Jenn - posted on 12/14/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )
Ok, here's the story. My 14 year old step-daughter was given a free plane ticket from her BM to come and visit us for Christmas vacation. She now wants to stay with her bio father (my fiance) and I for Christmas Day but her mother is not willing to budge on the topic and expects her back by the 22nd. Now, the back-story is that my fiance has only ever spent 1 Christmas with her (has always been a "NO!" from BM whenever we asked. So, she wants to be able to spend at least 1 more with us since she's already here. So, thinking that BM would possibly let her this time, she calls and BM proceeds to yell, scream and hang up on her, saying that she's making demands and throwing a tantrum when all she had done was ask. Now the situation at BM's place is that she and her boyfriend are splitting up and they want my SD there for "their last Christmas together" and my SD is in the middle of their break-up pinning her as the one that has to be the referee so as you can see, I can tell why she wants to be with us. Personally, I believe it should be her choice where she wants to be and whom she wants to spend Christmas with. I'm not sure what to do, this is ruining our visit with her and she doesn't want to go home.... Is BM right that she should leave and can't spend her 2nd Christmas with us in 14 years?? Any ideas??