Why i am a stay at home mom...

Sarah - posted on 05/29/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I dont trust daycares, it;s that simple.

Now all daycares are bad, but most of the ones i was familiar with in Sioux falls, SD were not places i want my kids to be..



One daycare, my bestfriend worked at, was pretty bad. My friend Kris made a mistake and a baby got hurt. It was just an accident. She was changing a 3 month old on the counter and was unaware that the baby could rollover. She threw the diaper away and the baby rolled off and started to develope a bump on her head. She went to the office and filled out an accident report and stated what happened. She gave it to her boss, adn her boss said "u cant say this, the mom will take her daughter out of our care" So her boss wrote up a new one saying the baby fell out of a boppy pillow that was laying on the floor and bumped a toy. There was one problem with this story... That particular baby was taken to the E.R. because she had a skull fracture. You cannot get that kind of injury from a boppy pillow laying on the floor. Therefore police were called and eventually the directer of the daycare was fired..



There was a church daycare that my other friend worked at that was accepting money from the state for feeding the kids nutrishes lunches and snacks. The issue with this is that the directer wasnt using the money for that purpose because she asked the parents to supply sack lunches for their kids. She put my friend in the room that had 1 yr old to 6 yr olds, she wasn't told the kids names, so all her information on their names came from a 6 yr old. She was passing out lunches and couldn't figure out who got what. She simply gave a child the wrong lunch and got fired.



And the worst story yet, this one hits too close to home. I used to babysit an 8 month old. Her name was Abby. I babysat her at night if her mom worked late or went out. She had a seperate daytime sitter who had a daycare in Mitchell, SD. I got that call that Abby had died at her daycare. She was killed. Unfortunately there is nothing anybody can do about it. They didn't have enough evidencec to charge the lady responsible. They took away her license and her own kids were put in the custody of their father. But she still has her daycare (without license). I am the first person to say maybe it was an accident?, But how does an 8 month old suffocate in her carseat? Also if this lady was paying attention to this kids then why was Abby dead for at least 18 minutes before somebody noticed and called paramedics?..





Im telling u all this as a warning to check out your daycare/babysitters if u ever need one. This is why i stay home with my kids.. I have more stories about other daycares, but didn't see the need to put down more than a few.

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Kalley - posted on 06/02/2010

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Here's my reason...babies and kids are frustrating sometimes, but when they're your own, you have a superhuman power to overcome that and care for them the best you can, because they're your baby! But when this is your dayjob where you clock in and out and have a bunch of kids crying and needing something, I can't imagine that you would be capable of treating all these kids with as much love and compassion as their parents would.
Not only that, but I want to be the one to decide what she is taught, not some childcare worker who thinks they know better than me. By staying home, I decide what she eats, when she naps, how she plays and what she learns. It's a huge responsibility but it's what I took on when I decided to be a mom.

Amber - posted on 06/02/2010

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I remember touring day cares when my son was 1yr old. I stayed home the first year, then went back to school. I usually only go 2 days a week, so I only needed part time. A couple of the at home daycares....no way in hell was my kid going there!

They were dirty and kids of all ages were kept in the same room together. I did not want my 1yr old in the same room as a rowdy 4 year old.

We found a great daycare facility that has 2 adults per room and one has to be a certified teacher and can only have 4-5 kids per adult. Each child is in a room with children their own age and are moved up in 6 month increments until 3 (0-6mon, 6mon-1yr), then they are moved by years. And each class has a ciriculm to follow.

Some daycares are really bad....but some can be wonderful. You really have to look to find those wonderful places, and then you're gonna pay for it.

Lani - posted on 06/01/2010

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If I don't have to go back to work I won't ... I don't want to miss out on all the milestones for a start! All I would do is worry all day anyway, things can happen in the blink of an eye, whether through negligence or not! Those stories are scary, & probably more common than we realise ... which makes it scarier. I'd rather go without than have my child become a daycare statistic.

T - posted on 05/31/2010

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If you can be home with your child, do it! Not only do physical things happen in daycares, but the verbal statements can be very harmful to a child too. Our children are too precious to allow someone else to scar them with wounds.

Sarah - posted on 05/31/2010

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That's good :) I understand where you are coming from, i cant imagine leaving my kids with someone else. But you are right some parents dont have a choice. Im also not saying all daycares are bad, just warning everyone :)

Cyndel - posted on 05/30/2010

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I just reread my post and I realized it was very judgmental. I understand that some people, esp single mothers/fathers, don't have a choice. I faced the decision of possibly having to work for a few months. But I looked for a stay at home mom I trusted to take care of my son. I was not going to use a day care. I just couldn't imagine leaving my son with someone else. I found a job babysitting in my home. I was so relieved. I dreaded working even for the two or three months it was going to be.
I don't mean to demean anyone who chose to use daycares, it is simply not an option I am willing to take.

Cyndel - posted on 05/30/2010

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I won't put my child into daycare for the simple fact I would rather live on one income then have my child raised by someone else. After all most children are at daycare at least eight hours a day. That is a long time to leave a child with someone you don't know very well. The Father has given me this child to care for, not pawn off to someone else to care for most of their waking hours.

Sarah - posted on 05/30/2010

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There are some good ones. If i needed one i know about 2 or 3 i would trust. I dont know where u live but i was referring to daycares in Sioux Falls, SD. I was just trying to remind people to check out their daycares. Some daycares have shadow rooms. It's a room, like a closet that has a one way mirror. You can sit in there and watch for a little while without the kids knowing u are there. I know a lot of friends who work or have worked at daycares and most of my info was coming from them. It's good that you found a good one, sometimes that's hard to find.



If u need to check one out you can talk to people who's kids go there and see if they like it.

Some towns have a phone number you can call and they give you a list of good licensed daycares

Also trust your kids, if they dont like going find out why

Sheryl - posted on 05/29/2010

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my kids are in a program and it great. there not all bad. i worked at one myself and really there not all bad! yes in the end its is better for a child to be at home with there mom. i can say has a mom i know my kids are safe where they are at for preschool. i thik more parent need to just ask more quition and show up when they don't expect it. that way it give you a better idea of what going on. even if there is a window looking in before you go in. we had a parent that did that and found out the new teacher was being over the line with her i told my boss right away and she got wrote and lets just say she was out of there fast. it all just deps. on us parents to ask quistion about things. but this is just my point of view.

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WOW! PPL really do need to look in buuuuuuuut anywhere can look good on a peice of paper or on a tour!

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