ANY1 FROM AUSTRALIA GOING FOR CUSTODY OF HUSBANDS CHILD
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Nadia - posted on 07/12/2009
That's a good point Heidi, one I forgot ... if your lil one is in Prep or DayCare during the day, make an appointment for both you & your husband. Ask to see the Director of the DayCare Centre, or the Principal of the School and also ask to see the main adults they are in direct contact with during the day as they will notice things or overhear things.
DayCare's and Schools MUST report ALL things suspicious (trust me ... I know this one for a fact!) to Child Safety AND the Police.
If you notice odd bruising ... photograph it and date it.
Getting a full General Checkup from a Dr is another good point from Heidi.
Find out any info you can about this boyfriends Parole.
Amanda .... Honestly .... My Gut Feeling is that your husband's little girl needs to be taken out of there .... NOW .... she's not going to last much longer if you and hubby don't take assertive action very very soon! My heart goes out to you and hope you can give this darling child the love, care and attention that she truly deserves xoxox
Heidi - posted on 07/12/2009
I think you need to see real legal advice, if you know a child_that is to say ANY CHILD who is in danger and exposed to family violence like that you should be on the phone to your family services. You should also keep in regular contact with her caregivers like her school to see if she is comnig there showing signs of neglect or abuse. If you have enough evidance (that includes taking the child to the drs and gettimg supporting evdidance from family services) you should file a application in court to retain custody and notify the courts that she is at risk. Well that is what I would do. no application would get far without evidance- i feel so is a druggo doesnt work
Nadia - posted on 07/11/2009
Girlfriend ... get on the phone to Child Safety ... and tell them you want that child out of there ... last month!
Document, document, document everything. Invest in a digital voice recorder that fits in the palm of your hand so if you ever witness something going on between BM & B/F there's your ACE Card.
Call the cops. Call your local government member. Call "Today Tonight" or "A Current Affair" ... people like those don't like it when what they're subjecting that poor child to is suddenly on camera for all of Australia to see!
I'm a full-time stepmom of three ... BM hates me ... that's her problem ... I just concentrate on bringing up our girls (12, 10 & 6)
Yes, I'm an Aussie ... Yes, BD has FULL Custody ... Send me a private msg or add me as a friend if you want. You'll have my full support!
(((((HUGS))))) to you!
Jade - posted on 07/10/2009
Yeah , definitely get her out of that situation, she would be better off with you. I just can't understand how some mothers just don't care about their kids or look after them properly, I love mine soooo much and make sure they know it every day. Good Luck!!
Samantha - posted on 03/17/2009
I am in same situation. I live in Brisbane and i have 2 step kids that live with us full time and have supervised visits every second weekend with their mother. It is not easy we had to get child services involved as she is a heavy drug user her boyfriend is a drug dealer they were having raids done on the house often their was violence in the house even towards the kids the kids were not being fed and their mum slept all day and was up all night. Thousands of dollars later ( $30,000 ) we are still going to court every 6 months. We only have interum orders as the courts are strongly thinking about having the kids going back to mum one week on one week off. She can not handle the kids and has never been able to handle them they have been in day care their whole life because if her (untill we got them). We didnt let the kids go back to their mum for a while because of the situation tried to get the school to help but they would not . Every day was a take it as it come day will she go to the school and get the kids and then we never see them again, Should we pick the kids up early just in case she is there. At the end we were told that if we do not let her have the kids again then it will look bad on us when we go to court. My advise as this is what we did get interum orders first dont go for full orders as they will not give them to you once you have that move just under 100km away from her and change their schools. So when you do go back to court and she tries to get half custody it will be hard for her as she lives so far away from their school. Unless she is willing to drive an hour every morning and afternoon to take them to school or move to where you live then they wont give it to her. Request random drug and alcohol tests they will make your husband do them too just to satisfy both parties. If they come back everytime saying she has drugs and high amounts of alcohol in her system then she will not be able to get the kids back. If you need any more help just ask because i have been doing this for 2 years now so i kind of know what the courts are going to throw back at you.
Annette - posted on 03/15/2009
you have her for a visit, got to the court house or solicitor, actually and do not take her back. File for custody till it goes to court. Do not hand her over or let her out of your sight because if there are no papers in order for custody she can only remove the child from the father if she is in fear of her safety and if the child wants to go. Ring and make an appointment to see a solicitor, usually first visit is free so get as much info and DO exactly as you are told. Write down questions you want to ask and do not hesitate to act.
Iliana - posted on 03/11/2009
Oh Amanda, she is very young,.. But trust me she is very grown up at the same time.. Kids that grow up in environments like that, have no choice but to lose part of their childhood. They are exposed to things that they should never see or even know that exist. I met my SD when she was 6, and she now lives with us Full Time.
So.. her BM is pregnant and still doing drugs? She is going to have an extremely tough time when this baby is born. All you can do at the moment is put the stones in place to get your SD out of that environment... You and your partner are doing the right thing.
It doesn't mater that the child has lived with her BM since birth. The environment is clearly poor and not suitable for a 5 year old. All the best with your case!! I hope it all works out well for you and especially your little Angel!
Amanda - posted on 03/11/2009
we are trying to get her out of there as soon as possible the only thing is she is only 5yrs old and they dont take into account wat she wants and the whole court prosses is going to be long and hard we only just got the draft of what we what to happen and ok it so the can let her know she has no idea we are goin for custody we don't know how the courts will like it as she has lived with her mother since she was born and we only want her out because of the new bf and and the bf isnt going no where as she is pregnant
Iliana - posted on 03/11/2009
Go for it, and get her out of there! Law in Australia states that when a child reaches a certain age (7 or 8) they can choose who they want to live with. You only have the childs best interest in mind, and any judge would agree with that.
Amanda - posted on 03/08/2009
we'll my husbands daughter mum has a new bf and the both do drugs and drink lots he hits her mum in front of her and locks her in her room so that they can have sex he is always tell her to f**** off and go live with dad and myself he always is frightened to go home and always cries and says she wants to live here and i say wat about mum and she says who care and she says i wanna live with you you so wat are we suppose do sit back and do nothing or try and do something which we are and he is also on parole the bf that is and he aint goin no where as my husbands ex is also pregnant after 4months and i can tell you as soon as this baby is born my step daughter will be pushed aside by the bf and then her mum as they both have mental health issues otherwise my step daughter will end up very mixed up little girl if we don;t try and do something what do you think.
Jade - posted on 03/06/2009
Unless there is a really good reason for taking a child away from its mum, then don't do it. I believe that kids are better off with their mums when they are young and then when they are old enough to make the decision themselves, then let them decide who they would rather live with most of the time. Just my opinion. We just went thru court to get access to my SD, and it is a very stressful and tense proccess that dragged for 18 months for us.