Anna - posted on 09/13/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
some may know my story so far but for those who dont
:- been with hubby for almost 4yrs. he has 9yr old daughter from previous relationship.
we have 3yr old together. SD told me about innappropriate behaviour towards her by a member of the family. it went to court. no one seemed to take the allegation seriously and she remained with BM. BM and her family harrassed me and i moved away from BM and hubby after a member of BMs family hurt my 2yr old in the street.
hubby and i are trying again but decided to cut contact with SD because during court proceedings she said she didnt want to see us.
8months on and we have irregular contact with SD and she keeps saying that her step dad says to her
"if you dont behave im going to rip your head off!" the latest threat being "i really want to pick you up and throw you through a window!"
shes desperate to live with us but hubby doesnt have parental responsibility nor the money to get it.
my predicament being if we notify the authorities, BM will stop us from seeing SD and no one will take this serious and its all been for nothing. BMs boyfriend has a history of violence but we werent aware of this because social services advised BM not to tell anyone when it went to court last time. thats why im afraid of no one taking this seriously.
when i moved away i was a broken woman, now im happy and settled with my family. i really dont want to go through all that s**t again.
i know im being selfish but has anyone got any thoughts?