Sonya - posted on 09/15/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )
I don't understand this at all ?? I understand that my SD is afraid of hurting her BM feelings if she confronts her about taking her stuff because since my SK that are 8 year old SS and 10 year old SD visits with thier grandparents every other weekend on BM side ofcourse they tend to leave clothes there right so they have things to wear when they get out of the shower, well BM hardley comes around so I think when she does come around she tends to go through my SD things and she takes what she wants and leaves, now I am curious as to how is BM even getting in and thats when thier grandma comes to my mind, and she's even told me she is tired of it because just last week BM I guess was going to take my SD skinny jeans and she hid them under my daughters bed in a black bag. My daughter was crying her eys out, that is until her grandma found them, so BM hasn't been around since then, because I know she knows she did wrong !! Oh and since it started to drizzle alittle today I asked my 10yr. old wheres the Hello Kitty jacket at and she said she didn't know she thinks her mom might have taken it, now BM is not staying with grandma and is in and out of there lives, what can I do to make this stop this is too much a 28 year old taking from her own 10 yr. old daughter ??? Help please guys .......I am ready to blow up on this lady........another thing by the way I am trying to get this through my SD head that she needs to stop wearing her moms things and she needs to take back BM clothes so she can stop taking HER clothes (even though she told my daughter "no its okay you can wear any of my clothes" , yet my daughter didn't say the same for BM in other words I don't think she would have thought her BM would end up taking her clothes and this is not just a day or two this turns into months, and why is BM giving my SD her old clothes is she trying to trade in her old clothes for my daughters new clothes this is so petty I am very disturbed by all this, the thing that disturbs me the most is that my husband hasn't said a word yet I will not hold my tongue on this one, not this time......I think my plan is to bag up all BM clothes that are in my house and give it to her face to face and tell her to stop taking my daughters things because I fear that this will continue until it is addressed......this isn't right we are not buying clothes for her these clothes are for my daughter!! My daughter is probably too afraid to hurt BM feelings to say anything and grandparents are proably afraid of her too but I'm not Im just fed up !!! Any suggestions ladies ??