Mud pie.. tell them you want a spectacullarly made mudpie.. but they have to practice for inspection (sorry girl you gotta take the good with the bad i'm affraid LOL) Farms can be boring so especially during the summer months maybe offer "camp outs", a kids barbeque, Weiner ROAST MAN! especially if they have school friends they can invite.

Country girl right here... LOL make a treasure hunt... tell them you want them to find (whatever) in the yard.... tell them you need pinecones to make a craft project for xmas (centerpieces) can they gather some... or leaves (of many different shapes preferably from a tree and still fresh) to do a paint/crayon press collage later in the evening.. farm life can be boring especially if your kid is an onlychild.. but don't feel guilty.. figure out a way to "change it up" and make it exciting

Amber - posted on 06/01/2010

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My son loves to play outside. We go outside with him and make sure that he has lots of things to keep him entertained outside. I think that's the biggest part of getting them out there; give them something fun to do outdoors.
We also make sure that he has fun outside clothes that he doesn't get too hot in, "cool shades", and hats that make him a big boy like daddy.
As parents, we like being outside. So, I guess that rubs off on him too. We have a vegetable garden and several flower gardens that he helps us with. We just keep him busy and he loves it.

Nyssa - posted on 06/01/2010

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My kids are like that sometimes, not wanting to play outside. I have 5 boys. It's usually when they are all wrestling on the floor when I want them outside the most. I feel like I have to kick them out sometimes, so I can see what you mean when you say it feels like a punishment. I wish we lived out of town so they could have more room to run around, but they have neighbor friends that get them outside if they aren't already out there. Maybe having a friend over would help.

Gina - posted on 06/01/2010

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Sounds to me like you just answered your own question...You think it's a punishment-when in reality letting kids sit inside all day and let the electronics be the entertainment is not good for kids.
I'm not saying that you let the tube or the playstation do all the babysitting ,but if they don't ask to go out,sometimes you just have to boot them out the door and tell them to go get dirty.(that is if they can be trusted out alone for a time)

Michelle - posted on 06/01/2010

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why do you feel bad about them going outside, the outdoors can be a great thing. I find my kids and myself get cranky when we are inside all day.

Kristin - posted on 06/01/2010

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When I was a kid, I always felt itchy and that it was too hot. I have wicked allergies and can sunburn in about 20 minutes. My kids like to go out, just not during the hottest part of the day. They would love to go alone, but not going to happen for a while yet.

I don't know how old yours are, but if you can ask them what's up with not really wanting to go outside.

User - posted on 06/01/2010

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we live out in the country on an acre of land with alot of activities like swings trampoline etc but yet i feel its a punishment for them to go out and play

Michelle - posted on 06/01/2010

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I agree, you have to go outside with them if they are scared. You also have to show them how to play outside. How do kick a ball, build sand castles, hop scotch, and so on. There are tons of things to do, some of it depends on if you live in a big city, small town or farm.

Sherry - posted on 06/01/2010

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too many distractions of video games and computers INSIDE. and TV for that matter.

There's also the fear of "strangers" if mom and dad have had that talk already... Fear they'll be taken away. Best thing to do is go outside with them

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