Amber - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )
my stepsons' BM and i have never been friends. we dont talk unless we have to, but im not mean to her or anything. shes always shot me evil looks every time she sees me...until recently...
when we found out we're expecting our first child together, her attitude toward us completely changed. she chats us up about it constantly! shes always asking how im feeling, details on the pregnancy, if we know what it is yet, what doctor im seeing, etc. at first i didnt think anything of it. i just thought she was comparing it with hers or something. but she goes WAAAY too far with it. a couple weeks ago, she told my hubby when i wasnt there that if the baby is a girl, she wants it to "come visit" her. (?!) shes always wanted a girl, but she ended up with 3 boys and it makes her mad to see anyone else with a girl.
shes always trying to push me to get my doctor to give me zofran for hyperemesis even though i dont have much trouble with morning sickness! i havent even thrown up a single time and i just finished my first trimester! this past weekend, she sent my DH home with three little pills in a plastic bag. why he took them, i'll never know! i was gonna flush them, but decided to go online and see if that was actually what they were..i wouldnt put it past her to plant something on us and call the cops!!! i found out that they actually were zofran. why the heck is she pushing this pill on me?! this is a pill that hasnt had sufficient research done. they say that if you're breastfeeding, you cant take it because it passes through the milk to the baby...there are no conclusive studies on the effects on a human fetus, only animals. the reason my doctor didnt give me anything is because im not having trouble with sickness!! they say you should decide which is more important to you, relief from a little nausea or the potential risks to your baby....its definitely not worth it to me! im not even throwing up!!!
i just dont understand what her motives are behind doing all of this. she is a woman that never does anything just to be nice if she doesnt get something out of it in the long run. i've learned this, not only from what my husband tells me about how she was when they were together, but from my personal experience with her over the last year and a half. i'd like to know what everyone thinks about this and any advice on how to handle her would be GREATLY appreciated!!