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Kim - posted on 06/08/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My husband is paying child support when we have AND dont have my ss. I think this is annoying and just plain wrong. especially since we have Joint custody of Jayson (3 months on 3 months off) and its always up to us for transportation back and forth from texas to kentucky...

and right now my husband is in Iraq, hes in the Army, and so I do not have Jayson. Dont get to talk to him, or see him. in fact my husband is rarley in contact with him.I do know what my husband tells me, and thats that she got kicked out of where she is living, now in a hotel, stopped potty training him and expecting again with a bf that left her when she got prego. I dont think it is healthy for Jayson to be living in a hotel first off, and now im worried she will use Jaysons 450 a month for medical bills on the new baby. not to mention when we gave him back to BM in november when he was 20 months and got him back on joes leave in march when he was 2, he was still wearing the same clothes. I dont know what to do to make sure my ss is being treated properly, is there a way I can get custody for the remainder of my husbands tour in Iraq?

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Penny - posted on 06/09/2009

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It looks like you have another kid. Can you do some kind of court thing where you will still get to see your SS on the basis that the siblings need to maintain a relationship even when your hubby is away? Someone told me I could do that if my hubby got deployed. You might want to look into it.

Jamie - posted on 06/09/2009

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Kim...my husband and I are sort of dealing with kind of a similiar situation. He could be very well be deployed in the next few months. My 7yr SS comes to our house almost every weekend. His mother is a pot smoker and drinker and lets him play video games 24/7 cause shes to busy to deal with him. While at our house he has a brother and sister to play with. I wanted to continue visits while DH is deployed to keep the kids in contact and allow SS to see his other set of GParents. Heres the problem. As step parents we have no rights. Only thing that could be done is for you DH to take BM to court and get full custody of the child. I know it doesnt help now because he is over seas and cant do much. But what you can do it get everything prepared so when he gets home hes ready to go into court. BM sounds unfit as she cant even keep a roof over her head and is slowing down his development (potty training). So start being proactive now, document what you know. and Good Luck,

Kenna - posted on 06/08/2009

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First Kim, I would like to say Thank you to you, if you could please pass it on to your husband. I support him and the many other military personal protecting us daily.



Second, who knows, I dont' think that you can start the proceedings to get custody, you could try, what would it hurt. I would suggest that you contact the CPS in the states that she is residing, if they find her to be unfit then your husband would get full custody at least on a temporary basis.



Good luck to you.

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