Molly - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
A couple of days ago, my husband and my daughter got into a yelling match. She had taken his clothes out of the dryer and placed them on the table. He became extremely angry and screamed at her. She yelled back... It went on like this until I got out of the shower, put her in her room, and made her apologize for her behavior. He refused to accept her apology and she ended up crying most of the day. This was not the first time they have argued, but I can count on one hand the number of times they have actually yelled at each other in the last 5 years.
My daughter is 15. She is a good kid, does her chores, comes home on time, follows the rules, and is usually well behaved. She is opinionated though and self absorbed in a typical teenage way. For example she will roll her eyes if I tell her to go do her homework, and will talk incessantly about her friends and books she is reading. I look at these as teenaged behaviors, and not particularly offensive. When I asked my husband why he got so angry with her about the laundry, he said that he was SICK of having to deal with her and that she was totally spoiled. He said that he did not like her and couldn't wait till she graduated and went to college. It just about broke my heart.
She isn't spoiled... really. I am a teacher and have been very consistent with her when it comes to discipline. I feel so torn apart... I had no idea that he felt this way about her. They seem to get along well for the most part, and she will give him hugs and tell him she loves him. How can I reconcile this? I am so fiercely protective of my daughter, but love my husband too.