Jennifer - posted on 04/26/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )
I'm slightly frustrated w/feeling I'm the only mom here that has bio-kids (4) & step-kids(2), but no children with my spouse. Seems like many posts are from moms dealing w/BMs and shared children only.
Due to delivery complications I cannot have more children. It breaks my heart we cannot have "our" baby, but I love & appreciate the children we do have and not dwell on what I don't have.
I know what it's like to be the BM and the SM. I have no problems w/my ex's wives/SOs because they are good to my children. My kids are harder on her than I am; we have many discussions about how hard it is to be in her position (not to mention her being w/their father!).
Now my spouse's ex is another story. That woman is Looney Tunes, an admitted self-mutilator (a cutter), control freak - you name it - she's all that specialness rolled into one.