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19 year old step daughter

Jaclyn - posted on 05/01/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I am 27 years old with a 19 year old step child. My question is how do you teach a 19 year old manners, my 5 year old has better manners then her. She walks into our bedroom when the door is closed without knocking. I told her not to but she says " daddy was laughing so i know nothing was going on" we all know she could have been wrong. Then she walked into the bathroom when i was in the bath with my 9 month old, the door was closed. She walked in to tell me that my sub was on the table. Please help how do i "teach" her simple manners.

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Charlottle - posted on 05/11/2009

my husband and I talk to each other first then sit down with our daughter (not while the incident is happening) and let her know we both do not appreciate her just walking in. Also remeber that you should always show her the respect you want for yourself.

Jessica - posted on 05/07/2009

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You need your hubby to deal with it, especially because the difference in age between you two is so close. There are probably going to be respect issues, just because she is so close to you in age, and may be having a tough tme dealing with it properly.

Kimi - posted on 05/05/2009

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All you can really do is tell her you need privacy and lock the door if you are changing or something. You're only 8 years older than she is so you can't really do parenting with her and I wouldn't expect her to take you seriously if you tried to.

She needs to learn how to live with people cause in a few years she will be living with roomates some where. I would just let loose when she is being rude cause that's what would happen to her with a roomate.

Andrea - posted on 05/02/2009

I know what you are going through I am 25 with a 14yr step child and her father wants to give her stuff and i am like no because her dad is disabled and we are trying to get him on disability so I am the only one working and I do now want to raise anymore bills and I fell giving her a phone in her room would do that and she thinks she can do as she please I am and she has the worst Attudie in the world

Jaclyn - posted on 05/02/2009

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She is taking another year of high school then going to college. We only have her on the weekends and right now that's not often cause she is having problem respecting not only me but everyone else in the house. Could part of her problem be jealousy? He father and i just had our first child together (who is now 9 months) but we are expecting twins in a few months as well.