Amanda - posted on 04/27/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
So heres a question I'm not sure how to handle. My sd is starting preschool in the fall. We need her social security card and birth certificate for the schools records. The bm had them and ofcourse now refuses to mail them to us, which knowing her means she probably lost them. We decided not to even bother fighting with her and just get copies. You have to have a birth certificate to get the social security card so my husband went to get a copy of it first. When he requested a copy at the health department they refused to give him a copy because he was not on it. When my sd was born the bm left the father unknown. Somehow, even though they were not married at the time that my sd was born, she was able to give her my husband's last name, she is listed as my husband's child in their divorce papers, but still has no listed legal father according to the state. We have been told that he may have to have a paternity test done in order to actually put his name on the birth certificate and he is terrified! We have raised her for 2 1/2 years with no help from the bm and no matter what she IS our daughter. If he were to take the paternity test and was not the biological father could the bm take her away from us? We could not bear to lose our princess and just can't decide whether or not it's even worth the risk..... Please help!