You and your hubby's/boyfriends relationship?
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Gabrielle - posted on 03/30/2012
Wow! He's selfish! He obviously has no respect for you or cares about your well-being. His problem is that you won't act the way he wants you to when he wants you to. It's all about him. It's OK for him to ignore your needs, and if you listen to the words he uses, he is allowed to ignore your needs and doesn't have to be there for you to help you during a difficult time, because you should feel sorry for him. You're making him act the way he's acting. It's your fault he's mad and that you guys fight. Awww, poor baby! Everyone else makes him mad. Everyone else makes his life miserable & he has no control or responsibility for himself and his actions. Funny how it's always everyone else that has the problem and not him. He's so selfish he tells you to go get meds from a doctor and never talk about it again. He's a child. He can't deal with grown up issues like medical problems, or any problems for that matter. Definitely go to the doctor if you feel something is wrong and you are sad most of the time. Oh, and when did he become an expert on post-partum depression anyway? Never. . .exactly, he doesn't even know what he's talking about, but it's your fault because you aren't acting the way he wants when he wants. If possible, see a counselor. Please get yourself away from him, because he needs to make you feel bad and guilty so he can feel good about himself. It will only get worse and you will only feel more and more terrible the longer you're with him. I do understand. I was with someone just like him. It was hard to leave, because I didn't know what to expect. I was afraid of the unknown. I am much happier now and I feel pretty good about myself. I don't have him around anymore to put me down for every little mistake I make. I can be myself and grow. My kids are much happier now too, they didn't like seeing me go through those hard times. I can't believe I felt so bad about myself that I allowed my children to be in that horrible situation. Well, it's your life, and your child's life. You can control the atmosphere you child grows up in. Take care of yourself and you will be able to care for your child the way you want to. Go for it! Get yourself back!
Amy - posted on 03/01/2010
My husband and I really struggled till about 3 months ago when our son, who is now 9 months finally was able to put himself to sleep at night. We were doing really well, but now, another obstacle is in the way in the form of deployment. It comes down to good communication . Also, we have had to 'schedual' time for just us. Good luck, and know that it does get easier.
Well Katelyn, I feel terrible for you but I'm in no position to offer advice because my boyfriend of 7 years and the father of my ONLY 18 month old daughter just broke up with me on facebook! All I can offer you is an ear to lean on.......I'm numb right now from my own situation but I'm sad for you.......for all you ladies!
Postpartum is REAL! Maybe you need to go talk to ur doc, get all the facts and medication if necessary and maybe give it some time before you try and bring it up with him again? Maybe he just needs some time to cool down?
Katelyn - posted on 03/01/2010
Lately we've been having fight after fight. We have broken and got back together and broken up again in the same week. The day we got back together was like nothing was ever wrong until he was telling me about his friend and his girlfriend breaking up and she found out she had postpartum depression. I thought perfect its already the subject we are talking about this will make it easier for me to bring it up. Well i said i think thats what a lot of our problems are ...i think i have postpartum depression. Thats when he hit the roof telling me that that is bullshit he never heard anything about me having postpartum depression till his friends girl had it and now im just bringin it up to use as en excuse when the truth is that i just can't stand him...so i started bawling and telling him that he's so insensitive and its not like i choose to have it i might not but i truely believe that i do and he isn't in my body so he shouldnt sit there and tell me what im feeling and what im not feeling...things were rough for the next couple of days then last night we were talking he told me he doesn't understand how things can be great for one day then nothing for the rest. I tried to bring it up again telling him that i think what put me in my mood lately was that when i tried to tell you how im feeling and the postpartum depression first of all you wouldn't even hear it and second of all you just told me how i was lying about it and using it as an excuse cuz it worked for your friend...before i could say anymore he was well put urself in my position we're not getting along and all the sudden someone mentions postpartum depression and immediately u bring it up as an excuse for u and i was like omg just listen to me and he's like fine you go to the doctors and get on some medication then don't ever bring it up again b/c i don't want to hear about it. Your only miserable with me and your happy when your with your friends or you go out any where else...postpartum depression doesn't just turn on and off when your with me.....HELPPPPPPPPPPP
Sherry - posted on 03/01/2010
always always always keep communication open. I know my man and I have a few nice blowouts a year but that's usually when things have been really quiet and we settled into a "comfortable silence" mode.. unfortunately that silence got in the way of communication.. don't fall into that rut.. make sure you always talk to each other.. even if it's a scheduled hour a day... and about nothing at all.
Sherry - posted on 03/01/2010
I know how your feeling Sharee.. I might actually have to go through a similar problem shortly. my man will be looking for work later today in a town that's more then 2 hours from where we are currently. The only saving grace is that I do have family within an hour of the town we may have to move to... Thank god for great aunts and uncles... and even a cousin who'll have to relocate there also when their house sells-- since her hsuband also got a job in that area
Sheree - posted on 03/01/2010
We have been the last 2 weeks but its only because we moved away from everyone we know for his work, and now he has gone away further for work and left me at home, where I know no one. I feel miserable about it, but apparently he had no choice about going for work. Before that our relationship ws great. Sure we have problems now and then like most but in general our relationship is great including the sex life :)
My boyfriend of 7 years and the father of my 18 month old daughter just broke up with me on his Facebook status.......I'm in shock! We're not in highschool, we have child together.......it's embarrassing! I new we were having problems but REALLY? Facebook? Seriously?!! I'm appauled and embarrassed! But that's my current situation!
He works in another province so he's only home every 2-3 months and finances are tight and stressful but WOW! Somebody pinch me!
Sarah - posted on 02/28/2010
My husband and I went through a lot of problems for a while. We seperated for a bit and then relized that we loved each other to much to toss our relationship away. Comunication is a huge part of it. You need to have comunication! If you have a hard time comunicating I would write things down. emails or letters. Also you have to recognize and be able to admit your faults/ flaws. If you do that then you start somewhere. What to start fixing/ working on. I hope this helps! Good Luck!
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