child support (petition)

K - posted on 09/23/2009

Actually where I lived the court intrests was only the first one. Not the other family my husband paid 768.67 for one child.....So you tell me how is it fair exactly?

Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2009

YES!!!!

Diane - posted on 09/22/2009

Not just child support but affordable housing shouldbe based on the net pay not the gross. I receive child support from my son for my grandson. He has to pay for three children that he had before he married. The mother of the children that he is paying for only has custody of oe of his children and she gets more than my mother and I because the judge said she lived below poverty level. She has a man living with her thatmakes $30 a hour we re on social security. He can barely support his family of course his wife has to work.

Mel - posted on 09/20/2009

It depends on how much you are paying. In my case I get like $450 a month. I pay about that just for daycare. then there is just my lil one's groceries. Then diapers and clothes. All my money and all the cs goes to my lil one. But I can see where you are coming from, no you should not have to put your lives on hold but you don't really know where the money is going for sure.



Is the ex working or just depending on CS? Maybe you could just talk to the bio mom about all of it. If you go to her mom to mom and explain what is going on maybe she would take less.

Alex - posted on 09/20/2009

Quoting Mel:

Heck No! How would you feel if the your husband left you and then was only paying for their child based on minimum wage. What you are proposing is not fair to the child. You still have the rest of his income to support your new family. And if he could not afford his current child maybe you should have waited to start a new family.

In reply to ur comments Mel 1 think the child support should get split in half  half going to the mother to help feed, buy clothes etc.. and the other half into a trust fund for the child to recieve when he/she is an adult. i dont think its fair that these dads have to pay out all this money and you see non of it getting spent on the children. As for your statment about him not afording his current 2 children before we started a family what are you saying that we should put our life on hold just because he has to pay his ex for the next 18 yrs?????????

let me guess u are a mother recieving child support for your child.......................................

Tanya - posted on 09/20/2009

your welcome Alex,,,,,,the system has nearly sent us under for 12 years!!!!! and now we dont have to pay anymore (luckily) but to find out that he would only be entitled to $$12 per Fortnight is ridiculous after paying so much to her for so long,, and she is getting as much money as we are each fortnight,,, the system is wrong!!!!
Goodluck with ur petition for all the NEW families out there that are struggling and trying to get ahead but cant because of the system ,,,xx

Alex - posted on 09/20/2009

thanks for your support tanya. I am in Australia.

Tanya - posted on 09/20/2009

I agree,,,,, I am in Australia,,,,,and my Hubby was paying Childsupport to the mother for 2 kids when one of them didnt even live with her,,,,,,,and because it is his word against hers we had to get stat decs. from family and friends stating that one of the SC was not living with her anymore and that we had the SC 22% of the time to which she told child support he wasnt having them at all!and in all the years that he has been paying child support the girls have not seen any of that money
it all goes on her drinking and drug habit,,,so i cant see why if my husbands wage goes up then why should he pay more for her drug habit!
and also just because a paying fathers wage goes up doesn't mean that that automatically makes the cost of raising a child go up does it!
Now situation has changed and the SD that was living with the mum is now living with us,,,, she is bringing in over $ 2000 a F/ night but because it is all benefits and pension the maximum she would have to pay to my husband is $12 a fortnight.....how is that fair,,,,,suddenly it goes from costing 200 a week to raise a 14yo girl to costing 24 dollars a fortnight yeah right!!!!!


I completely agree with you there is no fairness in the system,,,at least not for the paying father!!!!!!!

Jessica - posted on 09/20/2009

sorry but i have to agree with mel. yes it sucks when u are part of the new relationship but maybe he can request a decrease in order to take care of you all. the courts interest are only the child (ren) in question and thats it.

Mel - posted on 09/19/2009

Heck No! How would you feel if the your husband left you and then was only paying for their child based on minimum wage. What you are proposing is not fair to the child. You still have the rest of his income to support your new family. And if he could not afford his current child maybe you should have waited to start a new family.

Jodi - posted on 09/19/2009

I am in Australia, and it depends on how much he is having to pay!!! My ex only has to pay me $165 a month (yep, like that contributes to 1/2 of the expenses of a 12 year old boy), and I don't even get that. Why shouldn't he have to pay more if he is earning more? On the flip side, my brother earns a higher income, and he ends up paying out so much money I don't know how it can be justified to be spend entirely on the children.



We also pay child support to my huband's exes, and I don't think it is very much at all to be supporting his kids. I wouldn't have an issue about paying a percentage of overtime too, as long as I felt it was being spent appropriately on the children.

Jodi - posted on 09/19/2009

Alex, what country are you in?