Child Support & Being Broke

Melissa - posted on 04/29/2009

Quoting Jamie:

I have a huge issue with the amount being paid! We recently got 50/50% custody at the beginning of the year and he still hasn't gone to get Child Support adjusted! She doesn't work, she's in school and on gov't assistance. My ss wants to live with us, but she refuses because she wouldn't be able to afford it without the support, can't get custody from her because although she is an idiot, she's not on drugs or whatever. She has 3 other children she's getting support for as well. We are going deeper and deeper into debt, while she has a new vehicle not only for herself but her mom and brother as well. Since we're 180% percent supporting him. 100% here, including all medical insurance, and 80% at his bm house. I have huge issues with this, and am very resentful! I totally know where you are coming from!

YOu might want to get your facts straight, I HAVE FULL CUSTODY OF HIM! You guys will never have custody of him period. and if your husband has a problem with what he pays in child suport then lets go have it looked at. And if you would have been at my house last night you would have known that my child (not yours) was upset with me. That is why he said he wanted to live there. THe courts will never allow that due to the facts that I and my child have given to them about YOU! So please if you feel the need to bring me up in your conversation again, make sure your facts are straight!

Theressa - posted on 03/18/2009

I feel your pain! My husband pays $1,650 a month...It sucks the ex had not had a job in 10 years and cried poor, the original order was for $2,300 so she could "go to school" now she finally has a job and still gets more that a lot of people get from a J O B ! It sucks know that her new found income is "fun" money for her while we are in the poor house.

Heather - posted on 03/18/2009

im livng in martinsburg... my dad has lived in fairmont buckhannon elkins i have family in moorefield... all over lol :)

Michelle - posted on 03/18/2009

we pay cs on time twice a month always on time. and last year we only got to see my step kids 2 days in the year of 2008. Again i point out we paid out over $5000.00 last year in cs and my husband only seen his 2 kids 2days.. i may need to add they live 600 miles away from us but when we tried 3 different times to go see them and the lies of reasons why it wasn't a good time to come to visit them the ex. used made me sick to my stomach.

Shannon - posted on 03/16/2009

I was born and raised in Big Chimney (right outside of Charleston) but I now live in a little town called Chloe. It is in Clay County. Where are you located?

Heather - posted on 03/16/2009

where at in wv shannon

Shannon - posted on 03/16/2009

Heather I totally sympathize with what you are going through.  Did I see in  your message that you are from WV?  Thats where we live.

Melanie - posted on 03/16/2009

It is so nice to hear all you vent! I have been doing it to all my friends and family, but no one really knows what it is like... except you all. I love that reply about having 2 arms and 2 legs and a heartbeat... YES those Exs can support themselves! aarrrggggg!

Melanie - posted on 03/16/2009

Thanks for your story. I wish our kids mom would see that we don't owe her and it isn't our responsibility to support them when she has them. We take care of them 50% or more and she still gets $300 each week she has them and we pay for most everything else...

Melanie - posted on 03/16/2009

It has been helpful to read all these comments. We have my 2 step children 50% (or more) of the time and we also have to pay child support, medical coverage plus 75% out-of-pocket medical. The mother constantly nags us and "nickle & dimes" us for other things like the sports, etc. which we stand firm that we will not pay more than 50% of. When the kids come home to us, they ask us for things that she won't buy because she "doesn't have money". She manages an apartment complexz so has deals on the rent and doesn't have to pay these high gas prices because she doesn't have to drive to work. According to one of the kids she spends $400/mo on Jenny Craig. With whos money??? She constantly promises them things and doesn't buy them and she says "ask dad". We are facing forclosure and I am suffering anxiety. How is the system fair??? It is so nice to hear that others are facing similar issues... not at all a positive thing, but good to know we aren't alone. Any one else paying for kids they have 50% or more???

Heather - posted on 03/16/2009

wv is his income her income child care and insurance... ours should go down to around 400 a mon the judge said... we will kno soon.... i dont see how these mothers get so much help from the govt and make good money i dont make anythign and becuase i own a house i cant get any help

Vickie - posted on 03/16/2009

My current husband also used to have to pay child support. He just went up there and said im having financial hardship can we reduce it. They even asked him what he thought he could afford. He ended up paying 200/month.

Vickie - posted on 03/16/2009

Sorry your having to struggle. My x pays me a large amount as well but he can go to the state and say i cant afford that and they will look at his income and adjust it. Im not sure about other states but in texas its 20% of his paycheck. If my calculations is right he should only be paying 480/a month. He can get it reduced but he has to go to where ever the child support office is in which he is associated with. Good luck to you and your family!!

Heather - posted on 03/16/2009

sherrie you are a wonderful woman.. unlike my finaces ex. she doesnt even send clothes on the weekends after getting allt his money from him..

Heather - posted on 03/16/2009

jessica..... well i know exactly where ur coming from my finaces ex wifes makes 30 thousand a year he makes 24 thousand he pays her 600 a mon plus has to pay 248 a mon in insurance. and now she only pays 109.15 a month in day care because she gets state assistance well his deductable on his insurance just went up to 3500 and she is pissed and was like well ill just go get medicaide. yet i got layed off and im looking for a job at this point we are really living off my 401k because he brings home a week 189.67 and our house payment alone is 1100. a mon.. yet her comment to him is i dont care if ur child in ur house can eat.. but they just went back to child support inforcement to get his chid support to change.. do ur husban work in construction by any chance??? do u kno how much she makes?? or about?? i have the caculator that will give u an estimate let me know.. our should go down... i dont understand how these mothers struggle that get child support she also get 300 a mon from her 1st husband so how? i dont get it good luck girl its hard.. it kills me to even look at her...

Sherri - posted on 03/15/2009

Quoting Tara Lee:

I hope no one takes offence to this, it is just my personal experiance...I don't agree with how much fathers have to pay in child support and I don't agree at all in spousal support.  I watched my own father struggle to support us, while my mom and step-dad made 4 times the money he did. He has had to work so hard for nothing, we didn't get any extras.

Also, my husband has had to pay CS for my SS and SD. AND if the kids needed anything, we would still pay for it, PLUS school clothes, winter clothes, if the were in any activities we paid half.  While bio-mom makes more money then US put together ! Not to mention, her live-in bf makes more than HER. They don't need support. Did I mention, she took the kids and moved 4 hrs away. Sure my husband can see them whenever he likes, but how can he afford to take time off and then afford to travel to see them ?? How is this fair ??

I know having children is expensive, I have one of my own, however, it doesn't cost that much more, that fathers have to pay 50 - 65 % of thier wages. They have to live too. We got custody of SS about 5 years ago and SS 1 1/2 years ago. We never got a penny from bio-mom and there wasn't much differance(more money for groceries).  We still have to pay the utilities and morgage wheather they are with us or not. And now they actually get MORE then when we were paying support because that extra money is there for them and not spent to pay thier bio-moms bills.

Sorry, this is a VERY touchy subject around here. I didn't mean to preach. Anyway, this is just my opinion. Again, I don't mean to offend anyone.

I am a bio mom and agree with you completely!  Why should my ex not be allowed to move on with his life?  He is an active father - that's the only thing I care about - that my son has a good relationship with his dad!  I have 2 arms 2 legs and a heartbeat and should be soley responsible for my own home!

Sherri - posted on 03/15/2009

I feel very badly for all you moms/step moms who suffer due to child support.  When my ex remarried he conintued to pay child support and had his son 50/50.  As soon as I was able to I formally stopped the child support - my ideal has always been that both parents are required to support and be a part of the children's lives equally.  I worked hard to climb the coporate ladder so to speak so that i could support my son in a manner that had us comfortable.  Giving up the child support was a very liberating and happy day for me (also for his dad and new wife, I'll bet). 

Where dad's choose to be a part time parent they should pay child support, or where the divorce happens when the children are not in school yet.  where a dad is sharing custody, money should never exchange hands - at least allowing for moms to get on their feet after the divorce - a year or two at most!  But single moms who were once stay at home moms when married should be actively seeking to support themselves. 

My hubby's ex is threatening to take us to court for more child support - despite the fact that my ss lives more than 75% with us and my sd is here 50% of the time.  The lazy woman refuses to hold down a job - why should she?  The courts allow her 3 exes to support her and her latest boyfriend who also refuses to work!

We are lucky that we don't pay an overwhelming amount and we both make decent money.  We'll see what happens if this goes to court.

Becky - posted on 03/15/2009

We are in the same situation. We have custody of two of his 4 kids and the child support is suppose to stop and well they system is soooo slow that it hasn't yet, the case was final late last year!! It doesn't help that if you live in a different state not all states communticate with eachother and  when he tries to call his case worker that they let it go to voicemail and won't return your calls.

It has put a big dent in our financial situation, especially with our son just being born. Even our lawyer is no help because the paper work is through the court it is child support enforcement not doing their end!!!

Beth - posted on 03/13/2009

Your income should not be counted!!! and if calculated the same as it is in Wisconsin and she does make that much more than you and your husband then there would be a chance that you and your husband would recieve childsupport. You guys should seriously amend it. I don't think that that is right.

Beth - posted on 03/13/2009

In the state of Wisconsin all that counts is when you have the overnight then they figure how many nites in a 14 day period then each income and do kind of a cross multiplication thing. So the best advise i could give is to go to court for visitation and get in writing with the courts and they will most likely automatically recaculate the child support. It was funny when my husbands took him back to court for more. She thought she was gonna get 17% and the only reason she took him back was because she was trying to get him to leave me for her and he wouldn't and told me everything that she was saying so she did it for revenge. Well she didn't know about that rule and her child support went from $250 a month to $117 a month. It all depends on how many overnights and how much each makes monthly alone.

Rachael - posted on 03/13/2009

hi all, so many people in the same situation. When i met my partner, he has three children from a previous marriage whom he had 50% care with the mother. he payed $800.00 a month, shen then had twins to her current partner and child support went up to 950.00 per month?!? because she had stopped working! we recently gained custody of the youngest ss who lives with us full time and we now pay 1000.00 per month even though we have just had a baby together! I mean seriously what gives? when do you go this is not fair! she works part time so she earns just over the self supporting amount and her childsupport that she has to pay to us just gets deducted from ours anyway! which is 300 PER YEAR! australian child support just went through changes that has left us struggling and me having to go back to full time work! while she gets 12 months full maternity leave and only works 3 days! how honestly is thgat fair!

Jennifer - posted on 03/13/2009

We too were going through the same for years.  My husband finaly did the courts prose (he represented himself) he had them look at the amount of time we were supporting child to the amount of money each parent made.  Granted we do have shared placement with joint custody with child's birth mother. We pretty much have my husbands son half the time it is only like 2 days a month birth mother has son.  Now my husband pays I believe it is $72 per week.  Plus we pay half of the major expences.

Shaniqua - posted on 03/13/2009

We have my 2 year old stepdaughter about half the time, and my husband has to pay $300 a month to his ex who lives with her parents, is on their health insurance, works full time and has no bills (maybe her cell, but I think she's on her parent's plan!). My husband and I work very hard to make ends meet, and somtimes we are only able to just barely scrape by. We have an apartment where my sd has her own room, and she always talks about her room and her fish and how much she loves it. Initially, before my husband had to take his ex to court to get any time with my sd, she was only asking for $125 a month. But as soon as he made her mad, she went for as much as she could possibly get! Very selfish, and it only makes things harder for us.

Melanie - posted on 03/05/2009

Go point! You can't sit back on your butt and complain or wait for something to change. You're husband is lucky to have you by his side.

Jamie - posted on 03/04/2009

Quoting Melanie:

Quoting Jamie:If bio mom is a crappy mom take her butt to court and demand records be kept on what the money is being used for, receipts for clothes, groceries, schoo lunches, school supplies

Jaime, can this really be something ordered by a judge if deemed necessary?  I know agencies like DCSE don't require receipiants to keep records, but they will conduct an investigation if the party paying support requests it.  But, I think many people don't have faith in the system that it will change anything, if the receipiant can't provide any proof.  Have you seen a judge require someone to keep records?

Yes, if you go to a judge with a resonable reason to request this, ie moms not working but able to go out and party or go on vacations, mom is claiming she cant pay for nessecities even after receiving childsupport. I think people need to have faith in the system, but the system only works if you are willing to put in the time. When my husband went into court because his ex wanted to modify childsupport based on the fact her income went from 2000 a months to 380 cause she quit her job  I spent over 12 hours preparing his documents. When he came out there was no change in support. My ex would simply not pay his childsupport. Yes it took some time but an arrest warrant was issued for his non-payment. I didnt wait until he was months and months behind, the day his childsupport was 30 overdue I would file, you cant put up with crap. I dont do drama, I leave it to the judge.  Many people just simply give up or dont do the research. I happen to be lucky and work where I do and also the fact I am in school to become a family law attorney.  Everyone must remember you have to stay on top of things.  

Melanie - posted on 03/04/2009

Quoting Jamie:If bio mom is a crappy mom take her butt to court and demand records be kept on what the money is being used for, receipts for clothes, groceries, schoo lunches, school supplies

Jaime, can this really be something ordered by a judge if deemed necessary?  I know agencies like DCSE don't require receipiants to keep records, but they will conduct an investigation if the party paying support requests it.  But, I think many people don't have faith in the system that it will change anything, if the receipiant can't provide any proof.  Have you seen a judge require someone to keep records?

Jamie - posted on 03/04/2009

Here is my 2 cents as someone who receives childsupport and my husband pays child support. I also work with the court with regards to child custody issues. I receive a very large amount of childsupport for my daughter I am getting about 700 a month. To some of you this may seem like a lot, however, he is behind over $6000 and my daughter is only 3. Her child care every week is $163. Thats almost all of the childsupport there. I then have to feed, clothe and put a roof over her head, not to mention doctors appointments, dental appointments. My husband on the other hand pays 400 a month for his 6 year old, that he sees once every 3 months, and is current in support. Bio mom recently quit her job and tried to take my husband to court to increase childsupport, there was a 10 dollar difference. There are so many factors that get put into childsupport calculations that many people are unaware of. If you think what you are paying is unfair look into your states childsupport guidelines. I live in Arizona and on the courts website they have a calculator to do the work for you. The charts arent always a good measure since they dont include daycare expenses, heath care costs and deductions for visitations.  Just because a parent isnt working doesnt mean that the child support to be paid will go up in most cases it will go down or it will stay about the same. I would explain why but it might get confusing. So check with your local court system. And dont blame the amount of support on bio mom if its the court that ordered it. Remember most are raising a kid on their own and that child deserves to be taken care if. If bio mom is a crappy mom take her butt to court and demand records be kept on what the money is being used for, receipts for clothes, groceries, schoo lunches, school supplies. Its your money your paying for your child, make sure they get what they need. Do not be afraid to go to the judge and ask for help, thier there to help find the best interest of the child.

Jamie - posted on 03/04/2009

Quoting Jessica:

Crystal, I always thought that my income should never be considered but for some reason they asked so the only reason I think of is to make sure that Madison (our daughter together) had enough money to be taken care of.

 

I just don't know. I'm afraid that they wouldn't do anything to change it.

They shouldnt have asked for your income at all. He gets a credit for having another child when the child support is calculated. They should have only asked if he has any other children. Next time tell them you are not comfortable with giving out that information, and since you are not a party to the case your information isnt needed.

Leah - posted on 03/04/2009

Oh I so totally agree with you! My husbands ex-wife was working a job making $18 per hour and she decided to just up and quit to be a stay at home mom. So of course after that happens she goes and files for child support and gets it, after voluntarily giving up her income! It's crazy! My husband is in the same situation yours is in! Paying his ex to sit on her bottom, while he has to support his boys at her house and at ours. We just had a baby in December together and it is making it impossible to make ends meet. And since all of his wages are going to his ex, that means I have to work and can't stay home so that he can pay her to stay home with her other kids with her new husband! Whew......All I'm saying is I know how it feels!

Shannon - posted on 02/28/2009

I have some good news. My husband has been fighting for joint custody of his kids for over 3 years.  He has been paying the ex $500 a month in child support and like many other stories I have heard, she spent it all at the bar and on herself. Nothing went to the kids. Yesterday my husband and the ex had to go and speak with a mediator and he was awarded joint custody. YEAH!!!!!  We are so happy. This is going to be the best thing for the kids. At least now we won't have to worry so much about them being clothed, cleaned and fed.  So, I guess what I am trying to say is keep up the good fight and keep praying.  It worked for us.

Courtney - posted on 02/28/2009

umm from my understandings they can't take more then 50% of a persons check and thats with medical and taxes included. Look online under your states childsupport guidelines and you should beable to find a table that will show how much you make in a year and how many kids and it will say how much you should be paying in childsupport.

Krystyl - posted on 02/27/2009

Ok, my turn to vent!

I was just woken up by a phone call ( 11pm)... Of course we answered (who would call us so late... it must be an emergency) ... turns out Bio-mom needs a cab home from the bar... ("Oh, shit," *click* [no apology] ) glad to see my SS's Support is well spent (she had just recieved it 7 hours prior) ... that is money that we can no longer afford to pay, so that she can have a lifestyle much more lavish than My own... no to mention it should be spent on him! ... she is at the bar literally every weekend! I'm going to see if we can get away with putting half the payment into an RESP so at least he's getting some of it.

Jessica - posted on 02/26/2009

I am trying to get him to go file for a modification. I think alot of my husband's reasoning for not wanting to is the fact that he feels guilty for leaving SS's mom. With his daughter, it's more of a touchy thing and the child support doesn't bother me for her. Mainly because we don't do all the things that we do for SS. Hopefully that'll change in the future though.

We'll see, thanks for all your wonderful suggestions and being able to let me vent! :)

Shannon - posted on 02/26/2009

Sounds like you may need to file a modification for child support. This way the court will schedule a new hearing and assess a new amount for child support based on his new income. 

Shannon - posted on 02/26/2009

Your story sounds so familiar.  First I think you should check with your state laws. In WV they are not allowed to consider your income in the determining factors of child support, even if you and he have a child together. My husband just recently went back to court for child support and they only used his and hers income and they had to factor in that he has a child with me.  Then child support is based on how many days you get with the children each year, the more days means less money.  His ex brings home $1200 a month from work, $400 annuity payment, receives $600 in food stamps and receives a medical card. My husband is paying $200 a month for insurance for his kids and she still gets a medical card. It makes no since to me.  On top of that he is paying her $500 a month in child support and we are still buying all the kids school clothes, supplies and paying for any school trips because "mommy doesnt have any money".  I swear they should make the exes have to present and itemized list every month showing how the money was spent on the children. She has 2 cars and new clothes all the time. My husband is only bringing home $600 every two weeks after paying her this amount.  This is what we have to try and pay bills with, provide for our 11 mth old son and buy our own groceries. We cant get any help from the state because he makes too much money they say. They dont consider how much he pays her.  It infuriates me.  Good luck!

Crystal - posted on 02/26/2009

Speaking of insane payments.... I just got a letter in the mail today saying that my husband owes $420.70 of back child support! We paid 603.00 last month... that's $204.00 more than we are supposed to pay! But because it comes from both of his jobs aoutmatically, she is getting more while he's on duty. I'm totally pissed off now. To make it even worse, while we're paying child support payments, she and his son are living with HIS PARENTS. They are taking care of his son and his ex. Why are we even paying at this point? She refuses to look for a job!

Krystyl - posted on 02/26/2009

Ugh, My Hubbie's Job just cut his hours down and he's making $250 less / month ....which is how much our support payment is! ... and because Support is based on last year... I really Don't know what we're going to do.... at the end of the month, after bills there is nothing left over, I don't see how were going to pay...

Lori - posted on 02/26/2009

No kidding Leanne. I don't know about you but my parents never spent that kind of money on me as a kid. My husband doesn't pay near that but it still blows my mind. With that kind of money the child could live in their own house with their own car and stll have money to blow. This is totally and completely out of hand. Somebody needs to do something.

Leanne - posted on 02/26/2009

Paying extra child support drives me INSANE.  My husband pays over and above the amount he is required to by law (guilt payment??).  She has a personal trainer and hasn't worked for 5 years.  My step-son is now at school and she is still not working.  We are basically paying alimony.  We now have a 9 month old and I have to go to work and put him in day care, because we can't afford the mortgage, bills etc. and the child support.  Unfortunately if I try to bring this subject up, I get crucified.  What child needs $1800 a MONTH!!!! grrrrrrrrr

Alex - posted on 02/26/2009

im hearing you. my husband pays child support for his 2 daughters ( which i dont have a problem with he should pay it) but we are barely getting by and she is living on easy street she is raking in the money. but what sucks even more is if he does overtime to try and benifit us she ends up getting  more money we can barely pay our bills and she is  off buying plasmas and I HATE IT.......

Lori - posted on 02/25/2009

You go sister!! I don't agree with it either. My husband does the same. My SD lives about 1 1/2 hours away and she comes over every other weekend. We drive both ways. Bio-MOM called and said she can't afford to drive so my husband drives both ways. That is a round trip of 3 hours on a Friday and then 3 hours on a Sunday. Kind of ruins the weekend. It just kind of sucks because up until 3 weeks ago we were living pay check to pay check. We payed off a debt consulodation bill that gives us a little more to work with each month but it really sucks when you are not 100% sure if you are gonna be able to pay your rent. Yeah we rent and she owns a house. How does that makes sense. Anyway.....don't worry didn't offend me.....I AGREE WITH YOU!!

Tara Lee - posted on 02/25/2009

I hope no one takes offence to this, it is just my personal experiance...I don't agree with how much fathers have to pay in child support and I don't agree at all in spousal support.  I watched my own father struggle to support us, while my mom and step-dad made 4 times the money he did. He has had to work so hard for nothing, we didn't get any extras.

Also, my husband has had to pay CS for my SS and SD. AND if the kids needed anything, we would still pay for it, PLUS school clothes, winter clothes, if the were in any activities we paid half.  While bio-mom makes more money then US put together ! Not to mention, her live-in bf makes more than HER. They don't need support. Did I mention, she took the kids and moved 4 hrs away. Sure my husband can see them whenever he likes, but how can he afford to take time off and then afford to travel to see them ?? How is this fair ??

I know having children is expensive, I have one of my own, however, it doesn't cost that much more, that fathers have to pay 50 - 65 % of thier wages. They have to live too. We got custody of SS about 5 years ago and SS 1 1/2 years ago. We never got a penny from bio-mom and there wasn't much differance(more money for groceries).  We still have to pay the utilities and morgage wheather they are with us or not. And now they actually get MORE then when we were paying support because that extra money is there for them and not spent to pay thier bio-moms bills.

Sorry, this is a VERY touchy subject around here. I didn't mean to preach. Anyway, this is just my opinion. Again, I don't mean to offend anyone.

Jessica - posted on 02/24/2009

Heather B, no offense taken! I understand how much it takes to raise a child these days, I have one of my own. Paying child for SS is what irks me because we buy his school clothes, pay for half of activity stuff, carry insurance on him and then on top of all that, child support.  My husband's daughter on the other hand, her mother pays for everything so yes she should get child support. And on top of this SS's mom makes probably twice then what we do together. That's where I have an issue.

Sherri - posted on 02/24/2009

the bottom line is that the courts - sounds like the US in no different than Canada - always victimize the mother - regardless of the circumstances of the divorce, and force fathers to pay for children that they often have limited access to.  Its up to us second wives and stepmoms to band together and demand that our husbands get treated fairly by the system that is supposed to protect the children!

Heather - posted on 02/24/2009

This is a tough one.....I get almost nothing in CS from my ex and no spousal support (I never asked, don't agree with it personally). But I have had complaints from his new wife about the little bit that I do receive. No offense meant, but in my personal case, I feel like she knew he had responsibilities to his children when she started up with him, so T.F.B! How much does she think it costs to raise children these days?????

Lori - posted on 02/24/2009

Holy Crap!! That is a lot of money in child support. I know how you feel. It just isn't fair that your kids have to suffer for the sake of another. I always feel like my two sons have to go with less because my husband pays child support and not to mention spend just as much money on his daughter as he does our boys. Weather it is birthdays, christmas, or whatever. Hope things start to get easier for you.

Kim - posted on 02/20/2009

My hubby doesn't pay that much in cs because he didn't make that much when the order was finalized. He hasn't gotten any raises over the last 4 yrs either. His ex came after us for more money this last year but with the economy being this bad he didn't work much. He was on unemployment most of last year. So when we did the worksheet it actually came out that he would have to pay LESS, but he doesn't. He also has 2 other kids (ours) to support and he's the only income earner in the home. Oddly enough, what pisses me off about things, is that we saw how much they make. Even though his ex only makes 8K a year (roughly) as a sub teacher...between her and her husband they make 100K. I mean what the hell is that all about? We barely get by and yet she is such a greedy woman that she wants more. My SS takes private swim lessons, has tons of expensive trip and toys and clothes...so on and so on. I wish there was a way to set up an account so that the cs money is used for ness things...not extras.

Hiedi - posted on 02/20/2009

www.sucessfulstepfamily.com is good web site to go to.

Tara - posted on 02/20/2009

My husband has six kids with his ex wife that he pays for support on. And I knew that coming into the marriage and so I dont put any blame on it because he has to take care of his kids and I am also on the other side because I get support from my ex for my daugther from a previous marriage and it is not near enough to keep up with any thing. But in Ohio they can only take up to 65% of my husbands check which is exactly what they do. We see them every other weekend and at randomn other times so on top of everything we pay for extra groceries that weekend (which is a lot!) and activities and it is hard knowing what we already pay out but it has to be done. However I do think your husband is paying way too much for one child. I would definitely look into that and see what you can do and what the laws are in your state.

Jessica - posted on 02/19/2009

Thanks you guys! I always knew I wasn't alone but none of my friends here have this problem. I'm hoping he'll go file for an amendment soon!