Laurie - posted on 06/30/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
this is likely to be long but everyone around me knows the story but for some reason i feel like i need to keep telling it, i'm not sure why, maybe its a way of venting, maybe its part of me wanting sympathy, not really sure and would love your thoughts on this.
first of all i'm gonna be upfront about this the bm of my ss is on this site so i wont say any names even though i highly doubt that she is even aware that i am on here.
so me and the bio have a definate hate hate relationship, i wish this could be otherwise but she thinks i'm trying to steal her child and i think that she is generally a bad mom (this is based on what i have heard before i came into the pic and the conditions i see my ss when she drops him off). my biggest problem is how she chooses to conduct herself with her boys and her bf (which ever it happens to be at the time). she never waits to bring her boys in to her romanic relationships, shortly after my ss was born she left my hubby for a married man who got her prego 6 mo after my ss was born and a few months after their son was born they had an incident with stolen property, babies, guns and no rent as a result he ended up in prison a few months later and she ended up with child endangerment charges. not one week after man #2 went to jail does she show up with a new man (#3) her "fiance" who soon moved into her parents house with her and the boys at this point there were 10 ppl living in a 5 bedroom house, they were engadged for about a year before he left her cuz of her bullshit. within a month of him leaving she shows up with man #4. this man is married, he has two children and his wife is prego, he currently sings the "oh baby i love you im gonna leave her" as far as we are aware they havent even started a divorce yet. she uses him as her babysitter and spends all of her time and her boys' at his long stay motel room. and now from what she has posted on circle of moms she is prego agian, this is three kids by three different men in about 3 years. does anyone else think that this is rediculus???? what also disturbs me is the amount of parental control she gives her men she lets the boys (including me ss) to call all of them some variation of daddy or papa, with a couple she has encouraged and taought them to call them that. my ss although he is only 3 has told me how man #2 used to smack him around (he was infintile to 14 mo when he was around) and how man #4 will spank him before putting him in time out, everytime he has a time out. i am frustrated and saddened by what she thinks is "good" parenting.
like i said before im not trying to start trouble here im just tierd and frustrated. does anyone have any advice for me? i just dont know what to do anymore, i feel useless unable to protect my ss from bad parenting and bad living conditions. what can i do?