Lisa - posted on 01/04/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am so angry at biomom right now. Well, always. She is selfish, childish, just plain DUMB. Harsh words, but to know her is to highly disklike her (i don't like the word hate. I don't HATE her....she brought my beautiful stepkids into this world).
Anyway, my eldest sd, 11, voiced she didn't want to go to her therapist anymore. Dad and I have realized this is a BAD therapist for her. She is highly mothering and too protective of her. Takes her on trips, gives her presents for every occasion. They don't even talk about the issues, she just helps her with her homework. The sd says she wants to be "counseled" because "I need counseling" (how mature she is!) and she said that this therapist just angers her so much and doesn't listen and says that she lies all the time.
And it's not just out of the mouth of babes..... Dad and I KNOW this therapist is unhealthy.
So.... Dad talked to biomom about taking her out of this therapist's hands and finding her a new therapist (she also sees a guidance counselor at school) and biomom was all for it.
Then she drops the kids off yesterday and decides to change her mind. Even though my sd still wants to leave this therapist and Dad and I are behind her, BM says it's too much of an inconvenience for her - to drive to somewhere else, the fact that SHE and the 6 year old go to the same place for therapy... just lame excuses for a selfish, only-thinking-about-herself-marginal-mother.
It makes me sick. My sd so wants to leave this poisonous therapist and her mom won't back her up!!!
As my husband says, once again, we can't save her. There's been other instances which I won't get into right now where my stepkids were in physical danger and my hubby and I coudln't do a thing about it due to the biomom. long story.
Anyway, i just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.