Do you dread the weekends that your step kid(s) come over?

La - posted on 01/04/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a 5yr old SD and 1 yr old SS that come over every other weekend. I absolutely dread the weekends that they come over. The daughter is rude, very whiny, and spoiled (the son doesn't spend overnights as per the bio mom so he isn't around much). Their dad and I are expecting a baby girl that is due on the 15th and the closer I get to my due date the less I can stand even being in the same room as them. It's gotten to the point that the weekends the kids are here I take on extra hours at work or keep myself bottled up in the bedroom to avoid getting frustrated with them. Does anyone else feel the same?

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I agree its probably the hormones......your not far from your due date. Come on here, vent away! Hang in there. I know how it feels, you aren't alone.

Jennifer - posted on 01/04/2009

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yes,I agree...its probably because you are pregnant. It doesn't mean these feelings won't go away. My SS is 10, and my challenge is that his mother raises him differently than we would have (i.e. let's him get away with everything and doesn't give him any responsibilities)...I remember when I was pregnant, I was MUCH harder on him. For now, blame the hormones...it will get better. (at least they come every other weekend...my SS only comes at Xmas and summer)

La - posted on 01/04/2009

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Thanks for the input. I feel bad that I feel so negatively towards them lately...kind of guilty that I don't feel interested in being around them. I'm hoping that I will be able to attribute theses feelings towards being cranky at the end of my pregnancy and that I will have more patience when I'm not physically tired and uncomfortable

Erin - posted on 01/04/2009

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It probably doesnt help that you are about to have a baby. Your husband and you need to make sure you are on the same page regarding rules, respect towards everyone and maybe not trying to spoil her. Make sure you and your husband are a united front in front of the kids and if you guys disagree make sure you do it out of earshot of the kids. Your husband also needs to make sure that he is spending quality time with the kids with you not around. It is good that you take time for yourself in the bedroom or even out of the house. Im sure it will be alot more stressful (for everyone involved) after the baby is born so make sure you and your husband talk about what can be done to relieve the stress around the house. The most important thing is communication between you and your husband. Keep those lines open. Good Luck.

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