Jessica - posted on 10/13/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
So, for my SD's next birthday, we would like to do a party with our side of the family, as well as her BM's family. BM is completely on board (she actually suggested it last year). A lot has gone on with BM's health this year, and I think it would be such a positive thing to have everyone all together, getting along, to celebrate. The only problem is, we would need to think of something that is fairly affordable, and will accommodate 40-50 people.... I also wanted to be able to invite some kids from my SD's school, as we have just moved to a new town, and I want to promote new friendships. I know that the BM will help out with the cost, but I don't want to get ridiculous with this party, after all, she's only turning 10!!!
My only thoughts are, to maybe have some girls from her class over for a pajama party on another night (pizza and a movie)... But what to do with 40 family members??? We live in a condo, so that definitely won't work. Her birthday is in the beginning of April (I know I still have a long time, but I'm already stressing about it), so the weather may not be warm enough for an outdoor party.
My SD's aunt and uncle have a renovated "garage" on their property (it is more like a party room), but I'm not sure about asking them. It might be a little awkward for some, as BM is not a big part of my SD's life and there are definitely some negative feelings toward her (which are MORE than justified, but long story)! I know everyone will behave themselves, but doesn't that seem like a little too much to ask of someone? Have a party for my kid, and invite a whole bunch of people you have to be fake around? Any ideas, PLEASE!!!