Holly - posted on 09/04/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
So, as many of you know from some of my other posts, my daughter;s bio mom hasn't called in a little over 3 months now. At first we thought it was because she is mad that my husband refuses to sign a paper saying she can record all phone conversations, but then we also realized that she hadn't called for 6 weeks before he said he wouldn't sign the paper. So now, with the help of my 2 best friends, I have a new theory and I want to know if it makes any sense to any of you. I also want to know if you have any ideas on why this woman is basically ignoring her daughter.
We think she's not calling because she wants to give up custody, but she doesn't want to look like the "bad guy" to her daughter by just signing over her rights. We think that in her head, silence is better than saying "I don't want you" and giving up the fight. We got this theory from a blog she posted on Myspace:
"Thursday, May 21, 2009
Loving or letting go?
What do you do when you love someone so much that you know that you can never make them truley happy? Im not talking about my husband. My daughter never chose to have me as a mother. I love her and I want whats best for her. Im stuck in a situation where I feel like I cant ever give her the kind of life she deserves. I feel like ill always be a burdon to her. Sometimes I feel like the best thing I can personally do for her is to not be a part of her life. "
That is the EXACT blog (I did not change a thing... yes, her grammar and spelling really are that horrible... it is torture for me [the gramar queen according to all who know me] to read anything she writes!). What do you all think? I am just reading way too much into it all?