Biomom makes decisions that aren't in kids best interest

Lisa - posted on 01/04/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am so angry at biomom right now. Well, always. She is selfish, childish, just plain DUMB. Harsh words, but to know her is to highly disklike her (i don't like the word hate. I don't HATE her....she brought my beautiful stepkids into this world).

Anyway, my eldest sd, 11, voiced she didn't want to go to her therapist anymore. Dad and I have realized this is a BAD therapist for her. She is highly mothering and too protective of her. Takes her on trips, gives her presents for every occasion. They don't even talk about the issues, she just helps her with her homework. The sd says she wants to be "counseled" because "I need counseling" (how mature she is!) and she said that this therapist just angers her so much and doesn't listen and says that she lies all the time.

And it's not just out of the mouth of babes..... Dad and I KNOW this therapist is unhealthy.

So.... Dad talked to biomom about taking her out of this therapist's hands and finding her a new therapist (she also sees a guidance counselor at school) and biomom was all for it.

Then she drops the kids off yesterday and decides to change her mind. Even though my sd still wants to leave this therapist and Dad and I are behind her, BM says it's too much of an inconvenience for her - to drive to somewhere else, the fact that SHE and the 6 year old go to the same place for therapy... just lame excuses for a selfish, only-thinking-about-herself-marginal-mother.

It makes me sick. My sd so wants to leave this poisonous therapist and her mom won't back her up!!!

As my husband says, once again, we can't save her. There's been other instances which I won't get into right now where my stepkids were in physical danger and my hubby and I coudln't do a thing about it due to the biomom. long story.

Anyway, i just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

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Lisa - posted on 01/05/2010

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Anna, Biomom would never consent. She wants the kids half-time. we want shared custody. biomom is a psychotic b****.
We dont' know what we're going to do. Even if my husband stops driving her to the therapist on our weeks, BM is still going to take her on HER weeks. So no win.

Alecia - posted on 01/05/2010

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I'm soo sorry to hear this story I know first hand how bad a bm can mess up a child while u watch helplessly!!! The only thing I can think of is if u offer to drive her to the new dr and set it all up urself. A bad therapist will cause more harm than good!!!!!! good luck!

Anna - posted on 01/04/2010

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Why dont you see if biomom would let her x-husband and you have cousted and her have weekends with the child. This would solve all problems.

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Well... do you think maybe biomom would be more okay with the switch if you offered to take her to the new therapist? If you our your husband have the time, I would personally take her myself just to make sure she gets what she feels she needs and what you guys feel she needs... I would be super pissed if that happened to me... how inconsiderate of her mother...

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Oh Lisa honey! Feel free to vent anytime - even if you want to pm me, i'm here if you need me! :)

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