Rachael - posted on 09/25/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
I replied to a stepmothers post regarding her stepson and his gross ways (the way he eats, hygenine issues, and poop problems; he is 15). I could 100% relate to her situation. I told her my "story" and my frustrations did come out. Two "moms" practically wrote me a book saying shame on me, calling me wicked, cruel, etc. I am nothing of the sort, I am a loving stepmother and have helped raise "T" since he was 7, he is now 12. My fiance has full custody. I am the one who does it all...school, doctor, dentist...sports etc.
The woman even made attacks because I referred to "T" as my stepson not my son. My reply said things like "he eats like a starving kid" and "smears his poop and I told my stepson its disgusting." I did say in the post...not to "T" that he eats like a slob...but it was BAD for a long time and has drastically improved. I told the SM who made the post to not back down and stand her ground, her husband made excuses etc for his son's behavior. Again, I could relate to her. I said that telling the truth sometimes the brutal truth is needed. Point being is being a stepmother is hard....and I felt her pain and frustraion.
I could not believe how crappy the women's replies were to me. One woman replied 4x....like 5 paragraphs long each time. Even after I explained my situation a little more they kept going. I said why we have custody to try to give some background...and said how his family said I was the best thing that happened to him etc. One lady said look what they have to compare you to (referring to his bio mom). Also saying just because I am the better mom does not mean I am a good mom....SERIOUSLY!!!
I have decided not to reply to them and feed into it. Has anyone else experienced this or anything like this? Would love to hear your input.