Worried I might have depression

Katherine - posted on 02/28/2011

First off I have to say that poster was a flipping jerk!!!!



Second I had PPD with both of my daughters but since you just started feeling this way I doubt it's that. We all suffer from depression lol. We don't get the help we need, the sleep we need, breaks we need etc....



Hopefully your doctor will put you on something that will even it out.



I would just say flat out what you told us to your doctor. There is nothing wrong with depression and I suffer from it too. You sound like you're under a lot of stress and need some help.



Zoloft is really good for it. Just as an example. It's a really horrible place to be in and I hope you can get to your doctor asap.









Oh and edit to add: Stop beating yourself up. we've all been there at some point!!!!





xx

Stephanie - posted on 02/28/2011

You poor thing, I wish I could just give you and hug and tell you everything will be alright. It's hard being so young and having a baby to look after and having a bad relationship on top of it. Of course that would make you depressed. That's a normal reaction to your circumstance and it doesn't make you a bad mom or a bad person. What's important though is that you have recognized that you've been short tempered and irritable with your baby so that you can work on it. When you feel yourself getting upset and feel the tension building up, walk away. Mommy's need a 'time out' too once in a while. Talking to your doctor is the best thing you can do and also it would help you alot to see a councelor. Not only bc of your current situation but for unresolved issues like your dad's suicide and alcoholism being a factor in the family. With your bf telling you he would kill himself, that is abuse. That is emotional abuse and manipulation and he needs help for that. If he did do something like that it isn't your fault. By saying those things he is just showing you that you're right for not wanting to stay in the relationship. It sounds like he has serious problems. Maybe you could go to couples counceling together, too. Even if you didn't want counceling to work out your relationship the counceling will help you both learn to be better parents and how to be independent parents without the support of the other.

Also, you have to overlook people who say ignorant things like on yahoo. There are alot of 'trolls' on the internet who look for places to post for the soul purpose of being mean to someone and making someone else feel bad. Miserable people like to make other people miserable, too. Don't let it make you sad. Whoever wrote that is a jerk. You didn't deserve that at all.



When you approach your doctor just start with saying 'I haven't been feeling like myself lately, something isn't right.' then elaborate from there. Don't be afraid to tell someone and talk about it. Your doctor is there to help. And don't be too quick to let them put you on medication bc this may not be a depression from a chemical imbalance but rather from atmospheric factors. ♥

Melysa - posted on 02/28/2011

It sounds like depression to me, what helped me get past the overwhelming feelings, that I could not control!!!, was to send my kids to preschool even just one day a week it helped get some time away from my wonderful children, I love them dearly but I could not handle being near them anymore! i know it sounds bad but admitting that you need help is not a reason to be labelled a bad mother! if anything it is yet another example of being a good mum, admitting you need help is huge! I used to feel like I just wanted to drive my car into a tree at a 120kph I did not want to hurt my kids not physically, and not by taking away their mum either! but being a mum wears you out esp when you are prone to depression! I have had many days where I have gotten angry for no apparent reason, other than putting the kids into day care i found that walking away when I started to get angry, hitting a ball or calling my hubby and having a go at him, but I talked it through with him first told him that I may need to call him and debrief rather than go off at the kids that it was not him just that I felt he was more capable of handling the moods then our innocent children, he agreed and accepted that I was not cranky with him just that my moods were out of control! he tells me he shuts off when I start to rant, it helps me and he now even calls me of a morning and tries to preempt my mood to help me stay calm after all a relationship is about 2 people working together for both of your happiness!!!

Cherith - posted on 02/28/2011

awa honey I definitely say go to counseling. That is the best advise I can give you. If you have a close friend or family member confide in them. I will pray for you.