Kimberly - posted on 02/11/2010 ( 46 moms have responded )
Sorry , this is my first time using this part of circle of moms. What I had written didnt save.
I have three step children that I love with all of my heart and everything that I have. However, they are all teenagers 16, 18, 19 and they only seem to want something to do with their dad and I when they want something- holidays, birthdays, money, etc... Oh course I am the wicked step mom, but if it wasnt for me they all would have given up on relationships with their dad and themselves along time ago. I try to help me the mediator but I stopped doing that a year or so ago. I shouldnt have to do that. At least I dont feel I should have too.
My husband and I have been together for a little over 10 years. The kids were small when we met. I do realize that it hurts them as much as it hurts us. I have been there main target for hurt until recently. About a year ago my husband started feeling the blows from them as well. They are not babies anymore. My middle daughter has a baby of her own now. and lives with her mom. That is when it got even more complicated right before the holidays. We didnt even spen Christmas with them because my husband was upset as well as I was because AGAIN I was called a "glorified bitch". They are grown adults and know better than to treat anyone like this especially their parents. Thank you all for the support. I told my husband I joined a "support group for Step moms and he thinks that is a good thing. Not having anyone that knows has been hard for a very long time. I love ALL of my children very very much, and I am proud of each and every one of them. But enough is enough. I am tired...
2/14/10- ok so the newest conflict is that yesterday was my husbands grandson's 1st birthday. My husband had to work so we didnt get to end up going. My daughter and I have never been invited to anything without him. Now of course my step daughter is upset because we didnt at least go. It just seems like it is always something. However, I ended up crying last night because if I would have known that would have been ok we definately would have went. I love them kids with all my heart and soul and would move heaven and earth for any of them. Thats what makes it so very hard.