Rebecca - posted on 04/21/2009 ( 41 moms have responded )
OK, here is the background.
DH & I own our own home. It has 3 bedrooms & a sunroom (could be a 4th bedroom possibly). We have 2 bio children together. A daughter who is just over 2 & a 10 month old son. At the moment both bio children share a double bedroom & SD has a room to herself. SD is nearly 11 & only comes to stay about 6 nights per month.
My problem is that BS has been teething & waking BD up along with DH & I every night, then we get nights when BD has a bad dream & wakes up BS, needless to say there are not many nights when many of us are getting a full nights sleep. I have brought up the idea of SD moving into share a room with BD & BS moving into the smaller room SD currently has. That way we can leave BS to have a bit of a cry & learn to put himself back to sleep (at the moment we have to jump out of bed as soon as we hear him so he knows that if he crys then he gets attended to no matter what the hour).
What I need to know is am I being unreasonable thinking it's ok for SD to have to share a room. DH has her room set up like a shirne to her & feels that it would be better for BD to just sleep in the bottom bunk in SDs room but all her clothes & belongings would have to stay in the other bedroom with BS. I don't feel this is fair as basically he is saying to me that it is more important for SD to have a room for the few nights she visits that has all her things in it (of which most is not to be touched by BD) while BD who lives in the house all the time is to be left in limbo land having to live out of 2 rooms. The other option is to renovate the sunroom to become a bedroom but it will take me a bit of time & $ & I'm not sure how DH will see that option as the sunroom is accessed from the porch, not internally.